Thanks JoyceB! You must be very proud. :)
edited by BrownEyedGirl on 28/10/2011
I am indeed thank you and I'm sure you are equally proud of your little man. Enjoy him while he is young. He will be a grown man before you know it and away living his own life. :) x
Your DS describes a close friend's DS at that age perfectly. He was also very clumsy in the house, very clingy with his mum, sat and cried in school because he couldn't cope with anything that included fine motor skills etc. He is now 32 and a top biochemist working in research!! My own DS was painfully shy as a wee boy and used to lock himself away in his room for hours playing with lego, drawing pictures of buildings of all things and reading. He did have loads of friends and went right through Scouts. He is now 29, a qualified architect and runs a Scout Troop. Children, and boys in particular develop at very different rates. I'd let him be while keeping an eye too. :)
Thanks very much for all of your replies.
I am noticing huge progress in his learning and his rate of assimilation seems very good. He can read many of the phonic sounds and is blending simple words and recognises many high frequency words of sight. His teacher has moved him down an ability group in reading due to his inability to focus.
I agree about the perils of internet research, but it's so tempting!
The teacher is encouraging him to independently complete tasks when asked, even if it takes him a long time and impacts on other activities. I will ask her to ensure that his breaktimes don't suffer though as movement is so important for boys.
His teacher is a very experienced, mature professional but I take your point about letting him be Sue B. I know he's very little but my concern is that he will become disengaged with school and start to lose esteem if he continues to find it confusing.
I'm very interested to read 'The Way of Boys' - thanks for the suggestion.
I like to think he has a good diet already but I will be extra careful about what he eats (difficult with so many parties!!) and look at introducing some supplements.
Thanks again all.
sometimes we just have to let kids be kids and grow. they grow at different rates and your child is in fs2!!! sounds like he is doing fine....happy kid, leave it alone for abit, let him grow without being labeled.....maybe his teacher needs a bit of education and experience...sounds like a bit of work for a fairy godmother.
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Its not just omega 3's - its Omega 6's as well. It is a very good suggestion. Look up the Oxford Durham study and the Adelaide study for the reasearch findings
I wouldn't panic....is it affecting his learning? it could be many many things...eg dyspraxia, or auditory processing BUT he is still very little - he may just have a developemental lag. I would advise against too much internet research, there is a lot of mis-information on the internet and you could tie yourself into knots. Rather than looking for a name, look at things, strategies that can help with the behaviours.
I would be asking the teacher what she can do, within the class to help with these behaviours.
remember he is still very little - it the states the recommended age for assessment is 7 and in the UK is it 8years I believe (though some professionals will do it earlier).
OT can help with fine motor skills, and I also I believe the organisation skills may be helped with this?
There is a very good book called "the way of boys" that talks about these developemental lags, and how esp in the early years of school they are not developmentally ready for what is being asked of them, there is nothing "wrong" with them, they just have not got "there" yet.
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DS has just started FS2.
He seems to be thriving socially - settling in well, making lots of new friends and talking happyily/enthusiastically about school.
His teacher has expressed concerns about his ability to organise himself, action her instructions/requests and focus/concentrate. She says these behaviours are markedly less good than any of his peers. She also said that his fine motor skills are quite poor. It is only when pushed that he forms letters/numbers well though he creates detailed drawings without prompting which are often good representations.
My own observations of DS are that he can often be a little 'spacey' and easily gets distracted when doing chores but he can sit quietly for relatively long periods. For instance the other day he happily completed a 60 piece puzzle independently. He's utterly engaged when being read to and though he interjects frequently they are all relevant questions/observations/comments about the book.
He certainly isn't hyperactive, though he talks a great deal.
It was really only in the last term of nursery (which was part time) that he started to experience school more formally so education proper is still quite new to him. I suppose this may just be a 'normal' part of development and also down to immaturity (his birthday is March) but I'm worried it might be something more.
Some of the diet and non drug therapies for ADD are interesting and helpful even without the condition so I guess for now I'll look at using some of those approaches and just keep talking to his teacher about progress.
Any input/ideas/experiences welcome.
TIA.