New Job nerves

Congratulations on your new job! That is incredibly exciting! I am so sorry you have been through this. Unfortunately, these bad situations are more common than people realise, so know that you are not alone in what you have dealt with. Just remember, the actions of your previous boss and collegue, and their behaviour towards you, are NOT your responsibility or your fault. You cannot control other people, however, you have obviously taken control by leaving the environment yourself, so well done! Some people do need counselling to get over bad experiences, so if you are really struggling, you may want to consider that - I know that may seem extreme, but sometimes it is appropriate - depending on the level bullying and how long it continued for. If however, you have only relatively recently left this employment, time, a new professional working environment, and some good experiences once you are actually working there will do you the world of good! This may sound a little odd.. but how about writing a letter (that you don't send) to your ex boss and collegue, giving some example of what they did how it made you feel. Seriously sometimes just writing things out, getting them off your chest can really be helpful. You can either keep the letter or burn it... Then you need to RELAX for the next few days, take advantage of the next few days you have off - while you were looking for a job, that is stressful because you don't know when you will next start.. now you have a start date .. you are effectively on 'holiday' so use the time like you are. Perhaps a short break somewhere, nice walks, perhaps buy yourself something new to wear on your first day - it doesn't have to cost a lot of money, just something that makes you happy, and symbolises a bit of a new start. It is natural to be nervous before you start a new role - but you will be fine. Look forward to a fresh start of working in a new happier environment. Remember, your new boss has chosen YOU from many others to work for them, in a tough market. Clearly you have the skills and experience to do the job, and obviously they 'like' you as well - otherwise you wouldn't have got it. Good luck!

Congratulations on the new job and the very very best of luck. I'm sure it will be fine. The first thing that popped into my head when I read your post was Bach's Rescue Remedy. I'm sure you can get it here. It might be just the thing you need to take the edge off your anxiety. It's worked really well for me in times of stress and irrational worry. I would also try very hard to banish thoughts of your last job and be as positive as possible. Don't let that horrible boss and colleague colour your new experience and expectations. I also think the first week in a new job is an endurance exercise. Get through the first week and the second one feels so much better. FFx

I hear you. Been there. There's no real wisdom in this situation. Sorry u had to go through all that in the past, but that's where u should leave it, in the past! Just tell urself "it can't possibly get any worse than last time around". You survived :) Better times are here. Goodluck ;)