I feel like I go thru this almost every night as my daughter will not even try to eat anything other than her 20 standard items.
So do you feed your child something else you know they will eat or just be done with dinner?
Nope, if she doesn't eat what I make for her (which is rare, lol, she loves her food like her Mummy) then she gets nothing else until the next meal time. Tough! I'm such a meany! ;)
I feel like I go thru this almost every night as my daughter will not even try to eat anything other than her 20 standard items.
So do you feed your child something else you know they will eat or just be done with dinner?
my two have a very limited menu...its either spag bol, rice and casserole, chicken and rice or cucumber! I hide secret veg in the things they do like but when I try something a little different (maybe potato instead of rice) and they don't eat it then they don't get anything else. Mummy is not a cafe. In fact I actually went on strike a few months ago and refused to cook for 3 days....didn't make any difference...they just ate bread and cucumber and were perfectly happy!
I feel like I go thru this almost every night as my daughter will not even try to eat anything other than her 20 standard items.
So do you feed your child something else you know they will eat or just be done with dinner?
pffft, beat me. Promised lil miss an ice cream if she finished her vege's and completely forgot...shame eh? Sure she will remember tomorrow and make me pay....
lol...in triplicate! They never forget!
pffft, beat me. Promised lil miss an ice cream if she finished her vege's and completely forgot...shame eh? Sure she will remember tomorrow and make me pay....
I guess that everyone has a different way of parenting and this is my way.
Agreed. I also believe in picking your battles and the food one can end up being a horrendous one for all involved as it's not once a day but 4 or 5 times when it comes to meal time and snack time for little ones. I see the tears are over but next time stay strong again, as you've seen they have a short term memory, particularly when distracted! Your DD obviously eats well, so you know it can be done :)
I don't want to judge or anything; but I don't really like this thing many doing like -eat your food and you get a treat, like the food is bad and when you ate it you get something nice...
The food itself should be the treat.
When my children were 2 they didn't know what smarties were.
At 5 and 7 never had a fizzy drink...and no I'm not a perfect mother.
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I guess that everyone has a different way of parenting and this is my way. I want them to eat their dinner..apart form anything else I didn't cook it just for my own amusement. I don't mind them having treats, chocolate etc (they are kids so I let them be kids) BUT they have them when their behaviour warrants it i.e. finishing their food.
Its just so hard when your little one is crying his eyes out. I can't be 100% certain he actually understands but I think he does! He's stopped now and is happily flooding the downstairs bathroom with water! grrrr...sympathy over little boy!
I don't want to judge or anything; but I don't really like this thing many doing like -eat your food and you get a treat, like the food is bad and when you ate it you get something nice...
The food itself should be the treat.
When my children were 2 they didn't know what smarties were.
At 5 and 7 never had a fizzy drink...and no I'm not a perfect mother.
Freckles, you are being a GOOD Mum!! He needs to learn that he has to eat the good stuff before he has the treat. Stay strong, if you give in now, then it will be waaaay worse next time and you are saving that rod for your own back by standing firm now. My DD is 2.5 too, so I know what you are going through... and sympathise. Buut I look at my sister, who I love dearly, who never stood firm, and now her kids eat nothing but junk! A few temper tantrums and tears at 2.5 will save years bad behaviour later! Take a deep breath (or several, lol) and reiterate that next time, if he eats his food as you asked him to then he will get a treat.
Hugs, Stay strong, do not give in to those oh so sad tears! :)
If you give in and offer smarties you will be reinforcing the behaviour - ie: not eating, and showing that what you say and what you do are totally different. At least ,he knows that you are not just saying something and then doing something different!
Give him lots of cuddles and explain they ate their dinner and that is what the reward was for. Sadly this time he did not eat and so will not be being rewarded. But if he eats tomorrow night he too will get smarties!
Stay strong - you know that what you are doing is beneficial to him in the long term!
It's fine - it's all about consequences, and for some reason boys have to take it to the line before they get the message (sexist comment, I know, but true - at all ages, including 20 :):):))
I know how much that sucks!!
I've had to do it a few times to my 3yr old DS... his crying breaks my heart! But you need to stand by what you said otherwise it is all pointless.
I just give cuddles and say "next time if you eat your food then you'll get a sweetie, next time ok" It doesn't stop the heart breaking sobs but it makes me feel better to be giving hugs.
DD and her friend just ate a huge bowl of pasta and I said that if they do they get a treat. DS (2 1/2) on the other hand ate nothing and I continually told him he wouldn't get any smarties unelss he ate at least some of it.
Now the girls are tucking into their chocolate and my little boy is crying his heart out! I fees bad!!!!
someone tell me its ok or I'll cave in and give him some! Aaargh