Can you put on the invitation something like:
Since this will be at xyz place we ask you to not bring siblings, however if you must bring them along its 100AED per child and contact me to arrange...
Surely, Mariana, you drop the child who's going to the party off and go and do something else with their sibling?
Yes, it may be the case if the kids are older.One is 3 and the other 5 . I never let them in their own except school .
Usually i sent a big cake in Thursday to the school along with party bags and order pizza for them.I do another party with selected invites ( family friends, family members) where i know who attends and still I'm prepared for some extra....
I notice in this board how some of the members they mention they live very luxurious and still be very tide when comes to small things ...it may be a culture thing
How odd to even have to discuss it... mine are grown but I would never even have dreamed of delivering both of them to a party that only one had been invited to (mind you I doubt they would have wanted go to the same party but that's another topic entirely). Also find the current trend of providing goodie bags to your guests odd too - whatever happened to bringing a gift for the Birthday girl or boy and not expecting anything in return?
Or have I missed something somewhere?
I wholeheartedly agree, thank goodness mine are grown and flown, I wouldn't be a good mummy in this age!
How odd to even have to discuss it... mine are grown but I would never even have dreamed of delivering both of them to a party that only one had been invited to (mind you I doubt they would have wanted go to the same party but that's another topic entirely). Also find the current trend of providing goodie bags to your guests odd too - whatever happened to bringing a gift for the Birthday girl or boy and not expecting anything in return?
Or have I missed something somewhere?
Times have changed, I think! ;)
In 'my day', you were lucky to take away a piece of birthday cake wrapped in a napkin ... and maybe a small toy of some sort if you'd won pass-the-parcel or musical chairs. The 'every child wins a prize' [or takes home a goody bag'> mentality has infected everything though. :(
Same happened to me last year, invited the whole class, half replied, most of which turned up, majority with siblings in tow and one even had his twin sisters with him!!! Like you say, all expected to be fed and party bags after the event!
Ooh, that would annoy me!
It's like the parents expect you to be their built-in babysitter-cum-entertainer-cum-caterer for the afternoon if they just dump their whole brood off. And how is the host/hostess supposed to ensure there are age-appropriate games etc if there are littlies AND bigger kids in the mix? Selfish, I call it.
I would certainly not feel bad about telling people 'no siblings', but I'd probably couch it in more diplomatic terms eg 'Please understand we have limited space so we cannot cater for brothers and sisters this time around!' or something like that. :)
How odd to even have to discuss it... mine are grown but I would never even have dreamed of delivering both of them to a party that only one had been invited to (mind you I doubt they would have wanted go to the same party but that's another topic entirely). Also find the current trend of providing goodie bags to your guests odd too - whatever happened to bringing a gift for the Birthday girl or boy and not expecting anything in return?
Or have I missed something somewhere?
Isn't this in fact a party to celebrate a child's birthday, where the child invites his / her friends to have fun on their special day. Unless the siblings are friends of the child, do they actually have a place at the party?
(Don't have children but when i had parties as a child it was just my friends)
Thank you so much ladies. I think I will write it because the party will be at a place where I'll be paying minimum 100 dhs per child. If it where at home, I could of course have extra partybags. Last year I had to give girl siblings boy partybags because I ran out of girly bags (many showed up without letting me know!) When they asked for a girl bag, I just had to say, im sorry but I didnt know you where coming so I dont have enough. But I did feel a little bad...
Very rude !
I have 2 kids and it will be impossible to attend with one...what i should do with the other? If you have a certain budget and not prepared to go over i suggest you limit the party to a close group of kids where you fallow up to make certain who attends ....
It really depends how old they are....at DS 5th b-day one mum dropped and went - she explained she needed to be with the other kids - thats fine by me too....
And it is hard to limit the kids in some cases, DS is new in his class, and gets on with most very well, but no real fav's within the class. So I feel it wopuld be rude not to invite everyone (As I can't pick say 5).
If you are not comfortable with it, you can always decline.
I think so....last year I specifically said to people to that siblings were fine, the more the merrier, but I also respect that it may not always be. THough some people may get there noses out of joint - just warning you! I had what turned into a heated discussion with a good friend, over this issue. Her elder daughter had been invited to a party, and it was specifically no siblings. My friend was complaining about this "how do I tell me younger DD she's not invited", my response tell her it's a party for elder DD, and she's not invited (and i am thinking and if she throws a strop put her in time out), anyway got the whole song and dance about younger DD missing out, it's not fair, yada yada yada....not a lot of sympathy from me!!!
Anyway - I would put it politely on the invite, and just be firm, but nice if queried about it.
Hmmm...tough one. I would rather let those with siblings know that if they do bring the siblings along, they will have to pay for them. Say something like, siblings welcome @ xxxdhs per head.
I find it very rude when mothers bring the siblings along and expect them to be catered for. I would never do this. Or if I did I would always offer to pay for the sibling and make it known (to the accompanying sibling) that there will be no party bag for them.
Very rude !
I have 2 kids and it will be impossible to attend with one...what i should do with the other? If you have a certain budget and not prepared to go over i suggest you limit the party to a close group of kids where you fallow up to make certain who attends ....
Personally I think it is rude for people to bring the siblings, but I always cater for it.
I also give out extra goody bags....
BUT, I would think it is ok to just say to the Mom concerned, that you are sorry, you did not prepare goody bags for siblings.
As for the invites....yes, you can write that without it sounding rude, it is your party.
We considered it and then chickened out last minute as thought it would come across as a bit rude, so opted to have extra party bags instead!
It does depend though, if its a party with a limited number of children allowed at a play area or something then I think its only fair to put a no siblings please as there are limited places...
Same happened to me last year, invited the whole class, half replied, most of which turned up, majority with siblings in tow and one even had his twin sisters with him!!! Like you say, all expected to be fed and party bags after the event! I recently received (or rather DD did!) an invite to a party in Safa park, it requested 'no siblings' and I didnt feel offended. Ironically enough it was the woman with the twins!!!