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3 yr old becoming aggressive

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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 05 January 2011 - 19:42

My DD is suddenly becoming very aggressive and sometimes plain rude. It's like we have a battle with everything starting from the ride to nursery. She refuses to do anything I ask her to do. She is always shouting or screaming when talking (although I make her repeat it nicely). She puts her hands on her hips and makes a really angry face when she doesn't get her way. She corrects other people's pronunciation of her friend's names (it's embarrassing for them, for me too). She played out a lot during the school holidays. Sometimes she would scream at her friends and say "I don't like you anymore" and slam the door on their faces. I am really worried!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! She was always very confident and set in her ways. But she was a nice, sympathetic girl. There was no major changes in her life recently except that daddy has to be away every 1.5 months for work/other reasons (he is only away for 2 weeks at a time). She is a daddy's girl but could the absence of her father make such a big difference?? I asked her nursery teacher about her behaviour in school; she said she is fine and happy there.

She is also violent towards her lilttle sis(1 yr old). She quite often says "so and so doesn't like me anymore. I am at the end of my teethers. Please please help. She is becoming a total monster...

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EW GURU
Latest post on 06 January 2011 - 23:51
I don't think it's the violence or even the content [i'>per se[/i'> in the TV programmes. But I know that a number of my friends and colleagues have noticed a difference in their children when they watch and when they don't watch. I don't know if it would make any difference to your daughter, but just another possibility to bear in mind. It could well be as you suggest, that she's reacting to her daddy's absence... *Hugs* and good luck...it's hard trying to figure it all out and do what's best.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 06 January 2011 - 21:39
Thanks a lot ladies for your help. I really made an effort today to be extra nice to her, gave her lots of cuddles. Her behaviour was much better today. Maybe she just wants more love...but it's so difficult to give her all the attention she wants because I have a 1 yr old too (and no maid). She doesn't watch any TV. She watches DVDs, only little einstein and caillou. These has no violent in it whatsoever. Have to restart sticker chart. She can't get over her daddy. She sobs for him every few nights...so maybe that's bothering her a lot. <em>edited by tahm563 on 06/01/2011</em>
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 06 January 2011 - 21:38
Oh, my 3 year old called me "stupid" today. Very sad. He was such a polite boy and now not only very aggressive, but rude. I think it's the TV and sweets (has lots of both). As for the stars, not working, he thinks its silly. He even removes the stars his teacher gives him at school!
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EW GURU
Latest post on 06 January 2011 - 20:27
Yes, there is an awful lot of info to wade through, isn't there. We avoid these: http://www.fedupwithfoodadditives.info/information/additives.htm It is hard at first, but of course if you wanted to try it, just a couple of weeks would be enough to see if it made a difference. The "Southampton Six" are possibly the worst offenders (as in they may afffect the most children): these are artificial colourings which are being phased out in the UK. These are Tartrazine (E102), Quinoline Yellow (E104), Sunset Yellow (E110), Carmoisine (E122), Ponceau 4R (E124) and Allura Red (E129). Sodium Benzoate (E111: a preservative) also featured in the Southampton study and may also be worth avoiding. TV (and video/computer games), as Jumeriah Jane mentions, also has a negative effect on some children's behaviour. Don't know if your daughter watches any, but if she does, it might be worth switching it off for a couple of days to see if it makes any difference. xx <em>edited by BFC on 06/01/2011</em>
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 06 January 2011 - 18:49
Sounds as if she is replicating behaviour from someone, so it is either school or home. Spend quality time playing or doing something nicely, ignore bad behaviour and seperate from you when she kicks off. Up her play to more stimulating challenging play and take away all TV. Also bring in a Star chart, rewarding good behaviour. <em>edited by Jumeriah Jane on 06/01/2011</em>
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 06 January 2011 - 17:12
Thank you BFC. After you said that, I realised she has been having more than usual sugary food last few days. I found the site a bit overloaded with info. From your expertise, can you please tell me what additives I should definitely try to avoid? ANyone else with any other tips I can use? Please help me...
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EW GURU
Latest post on 05 January 2011 - 21:12
It is most likely a developmental stage which she will grow out of with your gentle but firm guidance. One other possibility though is a food intolerance, most commonly to artificial additives (which can be found in the commonest and healthiest of foods) but may also occur to natural food substances. This is the case with our son, whose behavioral issues started to appear at age 3. If you're wanting to look into this, I recommend www.fedupwithfoodadditives.info xx
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 05 January 2011 - 20:53
ANYONE???????????????Gentle bump!!
 
 

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