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What should I do with my husband? Advice needed!

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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 23 May 2016 - 23:18
It's disrespectful to you and to your lil one. It shows no decency of a possible father to a child nor a husband for his wife. I would say look to your options, besides your family or a short family stay. I can totally relate to how you feel and it's very painful, lonely and betrayed:( Don't give up on yourself and your lil one by looking to the other side. You've given time, and you've given chances. Wish you lot of strength and faith, since that is what we loose when we get betrayed.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 23 May 2016 - 10:17
Do what is best for you though, make a plan. It could be a year from now that you must wait but in the meantime save money, copy official documents, take pictures. Do what needs to be done in order to get the most from this deceitful husband of yours. They think they control it all, change that!
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 21 May 2016 - 22:55
V simple answer,never stay with this kind of men they never change and u will be wasting ur time and dignity w him . Just leave start a new life w ur son .As the ladies said its also dangerous fir ur health if not fatal sometimes.here there us nit a big chance to get a lot of money out of him to help in expenses but in europe it applies if course . So it all depends.but anyway even without a dime i would leave .good luck and i know what u feel .
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 21 May 2016 - 18:14
I am not a woman speaking from experience but i have seen a marriage in which there is little respect and if you have to even question whether hes lying or not, only you truly know him where we only read what you have written on the forum, you should think more on the sides of a future. of course noone has children to only then divorce the other etc however sometimes people need to fear losing what is important to them to make changes they need to make. I firmly believe most men are polygamists at heart but make sure whatever decision you make your childs life will be better. Your child will watch closely and regardless of what you say your child will most likely pick up that there is no trust or mutual respect if these things continue and you continue to forgive why would we change his behavior if he doesnt have to do much different to get the result he wants? Like i said i am not telling you what to do as noone knows your situation better than you, but maybe seeking help from a professional might help you to make the right choice for you and baby.
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EW OLDHAND
Latest post on 20 May 2016 - 20:44
You know the answer to your questions, and it's only you who will do it. You have the option of ignoring the whole thing and let everything look normal, bear in your mind on the best case scenario you might get STD - Google it- and some of them have no cure, and the possibility of passing the same to your baby too.... Or you can woman up, leave the #%^* and have your independence; you are responsible now with a 5 months old baby, you don't need to live with your parents - you aren't a child - or with anyone else, prepare yourself get cash as much as you can, copies of his property or salary certificate from his work, and evidence on his infidelity, pack light and take necessary stuff to your baby and grab the next flight back home, go to your house - the one you and your husband have- and occupy it and file for divorce on the base of infidelity and demand maintenance for you and your baby.... Or you can divorce him here and take his life, force him to be kicked out of your home and find somewhere else to camp in, for that you need to contact the Sharjah courts or follow the emirate that your residency been issued from, again, if you are going to fight from here; line up your duck in a row, get your passport and your baby with you, and you need evidences about the all his extra activities outside the marriage, you can give it as evidence in the family court... Again it you whom will decide what is your next step... So choose wisely
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 20 May 2016 - 18:47
I ve been married for 6 years now with a 5 months old baby! I saw a message on my husband s phone chatting with a prostitute asking her about her location and agreeing on the price! He even asked if she accepts to do some indecent things that married people don t do! When she said yes! He asked her to send more photos to make sure her picture is real! That s not the first time he has done this! I caught him many times before! And he always swears That he inly text them for fun but he never went to see them! This time I didn t even talk to him about it! N when he tried to do the usual talk! I said that we ve been through this so many times that i have nothing left to say! I really don t believe that he just text them coz I don t see the point if he just asks a couple of questions! It just doesn t make sense! I want to leave for a while but my family are 4 hours flight away! N my baby is too young! I can t even carry all his stuff with me! I never feel comfortable at my parents s house but I feel if I stayed it will just end like every time and he will do it again! I really dono what to do! Should I just take my baby and leave and go through the family hassle? Should i prevent my baby from living in his home? This time I feel I can t even cry!i feel so betrayed specifically that it was a rough time for me with the new born life and he did it this time when i was so fragile and needed him the most! Before i was alone And didn t feel so weak and helpless!
 
 

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