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TTC when everyone else in the world is getting pregnant!

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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 12 August 2012 - 09:41

DH and I have been TTC for about six months now - certainly not a lifetime of trying and I know that some couples struggle for years...

But it seems that everyone I know is getting pregnant! We have a couple of friends here with the cutest little babies, and my best friend last night told me that she's pregnant now too. I couldn't be happier for her and know she will be such an amazing fantastic mother.

And a colleague at work announced this morning that she's pregnant too - again, fantastic news and I'm so pleased for her.

But I can't help but wish it was us! It's not that I don't want others to be pregnant, I just wish that we were too. Argh. Any advice??

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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 16 August 2012 - 06:30
Water Baby, here's the link Hilsbils was mentioning. I was 35 and 38 when I had my kids, and DH was declared subfertile, then infertile, both times. Have a read and good luck to you!! http://www.expatwoman.com/forum/messages.aspx?TopicID=125856
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 12 August 2012 - 13:00
Thanks Water Baby, I hope you have your miracle soon too. The ovulation tests are good (I like the clearblue digital ones, even though they cost a fortune!) and take a bit of the guesswork out of timing - I also do temperature charting which helps confirm that you are ovulating. And HilsBils, I really hope the IVF cycle goes well (have read some of your other threads as think we may end up investigating getting some "assistance" if things don't happen soon). Fingers crossed x
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 12 August 2012 - 12:20
Thanks ladies, wise words indeed! Yes, six months isn't long. I think I'd be okay if I didn't see everyone around us suddenly 'with child'! Really really appreciate your kind words and advice, and will look at a few of those suggestions in detail... And Hannah33 - sending you hugs and crossed fingers for a little one soon too xx
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 12 August 2012 - 11:02
Water baby, it really sucks and is really hard. DH and I have been trying since late 2009 and have seen SO many friends and acquaintances have babies. Some of them have had 2 in the time we've been trying for our first! I am happy for all of them but at the same time feel very sad that it hasn't happened for us. We've had a few breaks from trying due to unrelated medical issues where it wasn't a good idea for me to conceive while being treated. I did get pregnant at one point but then miscarried at 8 weeks. That was just over a year ago so we're hoping that soon we'll have some luck. Try not to stress about it, easier said than done I know! It's easy for it to take over your life xxxxx
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 12 August 2012 - 11:01
Welcome to my world :-) We finally opted for IVF because of my age. There is another thread here called "am i fertile?" and in there I suggested perhaps doing some prelim tests to know exactly what your and Dhs fertility details are. If it comes out normal you can totally relax as it will happen. The three factors affecting women is Thyroid, Insulin and Ovarian reserve (linked to age) and for men is overall sperm count and speed/ motility. Once you know that those 5 factors are normal then you can relax, and if not, you can take some simple meds to balance or correct any of the above. My Dh took a supplement called Proxseed and his test went from low motility to high motility. There is a great thread here somewhere by Verdeque who took charge of her fertility with lots of natural remedies with great success. Dr Ou has a great record in improving fertility over 3 months with acupuncture. A lot of us have used her. Also, do use the ovulation kits as 2 friends of mine got pregnant using them.
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EW GURU
Latest post on 12 August 2012 - 10:06
So hard, I know. Difficult to get it in perspective when you so desperately want to be pregnant. You are doing very well to be so accepting of everyone else's situations too. You are right, 6 months is not long at all. So many couples take over a year to conceive because mainly it's a miracle anyone ever does bearing in mind the window of opportunity. In my case, tried for 10 months for DS1 and 3 years for DS2. Maybe have a break from trying and just enjoy the intimacy with your partner without the pressure of baby-making. It's amazing what can happen when you're not trying. Good luck.
 
 

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