Need a 2nd opinion urgently!!!! | ExpatWoman.com
 

Need a 2nd opinion urgently!!!!

42
Posts
EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 08 June 2013 - 14:04

Ladies I don't know if you remember I posted a few weeks ago that I went for my first scan and dr said the sac was elongated and there was no baby. I then had a follow up scan at 6+4 and she said oops baby has grown and here's the heartbeat everything is fine. I went for 3rd scan today and I got told baby has grown to 8 weeks but no heartbeat so sorry but you'll have to have procedure to remove. I'm absolutely devastated and have lost all confidence in Dubai mall medical centre, dr sudjata and the sonographer. I just feel she wasn't listening to a word I was saying about the long cycles I have and kept saying I should be 9+4 going by lmp but I don't ovulate till like cd23 or something.

I know I'm clutching at straws but we can't give up on our little baby without at least getting a second opinion. Can someone please please recommend somewhere else to try or another dr who is really switched on as I just don't have any confidence in all the stuff I've been told so far and my heart is breaking in 2 here :( I don't have a clue and don't really have any other mummy friends I can ask.

Xxx

7
Posts
EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 11 June 2013 - 12:46
My doctor asked me to wait for three cycles. I took her advice, waited for three cycles, tried and was pregnant again immediately. A few things that I did during the wait that I would [b'>NOT[/b'> recommend: 1.Search the internet for every small question/doubt I had. Just makes you more anxious and makes you worry. Its better to trust your doctor, since it is a very common procedure. 2.Let the three cycles feel like forever. I know when you're ready to have a baby but can't try is the toughest thing to do but you have to have faith that everything happens for a reason and when the time is right you will have your baby
162
Posts
EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 11 June 2013 - 11:43
So sorry for your loss, I just went thru this too, very very hard to get your head around. I had the d&c at City and was out the same day, few days bleeding and then physically I was fine, obv depends on each person. I try to be a positive person and the way the dr explained a blighted ovum is that its chromosomal, so the baby wasnt going to be healthy and its the bodys way of dealing with it. still heartbreaking tho as I was the same as you, right up unto a few days before I had all the symptoms of pregnancy, tho luckily no morning sickness. My dr said the optimum is waiting 3 months, but at least 1 so your womb can re-line itself, I was also warned that you are extremely fertile after the op, I took this a bit to heart and have since had 2 periods and was pinning myself on it happening right away, so please try not to do that as your putting yourself thru extra stress. I've now tried to get my head to a place why I'm not thinking about it. it happened before without trying so trying to let that happen again. difficult tho when your a fighter and you feel like you want to do something about it! big hugs to you, its a massive shock but you will get thru it. I found this really comforting and gave me hope. when I read lots of forums afterwards I kept seeing the term 'rainbow baby', naively thought people meant mixed race! then someone put this explanation: 'rainbow babies' are the understanding that the beauty of a rainbow does not negate the ravagesof the storm. When a rainbow appears, it does not mean that the storm never happened or that the family is not still dealing with its aftermath. What it means is that something beautiful and full of light has appeared in the midst of the darkness and the clouds. Storm clouds may still loom over but the rainbow provides a counterbalance of colour, energy, and much needed hope.
42
Posts
EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 10 June 2013 - 18:09
Well that was my next question, how long before trying again? I'm booked for the D&C on Wed, should we try again straight away or wait till I have a proper period first? Xxx
7
Posts
EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 10 June 2013 - 12:55
Sorry to hear this Cosmogirl! I had to have a D&C as well last year. It was a short procedure and I was out of the hospital after one night.
30
Posts
EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 10 June 2013 - 08:54
im sorry to hear that.. sending you another hug...
4062
Posts
EW MASTER
Latest post on 09 June 2013 - 20:06
So so sorry Cosmogirl, a hug coming from me too.
849
Posts
EW GURU
Latest post on 09 June 2013 - 17:00
So sorry to hear your news, Cosmogirl. Sending you a big hug.
42
Posts
EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 09 June 2013 - 15:34
Thanks for all your lovely replies it means a lot. I'm just back from American hospital, she done a scan and confirmed no heartbeat. We've decided to go down the route of D&C. I am still experiencing symptoms ie I puked at work this morning plus the natural route could take weeks as I've not had any bleeding recently or anything. We're both devastated but think this is the best decision for us this time. Only thing is she said it can take 3 days to get the insurance approval for the procedure, that seems like a long time?! Xxx
194
Posts
EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 09 June 2013 - 12:19
I am so sorry Cosmogirl. I have been there 3 times and I feel the extreme pain you are going through. For me, things happened naturally and personally, I wouldn't have chosen any other way. It's awful that we have to 'choose' in just a terrible circumstance. I hope things improve for you and have faith in the fact that this little angel will one day be looking down on the baby/babies you have and smiling. Hugs to you! xxx
4062
Posts
EW MASTER
Latest post on 09 June 2013 - 11:54
Meagle, I love your post. Cosmogirl, I'm so sorry for what you are going through and I hope you have better news soon. Nine months ago at 13 weeks pregnant I was told my baby had no chance of survival. He's now a gorgeous 3 month old asleep next to me.
477
Posts
EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 09 June 2013 - 11:11
I'm so so sorry Cosmo - I read your previous thread about the heartbeat and was so happy for you. You must be utterly distraught and my heart goes out to you. I had a miscarriage at 6 weeks and was rushed into surgery straight away to have a D&C, but as the others said, in case there is a slim chance of things working out, you can let nature do its thing. I found the D&C procedure quite traumatic (I won't go into details but I am sure you can imagine) so would have preferred to go home and grieve in private but the Drs ushered me into surgery immediately. Good luck for tomorrow xxxx i had 2 d&c's and 1 natural at home and the latter was terrible. the worst experience of my life. i cannot recommend it. sorry to hear about your loss TDB - i know you have a bundle of joy now - i love happy-endings. OP, good luck with today's appointment. i really hope your dr's findings were wrong. i can also recommend dr george if you want to see someone, he is fantastic x
849
Posts
EW GURU
Latest post on 09 June 2013 - 09:49
Sending you a virtual hug, CosmoGirl! Hoping that you get better news today with your follow up. Regardless of the outcome, today you are pregnant and you love this baby. Having had 5 pregnancies and 2 babies, that is always my mantra throughout the first trimester and anytime I need some reassurance. It reminds me to take one day at a time and to know that everything is out of my control but all I can control is my emotions--I can love my baby regardless of if I will get to hold it in my arms and raise it or not. Welcome to motherhood!
19
Posts
EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 09 June 2013 - 07:04
If you still need an appointment, try to call madcare jbr, there is a good female doctor, her name is Dr. ghada. I wish you the best.
42
Posts
EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 08 June 2013 - 18:24
Thanks ladies, I'll defs keep those recommendations in mind. Just feel so drained and upset, was supposed to be a happy day xxx
345
Posts
EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 08 June 2013 - 18:12
Please call genesis perinatal care clinic and ask for an appt with dr George ASAP - I'm sure he could fit you in before 18 June if you explained the situation. He is excellent. Can also recommend dr yulia at Cooper Clinic. Good luck! ETA just saw you managed to get an appt to see someone tomorrow, fingers crossed for you. <em>edited by KH on 08/06/2013</em>
76
Posts
EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 08 June 2013 - 18:01
Sorry to hear your news. I agree with the other ladies, my friend was told to terminate her baby because they couldn't hear a heartbeat but she didn't believe them, she discharged herself from hospital, went home, rested and she now has a gorgeous 7 year old girl. If you have any doubts, then just let nature take it's cause and see what happens. Hope everything works out.
95
Posts
EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 08 June 2013 - 16:54
Hi Cosmogirl. So sorry that you are going this. I went through something very similar a few years back so I know how heartbreaking it is when you are told that there's no baby or that it isn't developing. Get your second opinion tomorrow, but as Quinn says there's no need to rush to do anything. When I was in a similar situation, I got a second opinion and even though that Dr couldn't see anything at all on the scan (I had a blighted ovum so the embryo had never really developed at all) so that it was VERY unlikely there was a living baby, she said that she would like me to come back again 4-5 days later to be "absolutely sure" before taking any action. In my case sadly the follow up confirmed the bad news and I opted to have a D&C. Fingers crossed for you. X
501
Posts
EW GURU
Latest post on 08 June 2013 - 15:17
Good news, CG and am hoping for the best.
42
Posts
EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 08 June 2013 - 14:55
Thanks Quinn, I really appreciate your help. I had a trawl through some older threads on here and seen a recommendation for Dr Mia Branch at American so have managed to get an appointment with her for tomorrow. I know she can't make the heart start beating agin but I would rather go and see a dr who filled me with confidence xxx
42
Posts
EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 08 June 2013 - 14:21
Thank you Quinn, just called Infinity and can't get an appointment until the 18th of June!! Must be popular. Xxx
501
Posts
EW GURU
Latest post on 08 June 2013 - 14:11
First of all, you don't need to do anything - you can just wait and let nature take it's course. If I were in your shoes, that's what I would do. Sometimes doctors are too quick to intervene when sometimes waiting and seeing is best. If it's not viable, you will eventually miscarry on your own without any help. Second of all, if you want to see a doctor for a second opinion, try Dr Ekaterina Kaloyanova at Infinity. They're open today and might be able to find you a spot. Bon Courage!
 
 

ON EXPATWOMAN TODAY