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am i falling for a younger guy?

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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 11 January 2011 - 12:37

i want to cry.
after a shitty end of the year i reconnected with somebody whom i kinda have known for a year or so. i did not expect us to reconnect (we were talking on and off but nothing intense or regular) and sure as hll did not expect us to connect like this. we can talk for hours and hours, he is smart, educated, funny, cute. he seems like a really nice person on top of that all.
and he is 6 years younger than me...if there was just some superficial attraction between us, i would not care, but the more time we spend talking, the more I like him...and hoping he likes me back :P

i just got out of a long relationship and did not ask for this ...what do i do with this guy, what do i do with myself?

ps: he might like me just as a friend (probs would be the best thing to happen) but somehow i dont think guys stay on the phone for hours with a woman they have no interest in. this whole thing freaks me out

anyways, just wanted to let this out, I'll go now and give myself a slap to get out of this state of coma I'm in and hopefully attend some of the million tasks i have on my plate for today
<em>edited by Magyera on 11/01/2011</em>

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EW OLDHAND
Latest post on 12 January 2011 - 06:15
Jeez my mum was 10 years olde than my (step) dad. He's only 8 years older than me and married my mum when I was 15 and being a toy boy was scandalous. Oh and he's the same age as my husband. Age really is only a number. As for him being Arab and people falling flat on the faces etc - I've been married to one for almost 35 years now and the only time I've fallen flat on my face it was nothing to do with my husband. <em>edited by DesertRose1958 on 12/01/2011</em>
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 12 January 2011 - 02:55
I think you should just ask him straight out and weigh his answer. Then you would know if you have a problem on your hands or not. Maybe it could be the end of one kind of relationship or the beginning of another blissful one. Who know!
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 11 January 2011 - 15:13
you should be happy, his libido will last that much longer ;) lol is that a good thing? i'm always batting my husband of with a stick as it ,is and he"s only two weeks younger than me:\:
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EW GURU
Latest post on 11 January 2011 - 15:08
we are just friends and though I'd be disappointed if he suddenly vanished, i would not be devastated. its just that feeling sneaking under my skin that this could turn into something more than we have bargained for. if it does, after several years spent with one man, the idea of another man touching me just scares the sht out of me :) There is an old saying "to get over one you have to get under one"!!!
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EW GURU
Latest post on 11 January 2011 - 15:06
Don't cry - smile!!! At the very least, you have a new friend. At the very most, it could develop into something more that you deserve. Hubby is 12 years younger than me!!! Married 21 years. At least when I start to dribble and can only eat oatmeal, he'll be there to take care of me, and not the other way around. LOL LOL Better be a nanny than a nurse, like Ivana Trump said!! LOL And besides, age is a number..so go for it, you gain a friend or more...good for you!!
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EW GURU
Latest post on 11 January 2011 - 14:49
ps: he might like me just as a friend (probs would be the best thing to happen) but somehow i dont think guys stay on the phone for hours with a woman they have no interest in. this whole thing freaks me out last thing I want to do is to put a damper but there are plenty of guys who will talk on the phone for hours but not be "serious" about the relationship. pls dont rush; best to gaugue seriousness over time before "falling". easier said than done, i know! GOOD LUCK. can understand yr anxiety over the age issue but it really it is just a number.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 11 January 2011 - 14:42
i might be making up excuses for myself...age difference, religion, different background...did I tell you he was Arab (not local)? :) I have a thing for Arab men, but I see so many other women in my shoes falling for them and after that falling flat on their faces...simply because of the different mentality....I'm european and very liberal in many aspects of life. nothing has happened yet and my guess is nothing will for a while. he is not the pushy type at all we are just friends and though I'd be disappointed if he suddenly vanished, i would not be devastated. its just that feeling sneaking under my skin that this could turn into something more than we have bargained for. if it does, after several years spent with one man, the idea of another man touching me just scares the sht out of me :)
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EW GURU
Latest post on 11 January 2011 - 14:30
DH is 10 years younger than me! Age is just a number. Enjoy it for what it is. What will be will be.
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 11 January 2011 - 14:14
What does it matter?
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 11 January 2011 - 14:11
My brothers partner is 10 years old than him. They have been together for 24 years. My nephew is 9 years younger than his wife. They have 3 beautiful boys and have been married for 8 years together for 11. Don't let age be the decider.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 11 January 2011 - 13:26
you should be happy, his libido will last that much longer ;) lol
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 11 January 2011 - 13:21
Six years is nothing. Enjoy enjoying his company and see what happens.
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 11 January 2011 - 13:13
just enjoy it - no need to worry about age difference or where it may lead... take it at face value and see what happens !!
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 11 January 2011 - 13:03
Younger guys are nice....they like older ladies, that is cool. I have always 'gelled' more with younger guys cos I am so immature.....LOL (and yes, I married one too)
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 11 January 2011 - 12:58
Don't cry - smile!!! At the very least, you have a new friend. At the very most, it could develop into something more that you deserve. Hubby is 12 years younger than me!!! Married 21 years. At least when I start to dribble and can only eat oatmeal, he'll be there to take care of me, and not the other way around. LOL
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EW OLDHAND
Latest post on 11 January 2011 - 12:53
6 years is no biggie as long as its between adults, i.e. you're not talking about a 14 y/o :\: I know quite a few people where the woman is 4-6 years older and they're very happy...
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 11 January 2011 - 12:44
Hi love 6 years is no biggie n i dunno about you but I don't connect with people - guys- that easily so when i do i nurture it who cares about age if you see a spark then go for it! and don't look back! If you are 20 and he is 14 then obv that changes things lol
 
 

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