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How do you get Dh on your side?

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EW OLDHAND
Latest post on 16 January 2011 - 10:56

What do you do when you want your DH on your side when it comes to family related issues (and they are not)? I get very frustrated as I think I try to compromise on things but there is a lot of telling us! what we are doing rather then asking (which really gets my back up) I also get annoyed as I think when you have little one's it should be the non tied family members who do the travelling around not us! Grrrr

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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 17 January 2011 - 09:50
Why don't you stay somewhere in the middle of both sets of parents and let them do the travelling to visit. Good luck on what you both decide!! ;)
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 17 January 2011 - 09:43
Have you seen the film My Big Fat Greek Wedding? Apparently the trick to convince your husband is to let him think he came up with the idea first, the idea that you have subtly planted for him to come up with. And then give him a lot of praise for the good idea. Sort of like dealing with kids and dogs, quite simple really. The only thing is timescale... we've worked out that my dad takes 2 years for someone else's good idea to become his brainwave. That's quite some forward planning!
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 16 January 2011 - 14:45
Have you seen the film My Big Fat Greek Wedding? Apparently the trick to convince your husband is to let him think he came up with the idea first, the idea that you have subtly planted for him to come up with. And then give him a lot of praise for the good idea. Sort of like dealing with kids and dogs, quite simple really. If your husband is a responsible and sensible adult you can try the communication/respect/mutual decision strategy but that will only work if both of you function in the that way. Like the idea!!!
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 16 January 2011 - 14:34
Thanks still can't think of anything at the moment that's going to change his mind ;( Just irritated that HE told me that we either go to where he lives or where I do (different ends of the country) not both as we did this before and it ends up costing a lot and I agreed. But now all of a sudden the rules have changed. I offered up another suggestion of meeting but neither he nor the IL took up that idea. Ggrrrr Do what we do - He sees his, I see mine :D. If yours are more fun, you may find him changing his mind!
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EW OLDHAND
Latest post on 16 January 2011 - 14:30
Thanks still can't think of anything at the moment that's going to change his mind ;( Just irritated that HE told me that we either go to where he lives or where I do (different ends of the country) not both as we did this before and it ends up costing a lot and I agreed. But now all of a sudden the rules have changed. I offered up another suggestion of meeting but neither he nor the IL took up that idea. Ggrrrr
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 16 January 2011 - 13:33
Have you seen the film My Big Fat Greek Wedding? Apparently the trick to convince your husband is to let him think he came up with the idea first, the idea that you have subtly planted for him to come up with. And then give him a lot of praise for the good idea. Sort of like dealing with kids and dogs, quite simple really. If your husband is a responsible and sensible adult you can try the communication/respect/mutual decision strategy but that will only work if both of you function in the that way.
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 16 January 2011 - 13:24
What do you do when you want your DH on your side when it comes to family related issues (and they are not)? I get very frustrated as I think I try to compromise on things but there is a lot of telling us! what we are doing rather then asking (which really gets my back up) I also get annoyed as I think when you have little one's it should be the non tied family members who do the travelling around not us! Grrrr It's all about communication, respect and coming to a mutual decision based on both your points of views and wishes. Games should not be involved.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 16 January 2011 - 13:20
We discuss it. I put forward a convincing argument to back up my opinion and DH, who prides himself on being a logical and reasonable man, can't help but agree in the face of my unquestionable rhetoric. If, for whatever reason he doesn't agree, then he has to put forward equally watertight reasons, which may see me agreeing with him, or agreeing to disagree. Having relatives come to us rather than dragging 2 small children around all over the place is a no brainer. We don't even need to have the discussion! Sounds good to me! And if that doesnt work, well, you'd be amazed what the promise of rain after a drought will do :D ETA, of course, that means you need to make the drought happen first :D :D <em>edited by wikkid on 16/01/2011</em>
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 16 January 2011 - 11:31
We discuss it. I put forward a convincing argument to back up my opinion and DH, who prides himself on being a logical and reasonable man, can't help but agree in the face of my unquestionable rhetoric. If, for whatever reason he doesn't agree, then he has to put forward equally watertight reasons, which may see me agreeing with him, or agreeing to disagree. Having relatives come to us rather than dragging 2 small children around all over the place is a no brainer. We don't even need to have the discussion!
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EW OLDHAND
Latest post on 16 January 2011 - 11:05
Thanks :) are you trying to get my post deleted ;)
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 16 January 2011 - 11:03
I can think of two words they start with a B and a J ;) Sorry, don't mean to make light of your situation, all you can do is dicuss your feelings with him.
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EW GURU
Latest post on 16 January 2011 - 10:59
I can think of one way ;)
 
 

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