Can I be upset about this?

I dont mind giving her an NOC. Although I am not going to give her time to look for a new job on my dime. I think that is what she kinda wants. She can it do on Fridays if she likes. Nothing has altered in her personal circumstances. In fact she would be much wealthier back home. Her salary would be equivalent to an entry level executive once converted. Sigh. I just need to start looking for a maid, only now I need to find one who will come here and then move back with us in a few months. Thanks ladies.

No you haven't. I have said she has right to choose and also change her mind, but clearly she was no going to tell me till the last minute. That is what is upsetting me as I have been really open with her about the move. Also back home for me is also back home for her so it is not incomprehensible that she might have been ok with it. <em>edited by kcinthecity on 09/02/2011</em>

We hired an older lady housekeeper last year. I spent a lot of time looking for her (she is 40, never been married and mature). She fit into our house very well and was eager to please. She quickly became a part of the family and a valued member in our home. She has been with us since DD arrived and DD loves her and stays with her when I go to work. She does not clean the house, her duties involve taking care of DD when I am at work, feeding her, helping me with her bath and ocassional nappy changes and cooking us dinner. She makes beds, irons and does general tydying which is not much at all. Neither DH nor I are home for lunch. I do groceries and we have an agency maid who does sweeping, mopping, dusting, bathrooms, plants, etc every day. A few months ago DH mentioned we might move back home in 8-10 months. I immediately discussed this with her and her response was "As long as I get the same amount of salary, I will go with you because you are like my family" Her salary converted to our home currency would be extortionate for back home! I agreed because I dont feel like she should be penalized for our decision to move home. I was so keen for her to stay with us because I felt like she was family! Yesterday I mentioned moving back in a couple of months and she went very very quiet. Which usually means that she does when she does not want to do something. I called her out on it and she told me that she is not sure she wants to come with us. I dont mind that, but when was she going to tell me? On moving day? It really made me mad. I know she has the right to change her mind, BUT I have been so upfront with her and she knows it is hard to find good maids back home. The kicker is, her visa is up for renewal next month. I would have gladly paid all the fees even for just two months, but now I am wondering why I should do that? I would rather find another maid bring her here so DD can get to know her and she can be trained and then move back with us. Please dont flame me about the employer and employee relationship. Next time I wont cross that line. I have also noticed that for the last month or two she has stopped coming when I call her and every time my MIL has changed my instructions to her she follows my MIL's instructions and not mine even thought I asked her to request MIL to check with me. Now MIL calls her to ask her how DD is doing every day (really annoys me cause MIL is an annoying, obsessed lunatic). I am really annoyed at the moment. <em>edited by kcinthecity on 09/02/2011</em>