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4 yr old girl bullying my DD who is barely 18 months!

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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 06 February 2011 - 15:14

sometimes shes the sweetest kid playing with my DD, sometimes shes so mean and nasty making my DD cry! Should I tell her mom( shes ben asking y they dont play often like before) or just stop them from playing together cos me and my DD cant handle the kids mood swings! though i shld add here my dd adores her and gets so heartbroken when shes mis treated!

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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 06 February 2011 - 16:09
I think you need to have a frank discussion with the 4 yo's mum. She needs to intervene the next time it happens, if she doesn't, you shouldn't hesitate to be firm but fair to the 4 yo even in front of her mum. If the behaviour doesn't change, than defo stay away, and explain to the mum why you are doing so. <em>edited by Sugarbeach on 06/02/2011</em>
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 06 February 2011 - 15:51
shes my neighbour so its a lil difficult to stay away , if you now wat i mean.keep bumping into each other in the lobby...the mother does tell her child but only once,afterwhich she lets go! says kindness teaches kindness....and im like huh??? the other mothers have other issues with her child like lying or dominating playgroups so i guess im one amongst many parents very agitated with her!
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 06 February 2011 - 15:28
Too big an age gap at this stage. Play with others nearer the same age.
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 06 February 2011 - 15:27
Has the girl's mother witnessed her DD's mean behavior? If neither of you have yet punished the 4 year-old for being mean to the toddler, then it is time to do it.
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EW GURU
Latest post on 06 February 2011 - 15:25
I would talk to the mum and explain so she can do something about it. Is she not around when they play? If not, arrange a play date where the mum stays and sees how her child behaves. If she is horrified and tries to correct the child then there is hope, if she doesn't think her little darling is doing anything wrong even when you point it out, then I would stay away from her. I have a similar problem with my little one, unfortunately the other little girl is her cousin, so difficult. Her cousin can also be really sweet and nice, then the next minute she is snatching things and pushing my LO over and is generally horrid to her. My sister does say something to her daughter but it rarely has any effect. My LO also adores her cousin and just looks kind of sad when she is shoved over, again...
 
 

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