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Can I write "No siblings please" on party invitations?

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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 08 March 2011 - 19:04
If you're not on the invite, then you're not invited! Simple! I wouldn't dream of going ANYWHERE where I wasn't invited!
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 08 March 2011 - 19:01
oh and the whole thing of when in Rome, in this case the Rome is MY party and when at my party do as I do should be the norm. The whole "mix of cultures" thing is just an excuse for bad manners !!! AMEN! NOOOO!!! :\::\: To be continued... second part Thursday
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 08 March 2011 - 18:30
oh and the whole thing of when in Rome, in this case the Rome is MY party and when at my party do as I do should be the norm. The whole "mix of cultures" thing is just an excuse for bad manners !!! AMEN! NOOOO!!! :\::\:
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EW OLDHAND
Latest post on 08 March 2011 - 18:28
oh and the whole thing of when in Rome, in this case the Rome is MY party and when at my party do as I do should be the norm. The whole "mix of cultures" thing is just an excuse for bad manners !!! AMEN!
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 08 March 2011 - 18:25
Back where I come from a child would get a school class invite only, I would stop her off a pick her back up, her sister wasnt never invited, not sure why its so different here, unless it was a family birthday then all the children would be there. You must remind yourself where you are ! As you live in a multicultural environment with kids classmate at school named" third generation kids" being sensitive of mix custom /culture is common sense. Exactly it is a MIX but some sectors seem to think that THEIR wishes /customs are more important than that of the host. Exactly! Mariana.. its not always the way you want or expect it.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 08 March 2011 - 18:03
Back where I come from a child would get a school class invite only, I would stop her off a pick her back up, her sister wasnt never invited, not sure why its so different here, unless it was a family birthday then all the children would be there. You must remind yourself where you are ! As you live in a multicultural environment with kids classmate at school named" third generation kids" being sensitive of mix custom /culture is common sense. Exactly it is a MIX but some sectors seem to think that THEIR wishes /customs are more important than that of the host. Well said
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 08 March 2011 - 17:58
Back where I come from a child would get a school class invite only, I would stop her off a pick her back up, her sister wasnt never invited, not sure why its so different here, unless it was a family birthday then all the children would be there. You must remind yourself where you are ! As you live in a multicultural environment with kids classmate at school named" third generation kids" being sensitive of mix custom /culture is common sense. Exactly it is a MIX but some sectors seem to think that THEIR wishes /customs are more important than that of the host.
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 08 March 2011 - 17:57
And what DO the Romans do at birthday parties?Sorry, but If I'm paying to host a party, I call the shots. Hear, hear. We are all the Romans in our own homes. There is way too much of a cultural mix in this country to 'do as the Romans do'.
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EW GURU
Latest post on 08 March 2011 - 17:47
I can understand if you're having a bday party at your house then it wouldn't matter as you have little munchies etc. Also if the kiddies are around 3 etc. For our little guys the parents and siblings would be invited but those that we mostly invite are from their playgroups so they play with the siblings. However, I would normally ask if it was alright for the sibling to join. Although if it were to say go to the movies etc. I would pay my own way since I don't think its fair for a parent to have to oversee a bunch of children on their own.... and no maid here. If it were at a certain place where you only were allowed certain numbers I would limit it to no siblings again depending on the age group of the kids involved.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 08 March 2011 - 17:44
And what DO the Romans do at birthday parties? Sorry, but If I'm paying to host a party, I call the shots. LOL!
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 08 March 2011 - 17:43
It's up to whoever is throwing the party as to what they want to do. You wouldn't throw a dinner party and allow people to just rock up with loads of mates in tow would you?
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 08 March 2011 - 17:42
And what DO the Romans do at birthday parties? Sorry, but If I'm paying to host a party, I call the shots.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 08 March 2011 - 17:41
Back where I come from a child would get a school class invite only, I would stop her off a pick her back up, her sister wasnt never invited, not sure why its so different here, unless it was a family birthday then all the children would be there. You must remind yourself where you are ! As you live in a multicultural environment with kids classmate at school named" third generation kids" being sensitive of mix custom /culture is common sense. Where I am from the city is filled with people/children from different cultures, religious backgrounds and beliefs, its not just here we have this. Maybe things have changed since my kids were small. When in Rome Do as the Romans Do
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 08 March 2011 - 17:41
Back where I come from a child would get a school class invite only, I would stop her off a pick her back up, her sister wasnt never invited, not sure why its so different here, unless it was a family birthday then all the children would be there. You must remind yourself where you are ! As you live in a multicultural environment with kids classmate at school named" third generation kids" being sensitive of mix custom /culture is common sense. Where I am from the city is filled with people/children from different cultures, religious backgrounds and beliefs, its not just here we have this. Maybe things have changed since my kids were small. When in Rome Do as the Romans Do
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 08 March 2011 - 17:37
Back where I come from a child would get a school class invite only, I would stop her off a pick her back up, her sister wasnt never invited, not sure why its so different here, unless it was a family birthday then all the children would be there. You must remind yourself where you are ! As you live in a multicultural environment with kids classmate at school named" third generation kids" being sensitive of mix custom /culture is common sense. Where I am from the city is filled with people/children from different cultures, religious backgrounds and beliefs, its not just here we have this. Maybe things have changed since my kids were small.
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 08 March 2011 - 17:36
Not wanting to pay for/have to babysit other people's kids has *what* to do with cultural/custom sensitivities?
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 08 March 2011 - 17:32
Back where I come from a child would get a school class invite only, I would stop her off a pick her back up, her sister wasnt never invited, not sure why its so different here, unless it was a family birthday then all the children would be there. You must remind yourself where you are ! As you live in a multicultural environment with kids classmate at school named" third generation kids" being sensitive of mix custom /culture is common sense.
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 08 March 2011 - 17:17
I remember as kids i was never ' allowed ' to go to my siblings friends Bday parties as my mum always said it was rude ! we always used to stay with mum or dad for the couple of hours that the other child was away ! My first year here, I had a bday party for my son, sent the invites and out of the 15 i got 10 yes's and 5 didnt bother. one of the didnt bother lot turned up with her husband, 3 other kids and 2 maids so I had an extra 8 people to accomodate and they were not paid for !!!!!!!! they didnt even come and say hello and wish happy birthday and have a quick chat with me. I saw this strange man walking around and 2 maids and asked one of the other mums who told me who they are !!!!!!! The place ( which shall not be named ) then proceded to charge me almost double because thsi was last minute ! I was livid and had to say something. I went up to the parents and said hello and introduced myself and said that I didnt expect them to be here as they didnt RSVP .. She said she forgot and just rememberd that it was the party. i said its fine but she could have sent me a text as I havnt paid for the extra bodies. to which they ignored me ! I now just send party bags, and cupcakes into school and take my child and his best friends who are regulars at the play dates ( about 4 ) and we go to the pictures and bowling. so much better and the birthday boy is happier as well !
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 08 March 2011 - 17:11
Parties at home are one thing, Irooni, and I wouldn't have a problem at all. I think most people would over-cater and draw up an extra few chairs at the food table without being upset. What I had a problem with was a catered event at a venue. When parents budget for x amount of kids at AED 50/75/100 a head, having 4 or 5 extras - gatecrashers - bumps the budget up. Not wanting to look after kids a maid is supposed to be taking care of so she can sod off around the mall (and have to pay for the privilege!) is not a lack of hospitality. Expecting to foist kids off onto someone else without asking is rude, pure and simple.
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 08 March 2011 - 17:03
Back where I come from a child would get a school class invite only, I would stop her off a pick her back up, her sister wasnt never invited, not sure why its so different here, unless it was a family birthday then all the children would be there.
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 08 March 2011 - 17:00
I had heard this too, many moons ago, yet the Prophet's birthday is a day off. I'm trying to think if we got a day off for Sultan Qaboos' birthday in Oman. There was a street named after his birthday which seems a bit celebratory. Celebrating birthdays is frowned upon by the very religous. They believe that Prophet's birthday is the only birthday to be celebrated. I don't take my children anywhere uninvited, ever! But my home's door is always open to guests. I am never offeneded by siblings attending. Everyone is on about YOUR HOME YOUR RULES and things of the sort...! What about just some plain old hospitality? I am sure there will always be enough food around. Parties at home or away always have loads of leftovers. As far as the return gift goes. Buy the main ones for the invitees but surley we can all afford a couple of extra packets of stickers and sweeties? Its just a child's birthday party for god sake not the Prince's Royal Wedding! <em>edited by Irooni on 08/03/2011</em>
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 08 March 2011 - 16:36
I had heard this too, many moons ago, yet the Prophet's birthday is a day off. I'm trying to think if we got a day off for Sultan Qaboos' birthday in Oman. There was a street named after his birthday which seems a bit celebratory.
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 08 March 2011 - 16:33
I thought it was haram for Muslims to celebrate birthdays. can anyone clarify From what I understand, it is ill-advised but not haram.
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 08 March 2011 - 16:32
I thought it was haram for Muslims to celebrate birthdays. can anyone clarify Not in my house or family.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 08 March 2011 - 16:26
Mariana, I wouldn't leave my 5 year old alone at a party either-even if the hosting parents said it's OK. But, I would not expect them to accomodate a sibling. To the OP, I don't think it's rude if you write "no siblings" on the invites. What IS rude is if someone doesn't RSVP before the RSVP deadline, show up if they didn't RSVP, show up with extra kids that were not invited and show up a half hour or more late to the party. It is about showing RESPECT to my fellow party-giver and realise that she/he's money does not grow on trees(even if they ARE loaded), their time is valuable, I am responsible for my own flesh and blood and someone puts sweat and tears into their kids' parties and really wants them to be a success. Organising my child's party was a nightmare. I had people call me 2 hours before the party to tell me they were coming. Yeah lady, I'll run right out and get extra stuff for you and yours. I don't know about giving someone my last camel. I heard it's not the best situation to be in debt- especially here in the year 2011. Something about JAIL. Besides, if someone tried to give me their last camel, I would not accept it. If someone invites me to a party I do not WANT them to spend extra money on a lot of extra food/party supplies that will be wasted. Hence, I will let them know if I am coming or not. For the people that call me and tell me they are coming to my party, you will be treated very nicely and I will have more than enough food, drinks and party paraphanalia, etc for you. When you throw a party, you invite the number of people you can afford to accomodate-not 10+ the number of invitees. To me, it is simple common courtesy. I just don't get the rest.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 08 March 2011 - 16:24
I thought it was haram for Muslims to celebrate birthdays. can anyone clarify
 
 

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