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I won't get to say goodbye after all.

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Latest post on 12 July 2011 - 18:41

The saga continues for any of you familiar with my cat dilema. My parents originally promised to keep my cat at home with them until August when I visited, and I was excited about sending him to my cousin at that point, I had it all figured out as of two days ago. Then I was told today that my parents actually already sent him to a new home last week without telling me.

I feel so silly being so emotional about this, but can't help how I feel =( I thought I would at least get the chance to say goodbye.

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Latest post on 13 July 2011 - 00:10
The saga continues for any of you familiar with my cat dilema. My parents originally promised to keep my cat at home with them until August when I visited, and I was excited about sending him to my cousin at that point, I had it all figured out as of two days ago. Then I was told today that my parents actually already sent him to a new home last week without telling me. I feel so silly being so emotional about this, but can't help how I feel =( I thought I would at least get the chance to say goodbye. I am so sorry you didn't get the chance to make these decisions yourself but it does sound like he is with a good person. It does not take long for a person to become a "cat" person. The cat will no doubt teach her how to cope ( we do all live with our cats and not the other way around LOL). Does this lady correspond on the net? if so start a bit of a dialogue with her, giving a bit of guidance as to his likes dislikes etc. his little habits.What food he likes the fact that he is de clawed and how he must stay inside for his own safety etc. I have always found that if I send a foster cat to their new home armed with a list of what they like and don't like habits etc. it helps the new family no end. Ask her to send you updates of his progress and some photos from time to time. You have done all you can to try and sort the problem , but sometimes these things are taken out of our hands for one reason or another. Don't say goodbye say see you later. Big hugs
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Latest post on 12 July 2011 - 20:32
Sorry to hear you didn't get a say-at least your cat isn't too far away when you vsit your parents and you still have your cousin as a back-up if things don't work out. Oh and don't laugh at the idea of cats on leashes-our Burmese cat loved hers and lorded it over all the neighbourhood dogs when we took her out for walks! She would actually fetch her lead and harness when she wanted a walk-mind you I always felt a bit odd talking her out as she attracted loads of attention
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Latest post on 12 July 2011 - 20:05
I will probably try to arrange a visit since it's fairly local. The good thing is I kind of know the lady, and she is a very nice and helpful person. However she is a bit clueless as cats are new to her. She felt bad about leaving my cat indoors and asked my mom if it was a good idea to take him on a walk on a leash for him to 'experience the outdoors'! My cat is declawed thus never goes outside and anything other than a cool air conditioned house and nice leather couch freaks him out! Plus... cats on leashes? Lol. Anyhow at least she is very well meaning. Sigh, well I guess this drama is over as of now. Sorry if my insistent postings on the subject irritated any of you! And for those who have given me advice and empathy, thank you! I must say it really does help being able to come here with questions and problems. =)
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Latest post on 12 July 2011 - 19:22
It's understandable to be upset. A similar thing happened to me when an ex took our cat then had him adopted without telling me. It's not nice. Can you visit him at the new home?
 
 

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