They say there’s no use crying over spilt milk
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For reasons that are increasingly difficult to understand, society still has a lot of hang ups surrounding crying.
Some see it as a sign of weakness, but holding back tears inhibits a host of benefits that help humans cope. I cry at the end of Lord of the Rings, and it never fails to make me feel better about Frodo leaving the Shire.
Women have to contend with the ‘pretty cry’ – the weird, dainty sobbing so often portrayed on screen that tries to turn tears into an aesthetic – while for men, crying still elicits that skin-crawling, shudder-inducing, day-ruiningly awful phrase, ‘man up’.
Now, researchers have examined in more detail the effects of tears on wellbeing, and why there shouldn’t be any shame in letting them flow…
Best of all, a 2015 study found that after watching Hachi: A Dog’s Tale (in which a dog waits for its owner at a train station for years after the man’s death), a good cry could lift mood to levels above it’s pre-Hachi state.
So crying doesn’t just dull the pain – it can cause a net improvement in wellbeing.