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Why is my DS so sensitive?

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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 08 February 2012 - 08:24

I am seriously tired of it!

He is 3.5. He doesn't like the smallest of change. Like yesterday his pal in gymnastics class did not turn up and that set him off. He refused to do anything and sat there crying. This morning his bus came to pick him up. Usually he is the only child while being picked up, today he had company and he started crying and didn't want to go.

Any little change and that sets him off! He likes to play with bigger children and elders! He is a bright child but he likes being by himself (my observation as well as his teacher's) He is not mean to any kid, but just doesn't like company! What's wrong with this guy?

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EW OLDHAND
Latest post on 13 February 2012 - 03:36
Thanks ladies for your replies and sorry it took me so long to get back! I forgot all about it! I somehow have a feeling it is all to do with his little brother. JoyceB that is a lovely story and I really hope my DS one day turns out like yours. AussiePup I spoke to his doctor who seconded my thought about his brother. My DS sometimes would make a mockery of us when we praise DS2! We do praise him too but may be he needs a little more of our time. Thanks M for the suggestion. I surely would have a look at the book. It might help me understand my DS more. edited by hiccup on 11/02/2012 I'm sure that your little man will turn out just fine. I am very proud of both DS and DD and one day you'll look back and smile at your concerns. There are bits of me that wishes that I had my freckly faced toddlers back again but they have turned into fine adults so I feel blessed. Enjoy your wee boys while you can fit them onto your lap. One day they will be towering over you and independant :) x
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 11 February 2012 - 23:26
I was starting to get worried when I couldn't find company lol! I remember DS telling a man who he met in our building's lift 'Why are you coming to my home?'.when he stepped out of the lift on the same floor as ours :D LOL
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 11 February 2012 - 23:12
I was starting to get worried when I couldn't find company lol! I remember DS telling a man who he met in our building's lift 'Why are you coming to my home?'.when he stepped out of the lift on the same floor as ours :D
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 11 February 2012 - 22:55
My DD was the same...Now she is 4 and and better.Imagine, in the midlle of night had to pick her up, and go downstairs to use the toilet, as this was the only one she will accept to use and refuse to use the one in her bedroom .Everything had a certain order of action. She will refuse to have playdates, or guests in our home ,she will tell them to get out .It was hard because her sister (18 monts biger) she was cryng because she wants to stay in the park to play and the other she will cry to go home... Things change 180 degree better few monts back when in a Friday morning i bring them both to the park and stay there the whole day.Was a incident in that day, when a litlle boy was very agressive to her and i took her by hand and walk to the mom of the boy to " report" him and the mum force him to appologize .That was the day when my daughter start using the bathroom in her room and from that day she start to smile and be friendly to strangers.She is still has little tantrums if you change the pozition of furniture or other small changes around but she will accept them after like a 10 to 30 min of crying.I remember when she was like 2 and have i was in the Que and she turn to the person behind and ask : '' Why are you fallowing us ? LOL I belive it will help if you go out with him more to the park or playgrounds anywere but not home...
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 11 February 2012 - 22:19
I expected that response ;) But don't think there is anything * wrong* with him! Else, I would know. I trust my instinct with that one. His teacher describes him as an above average child. Though He needs to work on making friends is what she said. Was hoping to see posts where mums said my child is the same! :D. That way we could rant together! P.S. I think he is just being a brat LOL <em>edited by hiccup on 11/02/2012</em>
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 11 February 2012 - 22:10
As u say this may well just be his personality and Im really not trying cause u any undue worry, I am a mother mysel (as well as a special education teacher) and I know how protective we feel about our lo's. Does his behaviour impact on his school life? While all schools follow a daily timetable, there is often unexpected changes to this foe many reasons. Does that upset him? In early years education, socialisation is a huge component of their development, learning to share, co-operate in groups, try to see the world beyond themselves, respect for others etc...How is he doing with this? Has his teacher raised any concerns about this? The hyper sensitivity to change is probably the thing that I would be most concerned about. Do u think maybe there is a possibility he may be on the autistic spectrum ? If u are very worried it might help to see a clinical or behavioral psychologist. It might give u the answers ur looking for and as well as that offer some useful recommendations and ways to make your son feel less threatened by change etc....Best of luck with this, u sound like a great Mom.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 11 February 2012 - 20:59
How is your sons speech ? When he plays , what does he like to do? He has a good vocabulary and can talk stories for hours! He was late in talking though (at 2). He likes to play with me, his dad, cousins and a few selected friends. He likes his wii. Given an option over toys and wii ... He would choose wii. He is very possessive about his brother and everything that belongs to him! I think he is just being a regular cancerian :/:
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 11 February 2012 - 20:32
How is your sons speech ? When he plays , what does he like to do?
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 11 February 2012 - 19:20
Thanks ladies for your replies and sorry it took me so long to get back! I forgot all about it! I somehow have a feeling it is all to do with his little brother. JoyceB that is a lovely story and I really hope my DS one day turns out like yours. AussiePup I spoke to his doctor who seconded my thought about his brother. My DS sometimes would make a mockery of us when we praise DS2! We do praise him too but may be he needs a little more of our time. Thanks M for the suggestion. I surely would have a look at the book. It might help me understand my DS more. <em>edited by hiccup on 11/02/2012</em>
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EW OLDHAND
Latest post on 10 February 2012 - 18:45
My DS was a bit like this as a tot. Fortunately he was well behaved as a child as the least raise of voice from his dad or I and he was off! He wasn't particularly sociable and whinged and cried a lot but we coaxed him through playgroup, school and the 4 sections of Scouts. He always put up a bi of a fight with each new experience. He is now 29, a qualified architect and Scout leader who has taken boys abroad. It is tempting to be too gentle with sensitive children but in my experience both with my own DS and other kids I've dealt with through Guiding, more productive to try and gently chivvy them along where appropriate. No doubt my approach will be regarded as old fashioned and of course,children are all different :)
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 10 February 2012 - 17:06
I saw a book on this topic the other day as I too wondered if my DD is sensitive - might be of help to you? It was in the big bookstore at MOE, don't remember the exact title but it was something along the lines of "The sensitive baby/child/toddler" etc. All the best : )
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 09 February 2012 - 10:34
no real words of wisdom or advice hiccup but I hope that someone has some idea as to what may be going on with him so you can get some piece of mind. Also perhaps you could try a child behaviourists or psychologists here, to see if they can shed some light? It may just be a phase he is going through?? sending cyber hugs.
 
 

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