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Annoying & Inconsiderate Things Husbands Have Done Lately!?

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EW OLDHAND
Latest post on 16 April 2013 - 12:09
All these stories make me smile. My DH is in no way perfect (how may of us are?) but on the whole, he is thoughtful. I always get flowers/ gift vouchers/meals out for birthdays, Valentine's day, our anniversary but he doesn't believe in wasting money on bits of cardboard (birthday cards)!! Have only ever had the odd card when we first met and our silver wedding. As we have both retired, he is slowly turning into his dad!! Don't get me wrong, my FIL was a darling but it's his "manyana" attitude to everything! Read mail gets left lying about, unfinished jobs in the house and garden drive me nuts and you should see "his room" which WAS our 4th bedroom and was intended to be where the PC lives and office space for our various voluntary admin roles. It is like a jumble sale!!! Right in the middle of all the chaos are 2 large plastic containers of homemade wine, bubbling and sputtering away!!!! However, after 36 years of marriage and him being a loving DH and dad to our 2 children, I have no real complaint. My mum said to me when I was having a moan about his messy ways. "better a bit of mess than a tidy house and loneliness, cherish him while you still have him" How true!
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 16 April 2013 - 11:52
Oh here's another one. Hubby has a wardrobe with shelves and about 200 t shirts. The maid irons them all and stacks them neatly. Without fail, hubby rummages around for the one he wants (usually something ghastly, more of that later) and creates a huge mess from the neat stack. So when I go in there to put his stuff away it is a disgusting mess! Drives me insane! I soo wish hubby was a snappy dresser or a "reet Bobby Dazzler" as he calls it, but he loves nothing more than wearing what he calls "chav pants" (tracksuit bottoms) from Asda, a nasty t-shirt that says something like "Drink sensibly, don't spill it", most of them have holes and are just awful. I have tried buying smart shorts, deck shoes and polos but he resorts to the awful stuff, whyyyy?? Bobby Dazzler that made me chuckle. I have not heard that in years!
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 16 April 2013 - 11:43
My Not so DH just blamed me of wasting HIS time while he went to get HIS driving Licences renewed! In his defense, I told him what to do, where to go and how much to take cash, BUT i missed telling him he should take a photo with him! I can still hear him shouting: YOU HAVE MISSED UP MY DAY!! Its like, I take care of 110% of our lives! house, kids, work full time , breakfast, lunch AND dinner! and still managed to tell him where EXACTLY he needs to go and where to park his car and which counter he needs to go to to get his licence renewed, i simply assumed he knew he needed a photo! Now, its my fault and i am sure i will hear about this for the rest of the day, if not the whole week! and I will end up doing it for him :"(
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 16 April 2013 - 11:26
What a funny thread :) Has anyone seen the Michael Mcintyre show where he talks about things he does that wind his wife up? It makes me laugh so much because it's SPOT ON, she says - "Michael why have you placed your dirty dish NEXT TO the dishwasher? It's not going to get washed there is it? you might as well put it in the garden!" (my OH does EXACTLY this thinking it's helpful) or "Why are your socks NEXT TO the laundry basket rather than inside?" ugh, my house would be covered in socks if I didnt pick them up. Other than being a messy so and so though I can't really complain, he's very thoughtful, though last night volunteered to make dinner (using the Air Fryer!) and needed to be talked through every single step then left SUCH a mess in the kitchen, it definitely would've been easier to do it myself but bless him, he tries! Baby steps ladies, we can't change them overnight but if we "manage" them correctly they can definitely make small changes :)
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 16 April 2013 - 11:01
Hahaha, I was young and stupid and he was young and stupid. Simple as that. I loved my time with the boyfriend and will always remember the good and bad. My life with my husband, our kids, our adventures ( good and difficult ) are much more special than my birthday week...although the lazer show really was a trip..haha!
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EW GURU
Latest post on 16 April 2013 - 10:44
When I was a teenager I had a boyfriend who gave me a week long birthday one year. He remembered little things I'd talked about. How I wanted a Melissa Etheridge cassette tape, how I really needed to make time to read The Catcher in the Rye, how I'd never been to a laser light shows..etc etc. I just talked about those things and he remembered. He bought me the book, the tape, we went to a laser show. I can't remember the rest. It was the most thought anyone has ever put into anything for me. Looool and you split up why?!?!?! Although it seems like your husband isn't far off!!!
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 16 April 2013 - 10:41
I too, am starting to feel quite smug. I think the worst thing (on inconsiderate) mine has done is to ask me to reheat his dinner when I was sleeping......and since I posted that, we went out for our anniversary meal last night (yes, he remembered and booked a table) and he gave me a diamond ring (I do hate his choice in rings....) and now I am reading about men forgetting mothers day, birthdays etc..... I shall consider myself very lucky indeed. This is nothing to do with culture or nationality, it is all about him caring about what is important to you. Back to the OP, it may seem hilarious now that your DH swept up the broken pieces to the corner to assist you, but in a few years time you may grow to resent this kind of behavior. I suggest that you have a talk with him, and say that you would hope that your children will not adopt these habits.
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 16 April 2013 - 10:28
I feel much the same way. Mine is really good. Although there was one year when I bought him a BBQ and iPod for his birthday. He bought me what I thought was Clinique body wash, turns out it was a Clinique bar of soap. Since then he's been very generous and I've had to tell him to stop with the Jewelery. I'd rather we go on a vacation than spend money on frivolous things. I'm very lucky to have a great guy. My only issue is the snoring! I could cry at night sometimes because I'm so tired. I do not want to sleep in seperate rooms but sadly we seem to be heading that way. It breaks my heart!! My husband snores when he is super tired and I send him packing to the spare room. Otherwise I will be a grumpy cow in the morning and that is not good. We are both happy with this arrangement as he can snore as loud as he wants and I get my sleep. Lol!
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 16 April 2013 - 10:26
I feel much the same way. Mine is really good. Although there was one year when I bought him a BBQ and iPod for his birthday. He bought me what I thought was Clinique body wash, turns out it was a Clinique bar of soap. Since then he's been very generous and I've had to tell him to stop with the Jewelery. I'd rather we go on a vacation than spend money on frivolous things. I'm very lucky to have a great guy. My only issue is the snoring! I could cry at night sometimes because I'm so tired. I do not want to sleep in seperate rooms but sadly we seem to be heading that way. It breaks my heart!! snore strips, and if that fails, surgery!
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 16 April 2013 - 10:25
When I was a teenager I had a boyfriend who gave me a week long birthday one year. He remembered little things I'd talked about. How I wanted a Melissa Etheridge cassette tape, how I really needed to make time to read The Catcher in the Rye, how I'd never been to a laser light shows..etc etc. I just talked about those things and he remembered. He bought me the book, the tape, we went to a laser show. I can't remember the rest. It was the most thought anyone has ever put into anything for me.
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 16 April 2013 - 10:23
Mine seems to have succeeded in never being here for our anniversary. But I recently may have figured out why. Some friends celebrated their anniversary whilst visiting us and his friend asked him when his anniversary was '17th September', I looked at him 'really?', he tried again '18th September?' and again and again until eventually he got to 28th September! So now he knows when it actually is maybe fifth time lucky he can actually be here! I'm being a bit nasty at the moment,wedding anniversary coming up,all he knows is its 'sometime soon ,in may' ,I won't give in and tell him,he could just look at out marriage cert but he hasn't thought of that.so................it will come,he will forget,i will be livid.......Its my own fault. I do love him so :) Pikachu,i would be on the wives annoying habits list,BIG TIME !!!
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 16 April 2013 - 10:21
Omg, i love this thread, i thought i was the only one with a thoughtless husband lol After years of lets downs (while he was my boyfriend) i have given up with hint, i know just demand, its the only way i find he will get up and do something, even if he doesn't follow my requirements. So, first anniversary, i made it very clear i wanted these particular jimmy choo sunglasses....he comes back with a rose FAKE bvlgari sunglasses, thinking i wouldn't realise. Turns out he went into Jimmy Choo and asked for the wrong pair that were too expensive and the ones i wanted were more reasonable....can not believe i lost out because of hislack of memory. My first mothers day came, and i made it clear, its special, its my first....shruged his shoulders and walks out the door. But to my surprise i get a knock on the door and a delivery from Edibles....fruit dipped in chocolate, (my worst kind on treat, as i am super picky with fruit), he thought he was helping me to try more fruit but needless to say he got me something he would enjoy. Turns out they wern't so great and they rotted away lol But its the thought that counts....right???
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 16 April 2013 - 10:18
I feel much the same way. Mine is really good. Although there was one year when I bought him a BBQ and iPod for his birthday. He bought me what I thought was Clinique body wash, turns out it was a Clinique bar of soap. Since then he's been very generous and I've had to tell him to stop with the Jewelery. I'd rather we go on a vacation than spend money on frivolous things. I'm very lucky to have a great guy. My only issue is the snoring! I could cry at night sometimes because I'm so tired. I do not want to sleep in seperate rooms but sadly we seem to be heading that way. It breaks my heart!!
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EW GURU
Latest post on 16 April 2013 - 10:14
Apparently "he didn't know what to get me" for my bday. Mothers day he forgot. But then at Easter, I dropped many hints and got flowers and an abundance of chocolate. Men are just cr@p aren't they. Join the club. Been a mother for 5 years and he has never remembered mothers day at all. :( Never mind, you'll soon be getting the hand made card with bits of things stuck on it and rubbish spelling of "I love you mummy" ....absolutely priceless :)
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 16 April 2013 - 10:11
Apparently "he didn't know what to get me" for my bday. Mothers day he forgot. But then at Easter, I dropped many hints and got flowers and an abundance of chocolate. Men are just cr@p aren't they. Join the club. Been a mother for 5 years and he has never remembered mothers day at all. :(
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EW OLDHAND
Latest post on 16 April 2013 - 10:06
Mine seems to have succeeded in never being here for our anniversary. But I recently may have figured out why. Some friends celebrated their anniversary whilst visiting us and his friend asked him when his anniversary was '17th September', I looked at him 'really?', he tried again '18th September?' and again and again until eventually he got to 28th September! So now he knows when it actually is maybe fifth time lucky he can actually be here!
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EW GURU
Latest post on 16 April 2013 - 10:01
I'm sorry TDB didn't get remembered on Mother's Day, your first one should have been so special :( Reading this thread is making me feel quite smug - mine never forgets birthdays etc and i'm struggling to find anything annoying about him !! Now, somebody start a thread on annoying habits WIVES have and he'll be first in the queue !! lol
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 16 April 2013 - 09:53
Apparently "he didn't know what to get me" for my bday. Mothers day he forgot. But then at Easter, I dropped many hints and got flowers and an abundance of chocolate. Men are just cr@p aren't they. hee hee, count yourself lucky The Dangerous Blonde,at least he knows when your bday is ! we have been together nearly 14 years and he still has no clue !!!
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 16 April 2013 - 09:11
First husband gave me a motor mower and a whipper snipper for our first wedding anniversary: deal breaker!!!!! Stuck it out for five more years - should have read the signs and got out earlier!!!! Hahaha That reminds me of my 1st anniversary gift, a kitchen apron! Needless to say I did not cook him dinner that evening. Clearly the first gift a valid sign of what is to come. Errrm - I got NOTHING for my birthday (30th) not even a card. So I went out a bought a Kitchenaid and gave him the bill. Oh and nothing for Mother's Day either. Charming. Had he forgotten or just ignored that's the point. This thread is very insightful, but seems you are not alone if that's any consolation.
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 16 April 2013 - 07:49
First husband gave me a motor mower and a whipper snipper for our first wedding anniversary: deal breaker!!!!! Stuck it out for five more years - should have read the signs and got out earlier!!!! Hahaha That reminds me of my 1st anniversary gift, a kitchen apron! Needless to say I did not cook him dinner that evening. Clearly the first gift a valid sign of what is to come.
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 16 April 2013 - 07:41
When DH wakes up after a solid 10hrs and announces "I'm so tired" after I've been up 5x with the baby in the night. Bearing in mind we both work full time so it's not like I can nap all day... And the fact that if he finishes something he never ever puts it in the bin so has a collection of 3 empty shower gels by the bath and empty deodorants on the side. But if he finds a new toothpaste or whatever he will open that before the old one is used up - drives me potty. And my biggest bugbear - picky eating!! I try and hide the small bits of veg in our dinner but he will painstakingly pick them all out. He even makes me blend sauces as he doesn't like "lumps" - curry must be silky smooth so I have to remove all the meat bits and then blend the sauce and slide them back in again. It is like being married to a toddler! LoL ,hee hee ,put a little jar of baby food on a plate and watch.....:)
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 15 April 2013 - 21:44
First husband gave me a motor mower and a whipper snipper for our first wedding anniversary: deal breaker!!!!! Stuck it out for five more years - should have read the signs and got out earlier!!!! Hahaha
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 15 April 2013 - 21:39
I don't think I have a thread winner with my gripe, but I can't for the life of me figure out why my husband cannot dial and order groceries. That immediately reminded me of: it's your turn to order. No really, it's your turn. Please don't make me call. PLEASE!! ... from another one of our infamous [url=http://www.expatwoman.com/forum/topic181595-things-you-never-said-til-you-became-an-expat-in-me.aspx?Page=8'>thread[/url'>.
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 15 April 2013 - 20:28
Not iron a hem on a dress! arh! lol
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 15 April 2013 - 20:07
My husband threw up once late at night and when I woke up in the morning, all the vomit was there for me to clean up. He had closed the door so the smell would not permeate the apartment over night. Assuming he wasn't drunk I find it pretty sad that someone thinks it's ok to leave their vomit overnight for someone else to clean up :( And why would you not lift the mattress e was recovering on, rolled him on the floor, informed him that you would be at a 5* hotel for 24 hours. If the apt was not ship shape minus the vomit and smell, you would be staying there and enjoying their hospitality until the apt was fit to come back to...The only vomit I will clean up is mine and/or my childs...certainly not a husband who threw up and left if after a night out. Yes, it was annoying and gross, but my husband was sick and not intoxicated. My husband would not touch alcohol with a barge pole fortunately.
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EW GURU
Latest post on 15 April 2013 - 19:56
Psst Pssst, are you asleep? Oh sorry, no no, dont get up, just tell me if my food is in the fridge. Me: yes, shall I move it to the micro for heating? Him: well, if it is no trouble. Me: of course not. I was just snoring in wait for your summons.. LOL !!
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 15 April 2013 - 19:51
My husband threw up once late at night and when I woke up in the morning, all the vomit was there for me to clean up. He had closed the door so the smell would not permeate the apartment over night. Assuming he wasn't drunk I find it pretty sad that someone thinks it's ok to leave their vomit overnight for someone else to clean up :( And why would you not lift the mattress e was recovering on, rolled him on the floor, informed him that you would be at a 5* hotel for 24 hours. If the apt was not ship shape minus the vomit and smell, you would be staying there and enjoying their hospitality until the apt was fit to come back to...The only vomit I will clean up is mine and/or my childs...certainly not a husband who threw up and left if after a night out.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 15 April 2013 - 19:51
Psst Pssst, are you asleep? Oh sorry, no no, dont get up, just tell me if my food is in the fridge. Me: yes, shall I move it to the micro for heating? Him: well, if it is no trouble. Me: of course not. I was just snoring in wait for your summons..
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 15 April 2013 - 19:43
To quote a poster from before ; "breathing" :-P
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 15 April 2013 - 19:41
I don't think I have a thread winner with my gripe, but I can't for the life of me figure out why my husband cannot dial and order groceries. This is so typical. The other day, he emerged from his office, and said he needs to make an order. Like I am the only one capable of picking up one of the three phones and dialing the grocery store. Basically we need a minimum amount and he wants me to get up, scour the cabinets, and see what we need. "Do we have enough eggs?" he asks, standing in front of the fridge, while I'm trying to work on my laptop. Erm...I don't know. I suppose a mystery which is impossible to solve unless I stop whatever work I'm doing and look. ?? I get up, look, mention 3 things we could use. He looks at me and says, "Ok, could you please call that in?" !??! This is the same guy that will get up and walk to the store to get my feminine items, and text me to make sure he has the right product--or run out at 11pm to get me a Twix when I am having a fit. I just don't get it.
 
 

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