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Not sweet at all!

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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 12 March 2011 - 12:32

I feel so down!
DH doesnt say anything sweet at all :(
nor does he act sweet. :((

what do I do ?
<em>edited by Tweeti on 12/03/2011</em>

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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 28 March 2011 - 13:15
Could I chat with you offboard? something personal. my id is [email protected]
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EW GURU
Latest post on 22 March 2011 - 20:17
Tweeti, going out to the mall with your friends or leaving him to figure it out may not be the solution. You need to offer yourself on a platter.....and make sure the intervals are not weeks.... he is a man (we hope) and his needs are different to yours. LOL got it on the brain you have! But yes, he's not going to be 'sweet' if he's not getting any.Yes on the brain lol.....I just cannot fathom why she cant realise it.
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 22 March 2011 - 20:08
Tweeti, going out to the mall with your friends or leaving him to figure it out may not be the solution. You need to offer yourself on a platter.....and make sure the intervals are not weeks.... he is a man (we hope) and his needs are different to yours. LOL got it on the brain you have! But yes, he's not going to be 'sweet' if he's not getting any.
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EW GURU
Latest post on 22 March 2011 - 19:59
Tweeti, going out to the mall with your friends or leaving him to figure it out may not be the solution. You need to offer yourself on a platter.....and make sure the intervals are not weeks.... he is a man (we hope) and his needs are different to yours.
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 22 March 2011 - 13:27
send him a dirty sms today. he will be ready to talk to you. wouldnt that lead to being "up all night" he might not be game for it coz he travels and might be tired. just do it and your woes will be gone. one night, that is all. iam just not game for it, right now. maybe some other time. LOL QED wats QED? i just meant that imo you have just answered your own question - YOU are not "game for it" which could explain why HE isn't more er ..."sweet"...
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EW GURU
Latest post on 22 March 2011 - 13:21
Tweeti Did not get the impression you want to get pregnant, but you could find yourself pregnant. Think you have been given plenty of good advice. Get on and act on some of it and grow up drop the sweety bit, its in the movies your living a real life. Looking at the two posts you are writing on , you would be better to have it as one as it is all related. Think you could do with some good medical advice and go on the pill as you do not want to find yourself pregnant in your current frame of mind. iam not sure,.....how you got the impression....i want to be pregnant! oh no! not at all......... by sweet talk i did not mean in that direction. is expecting your husband to say "hi honey, how was your day today" when he comes in from work....too much. or if he says..... would you want me to help? ......while iam doing something. i dont want him to sweet talk me to lead me to the "up all night" part. i just want him to talk lovingly to me. DH just walks in from work....says a "hi", i keep expecting him to say something nice. tried talking to him.....i dont know if he forgets. i feel kinda sad....when i keep expecting him to say something nice to me and that doesnt happen. its not that he isnt cheerful he plays with DD, and laughs, and makes her laugh too. so i really dont know....if its the tiredness or if he doesnt feel the urge to talk to me sweetly.
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EW GURU
Latest post on 22 March 2011 - 13:20
Tweeti. give it to him let us know tomorrow afternoon how it went. VP.... been there done that......(a couple of weeks ago)......no effect :( weeks ago?? Crikey girl. I can see the problem from a few miles away.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 22 March 2011 - 13:13
Some men just aren't the lovey dovey types. Ok, well sit down and have a chat with him over a glass of vino and a nice dinner, but DON'T get on his case when he's just walked through the door after work and a long drive. He's probably just stressed and tired, but you can't force him to say sweet things, otherwise it won't mean anything. Men need a gentle steer in the right direction sometimes, they don't realise things on their own, they're a bit dense in that department. edited by Chocs01 on 22/03/2011 i have spoken to him regarding this. i think he tends to forget what i tell him. sigh! i need to get on with my life.....need to focus on other things while ....he takes time to realise.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 22 March 2011 - 13:12
send him a dirty sms today. he will be ready to talk to you. wouldnt that lead to being "up all night" he might not be game for it coz he travels and might be tired. just do it and your woes will be gone. one night, that is all. iam just not game for it, right now. maybe some other time. LOL QED wats QED?
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 22 March 2011 - 13:12
Tweeti. give it to him let us know tomorrow afternoon how it went. VP.... been there done that......(a couple of weeks ago)......no effect :(
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 22 March 2011 - 13:06
send him a dirty sms today. he will be ready to talk to you. wouldnt that lead to being "up all night" he might not be game for it coz he travels and might be tired. just do it and your woes will be gone. one night, that is all. iam just not game for it, right now. maybe some other time. LOL QED
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EW GURU
Latest post on 22 March 2011 - 13:06
Tweeti. give it to him let us know tomorrow afternoon how it went.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 22 March 2011 - 13:05
send him a dirty sms today. he will be ready to talk to you. wouldnt that lead to being "up all night" he might not be game for it coz he travels and might be tired. just do it and your woes will be gone. one night, that is all. iam just not game for it, right now. maybe some other time. LOL
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 22 March 2011 - 13:05
send him a dirty sms today. he will be ready to talk to you. wouldnt that lead to being "up all night" he might not be game for it coz he travels and might be tired. what's wrong with being up all night ? and, again, he's a bloke... they're ALWAYS "game for it"... lol i doubt it :( i don't.. :D
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 22 March 2011 - 13:04
Some men just aren't the lovey dovey types. Ok, well sit down and have a chat with him over a glass of vino and a nice dinner, but DON'T get on his case when he's just walked through the door after work and a long drive. He's probably just stressed and tired, but you can't force him to say sweet things, otherwise it won't mean anything. Men need a gentle steer in the right direction sometimes, they don't realise things on their own, they're a bit dense in that department. <em>edited by Chocs01 on 22/03/2011</em>
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 22 March 2011 - 13:04
send him a dirty sms today. he will be ready to talk to you. wouldnt that lead to being "up all night" he might not be game for it coz he travels and might be tired. what's wrong with being up all night ? and, again, he's a bloke... they're ALWAYS "game for it"... lol i doubt it :(
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EW GURU
Latest post on 22 March 2011 - 13:03
send him a dirty sms today. he will be ready to talk to you. wouldnt that lead to being "up all night" he might not be game for it coz he travels and might be tired. just do it and your woes will be gone. one night, that is all.
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 22 March 2011 - 13:03
send him a dirty sms today. he will be ready to talk to you. wouldnt that lead to being "up all night" he might not be game for it coz he travels and might be tired. what's wrong with being up all night ? and, again, he's a bloke... they're ALWAYS "game for it"... lol
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 22 March 2011 - 13:01
send him a dirty sms today. he will be ready to talk to you. wouldnt that lead to being "up all night" he might not be game for it coz he travels and might be tired.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 22 March 2011 - 13:00
i havent spoken to him regarding this since a while now. left him to realise it on his own. been diverting myself towards other stuffs. heading to malls or meeting up with friends. etc.
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EW GURU
Latest post on 22 March 2011 - 13:00
send him a dirty sms today. he will be ready to talk to you.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 22 March 2011 - 12:59
Well if you keep harping on at him about it, he's just going to get annoyed at you and not bother at all. You can't expect him to be switched on after a long commute and working all day. Just do your thing and leave him alone when he comes in to unwind. If you whine at him like you whine on here, no wonder he's not inclined. i didnt whine i just wanted to talk it out with someone....so posted it on here. what do you think i should be doing.
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 22 March 2011 - 12:53
perhaps you can send him a nice sms before he leaves work.... but do men want to talk sweetly....hello dear, how was your day? may I help with the dishes honey? I think they would prefer an sms saying ....my knickers are off and I am climbing the walls waiting for you. Hahaha oh there goes my tea all over the keyboard!
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EW GURU
Latest post on 22 March 2011 - 12:50
perhaps you can send him a nice sms before he leaves work.... but do men want to talk sweetly....hello dear, how was your day? may I help with the dishes honey? I think they would prefer an sms saying ....my knickers are off and I am climbing the walls waiting for you.
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 22 March 2011 - 12:48
Looking at the two posts you are writing on , you would be better to have it as one as it is all related. Think you could do with some good medical advice and go on the pill as you do not want to find yourself pregnant in your current frame of mind. iam not sure,.....how you got the impression....i want to be pregnant! oh no! not at all......... by sweet talk i did not mean in that direction. is expecting your husband to say "hi honey, how was your day today" when he comes in from work....too much. or if he says..... would you want me to help? ......while iam doing something. i dont want him to sweet talk me to lead me to the "up all night" part. i just want him to talk lovingly to me. DH just walks in from work....says a "hi", i keep expecting him to say something nice. tried talking to him.....i dont know if he forgets. i feel kinda sad....when i keep expecting him to say something nice to me and that doesnt happen. its not that he isnt cheerful he plays with DD, and laughs, and makes her laugh too. so i really dont know....if its the tiredness or if he doesnt feel the urge to talk to me sweetly. He's a bloke..... give him a break !!! lol
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 22 March 2011 - 12:45
Well if you keep harping on at him about it, he's just going to get annoyed at you and not bother at all. You can't expect him to be switched on after a long commute and working all day. Just do your thing and leave him alone when he comes in to unwind. If you whine at him like you whine on here, no wonder he's not inclined.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 22 March 2011 - 12:38
Looking at the two posts you are writing on , you would be better to have it as one as it is all related. Think you could do with some good medical advice and go on the pill as you do not want to find yourself pregnant in your current frame of mind. iam not sure,.....how you got the impression....i want to be pregnant! oh no! not at all......... by sweet talk i did not mean in that direction. is expecting your husband to say "hi honey, how was your day today" when he comes in from work....too much. or if he says..... would you want me to help? ......while iam doing something. i dont want him to sweet talk me to lead me to the "up all night" part. i just want him to talk lovingly to me. DH just walks in from work....says a "hi", i keep expecting him to say something nice. tried talking to him.....i dont know if he forgets. i feel kinda sad....when i keep expecting him to say something nice to me and that doesnt happen. its not that he isnt cheerful he plays with DD, and laughs, and makes her laugh too. so i really dont know....if its the tiredness or if he doesnt feel the urge to talk to me sweetly.
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 21 March 2011 - 17:49
Anyway, I really should not answer this one...I HATE sweet talk, it usually means I will be up all night... yawn yawn TMI, I know Me too...except for the "up all night" part. Really VP, I didn't know you had it in you. ;)
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EW GURU
Latest post on 21 March 2011 - 17:39
Looking at the two posts you are writing on , you would be better to have it as one as it is all related. Think you could do with some good medical advice and go on the pill as you do not want to find yourself pregnant in your current frame of mind. looking after a small child is hard work and tougher when your husband is in ABU Dhabi daily as many of us have had to do with husbands futher a feild for long periods of time and with more than one child. I have read their is a fairy good mother group you might benefit from, maybe someone else could give you the details or look it up yourself. Sorry but I currently don't have the patience to help you and think you need to stop complaining and be constructive and i know that may not help you if your feeling low. Sorry but wish I could help you further. Start with the doctor and fairygod mother group. Good luck and hope you begin to feel better soon.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 21 March 2011 - 17:15
Put yourself in his shoes ! How would you feel with that daily commute ? He needs looking after and stop feeling sorry for yourself, you help him and it will help you both. Life is tough. I feel so down! DH doesnt say anything sweet at all :( nor does he act sweet. :(( what do I do ? edited by Tweeti on 12/03/2011 i so agree with you. it is tiring and stressfull. but is expecting a nice thing to say too much. i stay at home all day with little DD. yes i have friends that i talk to but is that it....... i know commuting is tiring but i dont increase his stress ......and want him to take his own time. but this has been going on for a long time. when i talk to him regarding this. he just smiles....and asks me....what do u want me to say? huh! i feel hurt..... do i need to teach him wat to say? he got this job in AD after the birth of my DD. and has been like this ever since. my DD is 21 months old now. i have heard of men feeling left out after the birth of a little one in the family, as the mother gives all her attention to her little one. but i think it has been the other way around. i have kinda started feeling neglected. when i do talk to him he just doesnt know how to react? and i just cant teach him....what he has to say.
 
 

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