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My husband is frightened of me doing cosmectic surgery/liposuction

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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 28 January 2011 - 11:54
Have you heard of the non-surgical treatment called mesosculpting it is a series of injections in the area that you want to improve and might be just what you are after if you don't want to go down the surgical route
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 27 January 2011 - 21:08
Thanks for all your replies. I would not do the lipo for my husband anyways, so if he would want me to do it, he wouldn't be the right one for me. I want to do it for myself. Ghetto Barbie, what did you think about dr. viel? I hear some positive but also some negative about him...
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 16 January 2011 - 14:56
While I agree with other posters that it's great that your husband loves you the way you are, I don't agree that is a reason not to try to have the body *you* want. If you are really bothered by your belly then I don't see anything wrong with doing something about it. I would choose lipo as a last resort though. Make sure you are eating healthily, not fad 'lose your belly' diets but sustainable, sensible eating. And do as much exercise as you can, something you enjoy.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 16 January 2011 - 10:03
Hello ladies, I would love to do a liposuction. I am not overweight, healthy and would just like to sculpt my body, so technically I am a good candidate. I chose a good surgeon, I would only do IV-sedation and not general anesthesia. But my husband is so scared of me having complications, he says he loves me the way I am and why I am obsessed with looking perfect. I always dreamt of having a good bikini body. What should I do? I know how you feel. I'm a healthy person & have been working out on a regular basis (3-4 x wk) for years but after my 2nd child & 6mths of hard training to try & get rid of the excess baby fat there was was some that I just couldn't. So I opted for lipo & feel great for it. I didn't have much taken out from my stomach but I'm more sculpted now & look much more like I did pre - kids. Had mine done in Dubai with Dr Viel
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 16 January 2011 - 09:40
think back about that doctor who was jailed just recently here as he was pretending to be one from the usa who came over to dubai like 4 times a year.
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EW GURU
Latest post on 16 January 2011 - 09:14
I would have it all done if I could afford it...boob job, bum lift, eye lift, face lift, tummy tuck, liposuction, tooth venneers...but hey its not going to happen so I'm just off to get another piece of toast and marmite
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 16 January 2011 - 09:08
Have to agree with other posters, if your husband loves you and is scared that something might happen to you during surgery why do it? You're a lucky lady and if you're not even overweight I don't see the point and you'll get scars from surgery. If anything you might have low self esteem, is it nothing you can do for that instead? If the belly really bothers you get a personal trainer or do pilates.
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 16 January 2011 - 07:45
lipo can be dangerous and have serious site effects - most notably septicaemia - one woman in the states went into for lipo on her belly and ended up having both legs amputated above the knee....... why not get a personal trainer to target the areas.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 16 January 2011 - 06:59
I'm completely for lipo as long as you have a surgeon you trust, who will give references of other patients, a hospital or clinic with a consistently low infection rate (that is willing to give you that info. in hard #'s), a realistic awareness of the risks and possible complications, a great support system for recovery afterward, and can afford it- why not go for it? BUT and its a big but, if you are planning on having children, wait. Having babies alters your body in serious and unpredictable ways. Good luck!
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 16 January 2011 - 01:11
Also, there are many flattering alternatives to a bikini that would make you feel confident whilst lounging by a pool. Against good health, a husband who thinks you are good just as you are (priceless!) and the spare change to contemplate surgery and suddenly, how you stack up against lovelies by the pool just shouldnt matter, it seems a bit superficial (no offence meant to you). Some bodies age really well, I once saw a woman with a child younger than mine, and absolutely no cellulite, but the shapliest bum and legs ever. Yep I was envious, but what can you do? If you've got it, flaunt it, and if you havent, well, just join the gang that chucks the towel at the last possible second before diving in quickly to get your wobbly bits underwater. I seriously think unless you are famous or in the entertainment industry, and that your livelihood depends in some way on your physical appearance, that surgical enhancement should only be considered by such people, and even then, how much nip/tuck can fight time? I hope you get out again poolside, with a flattering new swimsuit on, AND with all your lumps and bumps, and that lovely husband of yours, without a care in the world just as you should be.
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 15 January 2011 - 22:45
People change one thing and then another. People are never happy the way they are. If you are loved as you are, you are very lucky. Never change.:)
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 15 January 2011 - 22:43
My dear mum always said to me, no need to adjust a minor inconvenience concentrate on the total picture. She would have been 90 now but I always remember her words. Friends of mine did the laser surgery years ago so they didn't have the inconvenience of needing reading glasses. Unfortunately because they did the laser they are suffering now. They are loosing sight rapidly and no operation is possible because they destroyed that by having the laser treatment. Short term results are great, but you have to think long term.
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EW GURU
Latest post on 15 January 2011 - 22:21
I often see gorgeous moms on the pool, they have one or two kids and slim, flat bellies. I do have a fat belly and I do not even have kids yet!, my husband knows that my body is not great, [b'>he just loves me the way I am.[/b'> I am not overdoing it, I really just have a quite average body, and I would loooove to go from average to good. What a lovely husband you have! If you haven't had children yet (and I gather from the way you have said it, then you plan to have them in the future?), then why have surgery?! Save your money, wait until you have had the children. Exercise in the meantime, a personal trainer will make a world of difference, honestly, and then (and only then) when the child bearing is done, maybe think about doing something about it, but trust me - no point now, lol!! Besides you do know, that this type of surgery can go wrong too - you may end up looking lumpy and far worse than you do now, no matter how good the surgeon is - nothing is guaranteed. Try assisted exercise first, please?
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EW GURU
Latest post on 15 January 2011 - 22:07
my husband knows that my body is not great, he just loves me the way I am. And there is your answer ;) Rather a man who loves you the way you are, than trying to get you to change and be "someone" else and compare you to those "skinny" women that hang around the pool! Be proud that you have such a wonderful husband ;)
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 15 January 2011 - 22:06
If you are healthy and not overweight then I am at a loss as to why you would contemplate any kind of surgery. What is wrong with exercise or going to the gym? I think you should listen to your husband or maybe get counselling as to why you think you are so imperfect when he finds you perfect. yes i agree there is no need to have any sort of operation unless its necessary for medical reasons, my son has had so many medical ops in his first year of life that were necessary to save his life that just because you may not look like you want doesnt mean to say that you have to re-arrange bits of you. shows a low level of confidence/self esteem issues to me which surely must be sorted out and not under a surgeons knife.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 15 January 2011 - 22:01
I often see gorgeous moms on the pool, they have one or two kids and slim, flat bellies. I do have a fat belly and I do not even have kids yet!, my husband knows that my body is not great, he just loves me the way I am. I am not overdoing it, I really just have a quite average body, and I would loooove to go from average to good.
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EW GURU
Latest post on 15 January 2011 - 21:31
Just my opinion but.... You should listen to your husband. I am sure you are just being overly self-critical. Maybe use the money on a personal trainer to help with your stubborn area. Accept your imperfections, we all have them, and learn to love yourself as you are, I am sure you are gorgeous just as you are!
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 15 January 2011 - 21:26
Liposuction is not good for people who are overweight, but for people that tried to get rid of fat cells on their body with exercise and healthy died and it did not work. I have a very stubborn and large belly, because I have many fat cells there and I hate that I cannot wear certain clothes and frankly I do not look good in a bikini.
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EW GURU
Latest post on 15 January 2011 - 21:22
If you are healthy and not overweight then I am at a loss as to why you would contemplate any kind of surgery. What is wrong with exercise or going to the gym? I think you should listen to your husband or maybe get counselling as to why you think you are so imperfect when he finds you perfect.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 15 January 2011 - 21:20
Hello ladies, I would love to do a liposuction. I am not overweight, healthy and would just like to sculpt my body, so technically I am a good candidate. I chose a good surgeon, I would only do IV-sedation and not general anesthesia. But my husband is so scared of me having complications, he says he loves me the way I am and why I am obsessed with looking perfect. I always dreamt of having a good bikini body. What should I do?
 
 

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