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How did you break the news?

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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 17 August 2011 - 11:59

Hi Ladies!
Looking to tell the fam this weekend, which includes the in-laws in DXB and my fam in Australia.
This is my first pregnancy and I am not awfully close with my in-laws, but come to think of it, it might actually be easier for me to tell them than my own family. I am so nervous but do not want to put it off any longer as it is torturing my adorable husband too much!

So here's the Q: Breaking the news over the phone to my family in Aus seems harder to me and I don't really know how to lead into the conversation.I don't really call the family too much really, we are always instant messaging, facebooking, skyping but not phone calls (modern families eh?). As soon as they get the phone call they will think 'ok what is it' LOL. Especially when i call my brother- maybe i'll just call his wife! Perhaps you all have some suggestions?

TIA!

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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 18 August 2011 - 15:16
it was christmas time when we broke the news and we sent them (my mum, in-laws, sister in laws and bro in laws - coz they are close family and spent xmas together) presents with baby stuff. Actually i got my best friend to go and buy the presents and wrap them. Then put someone's name on each present and then in the main card told them when we were due. Only my MIL forgot about the card sitting on top of her present and they all started opening their presents and the in-laws thought "hmm I think Em gave us the wrong presents". Then about half hour later MIL remembered the card and opened it and went "derrrr they are having a baby!!!" too funny. Wish we could have been there. This time around we are actually going to be in Oz when I reach 12 weeks and I have a scan just before we leave to make sure all is ok. It is my mums 70th birthday whilst we are there and my FIL 60th birthday soon so we are getting scan pictures and giving them their birthday cards together at a dinner we have planned the night after we arrive. Thats how we will find out. How about getting something delivered to them that is babyish or get a friend to take a bottle around to them and say "you'll be needing this soon grandma / grandpa!" then have a skype or phone call with them.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 18 August 2011 - 10:11
Kiwispiers, of course he will be there. No way I will be telling the In-laws on my own! :) Thanks for the suggestions, I think it'll go down similar to the way it did for you Waterbaby ;)
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 17 August 2011 - 19:57
doesn't DH want to be the one to tell his parents? I waited to see mine in person and showed them the scan, took them a minute to click.
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EW OLDHAND
Latest post on 17 August 2011 - 19:34
Telling my parents: Skyped them, general chit chat, told them I think they should look at booking flights to Dubai for October (my due date month), they asked why October in particular, I then displayed my positive home pregnancy test stick in front of the camera! They screamed with joy then my mum started crying with happiness! And..... then I started crying - it was a happy cry moment between us all! :D
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 17 August 2011 - 19:21
I think we said 'umm, we've got some news' and then just blurted it out - we weren't that articulate about it!!
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 17 August 2011 - 15:11
Thanks Wuffles and Lynney! I think it will be the same for me, they will know as soon as I call!! :)
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 17 August 2011 - 14:58
I told my parents & in laws who I don't have the closest relationship with on skype by simply holding up a scan picture. The problem is that skype often has connection problems and cut off the minute I showed my parents and they ended up phoning me. I called my brother and sister though and like you never really call them, we keep in touch other ways so they guessed as soon as I spoke so there really wasn't any lead into the conversation. I am sure both families will be over the moon. Good luck!
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 17 August 2011 - 12:31
I rang my mum and asked if she still had any of my baby things like the shawl my auntie had knitted-and whether they were still good enough to use-she guessed why I was asking immediately-even though we had been trying for children for 8 years and she had pretty much given up on ever being a grandma
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 17 August 2011 - 12:27
It will definately be a phone call! Just not sure how to go about the whole conversation. Maybe it is a silly question and maybe I am overthinking it, but some suggestions might help me out, i think i am just looking for options and alternatives on how to tell family that I might not necessarily be very close with. I am a bit awkward with these kinds of things!
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 17 August 2011 - 12:16
Honestly sparkly, it is big news so I say it warrants a phone call! just get your husband there by your side, make the call to Aus and the in laws and break the ice. I am sure they will be thrilled for you both! Congratulations! x
 
 

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