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8 1/2 month old suddenly chucking a wobbly before naps...

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Latest post on 25 January 2012 - 14:17

Hi ladies,
Wondering if anyone has been through anything similar? A few of you know my DS's sleep history, but in the last 2-3 months he's become a champion sleeper - 12 hours at night at about 3-3.5 hours during the day over 2 naps. During this time he also was happy to be put down awake in his cot for naps and after about 5-10 mins of playing would just go to sleep (sometimes even less). However the last few days he has gone ballistic everytime I've put him down for a nap! He's totally happy and fine while he's up, and happy as larry when he wakes up, but as soon as I pop him down, draw the curtains and walk out he starts to cry and yell and bang his feet up and down :( after 10 mins or so (once for 20 mins with Mummy being a pack of nerves in the other room watching on the video monitor) he goes to sleep and sleeps beautifully. Today I tried staying in there for a few minutes to reassure and pat/shush etc but that only seemed to make him angrier so I just walked out and 10 mins later he was asleep.
Could this be developmental? Am I doing the right thing just trying to ignore it? There doesn't seem to be anything physically wrong with him. He could be teething but I've found that putting some bonjela on or using teething powders makes no difference at all...and he is very happy when he's awake.
Any advice? Not sure how much longer I can take this...I hate hearing him so upset :(
PS - he's still sleeping well at night. Occaisonally wakes but after a few mins finds his dummy and settles back to sleep.

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Latest post on 26 January 2012 - 09:30
well it's a new day and I put him down for his morning nap 10 mins ago...he's almost asleep (been playing a bit) but no crying when I left the room this time thank goodness...hoping this continues!
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Latest post on 25 January 2012 - 19:58
seems to be equal fighting for both...but then when he does get to sleep he sleeps beautifully. Today at the lunch nap it was 10 mins of protesting followed by 2 and a quarter hours sleep and a big smile when he woke up! Before he goes down I generally let him sit in his bouncer for a while, sometimes read to him or let him watch some jim jam with the volume on low (and he generally has a poo then too LOL), so it's nothing too noisy etc. I also give him his cloth and dummy during this time and lately he's taken to flinging it to the floor as if he knows what is coming!! little monkey :) let's see how he goes over the next few days....
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Latest post on 25 January 2012 - 18:13
maybe it is the naps, the last nap often needs the most tweaking but look at whether he is fighting one of them more than the others. Also what activities is he doing right before nap time, are they quite intense, does he have a lot of learning/input to process etc. Of course he still loves you, you are a great mum!
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Latest post on 25 January 2012 - 15:11
thanks for the reply as always kiwi...yeah now that I remember this did happen about 1.5 to 2 months ago and I then had to push his naps a bit later...he was able to stay up for more like 2.5 hours between rather than 2....so could be that or the seperation anxiety. Thing is, he doesn't seem to get anxious if I'm not in the room with him at home, or if I've had to pop out and left him with my good friend upstairs for a wee while. It's tricky to know what to do. The last time he did this we tried patting him to sleep (he would lie there with eyes open) but as soon as we'd take our hands off the protest crying would resume and it seemed better to walk out as he would then settle himself. We always do the same routine before naps - say good bye to whatever we've been doing, or even just goodbye to our cat LOL and I take him in for a snuggle, put him in his bag and draw the curtains. I always tell him it's nap time soon as well for a good 10 mins beforehand. hopefully it's just a phase that will be over soon!! poor wee mite! At least he always has a big smile on his face when he wakes up so I know he still loves mummy! :P
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Latest post on 25 January 2012 - 14:55
yep I think its likely developmental, DS has gone through about 3 of these phases and they seem to last about a week to 10 days each time. basically its a separation anxiety. As far as the ethics of how to deal with it, tricky one as he is still too young to really understand where you go when you leave the room. I've always stayed in the room until he is happy, sometimes that has meant being stuck in his room for 10-20 minutes and sneaking out when he is asleep, he's always gone back to being an easy settler again so in our case a week or so of reassurance was the way to go. It might just be a case of making the whole wind down to sleep a bit slower, spending a little more time in the room before putting him in his bed, staying in the room for a minute or so after you turn the light out etc. ( I could often just say "shush shush" a few times after I turned out the light or even from outside the door and it was enough to reassure him. The other thing it could be is that he is on the verge on dropping a nap or needs a change in timings, with DS this was generally signally more in him being silly (jumping up and down and laughing instead of going off to sleep quickly) but might be the story here too? Sorry if thats not much help, am sure you'll figure out what works best for you.
 
 

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