I got this the other day - my husband missed our sons first ever sports day (not the same as a huge party I know but still sad). It's a terrible shame but I am sure he feels so bad and has no choice. I think companies here are really bad for that kind of thing - they expect you to just drop everything and change all your plans for them. I thought working hours would be better here than in the uk but hubby has never had so little free time. Good luck for the party and maybe rope in a few more friends to help out and I'm sure you'll have more fun!
wuffles - he actually would be a great help to have around. Very organised (did I just say that?!?) and hands on and I do understand his disappointment but I just think it will be a great big mess if I try to change it now, especially with the holidays coming up next week.
Can he compromise and work a partial day? Go in early-change the time of his meeting if he has one etc??? Worl late after the party?
Nope - it's a huge audit. There is no way he cannot be at work.
I suppose I'm just really cross because if I don't change it there is going to be a bad feeling about the party instead of it being fun and exciting leading up to the party.I don't think he will make me feel bad but I will anyway because I know he was looking forward to it and wanted to be there. Well, the decision on my part is made, party plans will not change but I'm really disappointed because this situation was avoidable.
Hard one-guess you can say it is important to have it when granny is there-which won't happen every year-whereas he can be there other years-providing he gets the date right!!! Fingers crossed they speed through thee audit and he gets home early
wuffles - he actually would be a great help to have around. Very organised (did I just say that?!?) and hands on and I do understand his disappointment but I just think it will be a great big mess if I try to change it now, especially with the holidays coming up next week.
Can he compromise and work a partial day? Go in early-change the time of his meeting if he has one etc??? Worl late after the party?
Nope - it's a huge audit. There is no way he cannot be at work.
I suppose I'm just really cross because if I don't change it there is going to be a bad feeling about the party instead of it being fun and exciting leading up to the party.I don't think he will make me feel bad but I will anyway because I know he was looking forward to it and wanted to be there. Well, the decision on my part is made, party plans will not change but I'm really disappointed because this situation was avoidable.
wuffles - he actually would be a great help to have around. Very organised (did I just say that?!?) and hands on and I do understand his disappointment but I just think it will be a great big mess if I try to change it now, especially with the holidays coming up next week.
Can he compromise and work a partial day? Go in early-change the time of his meeting if he has one etc??? Worl late after the party?
sorry...but 50 kids?? Are you mad?
Most of the time yes!
Freckles it's a joint party for 2 kids and I'm sure in Dubai fashion not everyone will make it. Closer to 40 actually attending.
um...actually I would count on there being more than 50 as siblings usually turn up too....good luck!
sorry...but 50 kids?? Are you mad?
Most of the time yes!
Freckles it's a joint party for 2 kids and I'm sure in Dubai fashion not everyone will make it. Closer to 40 actually attending.
wuffles - he actually would be a great help to have around. Very organised (did I just say that?!?) and hands on and I do understand his disappointment but I just think it will be a great big mess if I try to change it now, especially with the holidays coming up next week.
Totally agree janesul, but of course I'm being unreasonable. Sometimes I think men forget that wives are not staff members and we do say no to them!
Izzy, it's a big deal that's why everyone needs to be available on a Saturday so no he can't swap or call in sick.
Aaargh, I know they're his children and the party is for our kids and they would want their dad there but I'm not changing it. He says we should give it some thought and discuss it later!
No way should the party date be changed. I would be firmly digging my heels in if I were you. All those children and their families will have factored in the party when making their weekend plans. In an ideal world, their dad woud be at the party but he can't be. If he somehow insists, then tell hi that he personally has to call every mum on the list and tell them about the rearrangement. Perhaps his memory will improve in future.
Totally agree janesul, but of course I'm being unreasonable. Sometimes I think men forget that wives are not staff members and we do say no to them!
Izzy, it's a big deal that's why everyone needs to be available on a Saturday so no he can't swap or call in sick.
Aaargh, I know they're his children and the party is for our kids and they would want their dad there but I'm not changing it. He says we should give it some thought and discuss it later!
I think you will have to cope without him-would he have been much practical help anyway? Would be a shame for granny to miss the fun.
Oh and I love the idea of having a 'rant' or "I need to vent section' to add to all the others-knew something had been left out of the new line up!!!!!!!:)
It's not reasonable to expect 50 kids and their families to change their plans to accomodate your husband's stuff up.
You'll have to just manage without him. It's his loss. In my experience Dads are not always the best accessory at children's parties anyway ;)
So we've taken 3 weeks to decide on a birthday party date for our children, invited 50 kids for this Saturday and DH has just realised he needs to be at work. Something he knew about for ages but had forgotten about. I just received the phone call asking me to change the date. Not to mention it's the only weekend date granny will be in town for the birthday party.
I think he should just deal with it!
Just realised maybe this is in the wrong section but haven't seen a rant forum and too peeved to care.