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Diagnosed "missed miscarriage", anyone had the same experience?

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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 27 March 2013 - 12:26

Hi ladies,

Has anyone experience the same thing? What did you do? I was diagnosed last week that my 6 weeks pregnancy (now on 7th week) as missed miscarriage as she's supposed to have a heartbeat by then unfortunately, she didnt and the fetus is quite small. Gestational and yolk sac are perfectly fine and growing well. I was given another week and schedule for the re-scanning tomorrow. I never had/have any pain nor any symptoms of miscarriage except that I had a bleeding (just like first day period yesterday) but nothing anymore when I got to bed and up to now. Though on/off I had some spotting but no need for pads as they're very few. I was hopeful and took another opinion from other hospital, but was advised to wait until 2nd week if nothing improved... I am still hopeful, but if it won't work out, when can I possibly expect to have it naturally as they asked me to just wait or else d&c which I am not comfortable to do... thanks

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EW OLDHAND
Latest post on 09 April 2013 - 23:31
so happy for you julianna :D big hugs!!
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 09 April 2013 - 20:09
I just had one last week! First let me tell you that I am really sorry you are going through this! This is the most traumatic time of my life. I can not go through the day without crying here and there. It was the biggest shock of my life. This was my second pregnancy. I went to my OBGYN at City Hospital. He recommended not to wait and do an d&c. I was so scared that I left my husband with a will and things to do in case I die! The procedure was quick and fast. It was sad afterwards as I still felt pregnant. Like a pp said. I do not recommend for nature taking its course. A friend of mine did and she said that it was the worst day of her life and that she bled a lot and thought she is delivering a full term baby. (She was six weeks). What ever you decide, do what is right for you in your heart. The body will heal fast. The soul will take time! You are not alone. Unfortunately 20% of pregnancies (according to my OBGYN) fail. But there is hope indeed. Just because you had one, does not mean you will have another. This is just nature taking care of things that are not meant to happen. Best of luck!
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 09 April 2013 - 17:23
I was diagnosed with missed miscarriage with my previous pregnancy. Everything was going well, no signs at all - no cramps, bleeding, etc. When I went for my 16th week check up, there was no heartbeat and the baby was measuring 13 weeks. It was the saddest moment of my life. I had a d&c after 2 weeks in City Hospital. Thankfully, I recovered emotionally with the help of my loving DH, family and friends. This happened last May 2011. I was scared to get pregnant again because I was scared that I will have another loss. Then out of the blue, August 2012 I found out I'm pregnant! Now I'm 38 weeks pregnant and will soon deliver my baby boy. My advice would be don't lose hope and I always told myself that everything happens for a reason. That God had other plans for me that time. Don't lose faith!
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 09 April 2013 - 15:37
I had something similar happen to me. my post is 6wks and no foetal pole. We went to doc at 6+2 with spotting, scanned and nothing there! Told it was also a miscarriage. Went back just on sat and there was little baby, chilling. Heart beating strong at 7 weeks. Stay postive and i pray it will work out for you!!! Have the same case as yours HopefulA and truly thanks for the advices... Indeed, God is great!
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 09 April 2013 - 15:36
Thanks a lot, ladies... truly appreciate all your messages to lift my hopeless heart then... Sorry for not being able to reply since my last post, it was really hard and those 3 weeks of waiting, and it kills me... This morning was the "judgement day". Visited my OB and had another scan to see the baby at City Hospital. Brought all my stuff, in case I will be asked for a DC. And to my surprise, "miracles" do really happen - WE SAW HER THIS TIME... and now with the heartbeat too of 182 bpm!!! It's really wonderful and I almost cried (considering she's my 2nd baby now!). Lessons learned, if in case you had a negative result, whether pregnancy or health issues here, make sure to get another option or second opinion. I might lose this baby if I just sticked with Clinic A (where I was diagnosed "missed miscarriage" and wants to put me on DC!)....
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EW OLDHAND
Latest post on 03 April 2013 - 11:52
big hugs to you Juliana. i have been in the same boat so i know how difficult this phase is.mine was the same case first time, no heartbeat at 6 week scan...i actually waited for whole month and consulted at least 4 different docs but all said the same term "missed miscarriage" i didn't had any bleeding and the pregnancy symptoms of nausea continued throughout. so had to get the D&C done rather then waiting of rthe nature to take its course. and i think as ilovewine says its much more traumatic. i was very distraught as already i was advised to concieve soon due to other medical difficulties. but my gynae was very good and steered me away from depression. she said after this i have much more chances of concieving if i loose whatever weight i have put on soon. suffice it to say i devoted my energy to exercises rather then thinking and just after 3 months without any medication i concieved again. recently in dec again the same problem was there but this time i had my ds to distract me. these things are so stressful but you just keep on hoping and everything will be fine for you soon. God bless you dear!
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 02 April 2013 - 10:51
Hi Juliana I just want to wish you all the very best. I dont think anyone who has not been through this kind of anguish (I have several times) when waiting to re-scan can truly understand how abslutely awful you must be feeling right now. It's sad to see so many posts of ladies who have been through such sad experiences. My heart goes out to all. Much luck and hugs. Stay strong and try and stay positive. HopefullA - so very happy for you xxx
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 01 April 2013 - 16:19
I had something similar happen to me. my post is 6wks and no foetal pole. We went to doc at 6+2 with spotting, scanned and nothing there! Told it was also a miscarriage. Went back just on sat and there was little baby, chilling. Heart beating strong at 7 weeks. Stay postive and i pray it will work out for you!!!
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 01 April 2013 - 14:59
I had never heard of this either until after all the hoops we've jumped thru I finally went to the drs to confirm the pregnancy last week thinking I was 10 weeks, sadly not, the sac was there but nothing else. such a cruel trick that your body plays when u still have the signs of pregnancy. maybe it accounts for why I wasnt feeling particularly sick and symptoms were slowly reducing the days proceeding the appt. I really feel your pain its utterly heartbreaking. I was grateful I read the responses below as was nervous of the D&C but waiting naturally seemed more horrific and I wanted closure and to move on. I had the op yesterday and the hospital dr and nurses were fantastic as well as my lovely husband. the dr explained to us that the baby obv wasnt healthy and so its the bodys way of dealing with it, there is nothing at all that you have done or couldve done to prevent it. nonetheless its still very painful thing to hear. I'm trying to stay positive and much research indicates that women generally only endure one of these types of miscarriage and go on to have a successful pregnancy. we got pregnant very easily last time and I'm a believer that it happened for a reason and we are due some good fortune.
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EW GURU
Latest post on 27 March 2013 - 14:29
((HUGS)) I would most definitely recommend waiting another week before giving up hope. Very few women have textbook 28 days cycles, ovulating on day 14 which is what they assume when calculating gestational age from your last period. My missed miscarriage was diagnosed much, much later--12 weeks. In my case, they suspected a molar pregnancy which is very, very serious and therefore I had no choice but to have an emergency D&C the following day. While emotionally traumatic, I didn't find the experience too miserable physically. I was crampy afterwards and took it easy for a few days. No one can guess when you might miscarry on your own if this truly is a miscarriage. It could be within hours or weeks. Just depends on how quickly your body realizes what's going on.
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 27 March 2013 - 12:56
i had 3 missed miscarriages. i had 2 d&cs and with the last miscarriage decided to wait for nature to take its course. till this day i regret doing it. it was very traumatic (and painful). sorry for your loss x
 
 

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