Please see a lawyer. If you go back to the Uk and he earns his money here, you will not be able to get a financial support if he refuses to pay. Correct me if I am wrong, but I have heard it from different people.
You are correct , it took my friend 7 years to get what she was owed
She lived in the UK and he lived here. It was a mess! The UK cannot force him to pay anything if he were here and you were there
The most important thing is to get proper advice.
If he files here then you are basically stuck and on your own is my understanding. I know of one poor lady (poor now) who chased and chased and basically was told in the end "he can do what he wants". This is terrible i think.
Get proper advice before signing or agreeing to anything.
I totally agree that it's terrible to be in this positiion but you might have to be smart before you're emotional. He is the bad guy here...
Please see a lawyer. If you go back to the Uk and he earns his money here, you will not be able to get a financial support if he refuses to pay. Correct me if I am wrong, but I have heard it from different people.
Get divorced. There is absolutely zero point in staying with someone who doesn't want to be with you and has checked out of your marriage. The other woman will start bugging him to do it soon enough anyway, why would you put yourself and your children through that? They'll end up with parents who hate and resent each other and that does no one any good.
Get the divorce, make him pay his alimony and monthly child support and move on with your life.
Dear ladies, please advice what to do. My husband wants us to separate. Because this goes for while, he has another woman, I was very patient but today I replayed to him - ok. You file the divorce. he agreed. We have 2 boys 3 and 5 years old. I cannot support them financially myself. WE are both British. He is by birth. I am by naturalization.
What to expect?
Thanks in advance for any advises.
Furthermore if you are British by Naturalization, I'd suggest you start getting legal counsel (use his money, I'm sure as h377 he's not thinking twice about spending ££££ on his bit on the side entertaining her!) and sort yourself and you children out. That's your duty to them. Stop giving him all the power.
He won't seem so attractive to his woman when he's paying through the nose- despicable she is!
why would you want to stay with a man who a) doesn't want to be with you b) has no respect for you
Your husband will be financially responsible for the children if you separate and for providing a home for them. You can then get a job to help.
Totally agree with Izzy, furthermore you don't know the diseases and risks your dirtbag of a husband is risking on his own health let alone yours!
As a daughter of a woman who put up with her husbands infidelity for most of my childhood, as soon as I had a voice I told my mother to get rid of him. The lies deceit and disrespect is unfathomable,it's not a positive image to be showing to your children.
why would you want to stay with a man who a) doesn't want to be with you b) has no respect for you
Your husband will be financially responsible for the children if you separate and for providing a home for them. You can then get a job to help.
I agree with the previous poster. Don't be there for him as effectively a live in nanny to your kids and cleaner for him etc whilst he goes off and sees his new woman. If he wants another woman then stand up for who you are and wash your hands of him! You are a brave strong woman and deserve better. Much better. Don't play games - it will cause more misery and upset in the long run. Resentment and frustration that your children will see and feel. Be the better person and let him go. He has to support you financially as you're married. It might be hard but not as hard as living with a man sleeping with another woman! You'll look back in a few years and realise it was all worth it. It won't feel like that now but one day you will be happy again - happier in fact. Remember karma because it's going to come and bite him in the a**e someday. Be strong. This is your chance for a new life - embrace it. Good luck x
No love in relationship .....and clearly the kids will witness an unhappy Mum. For all that's worth it's better to separate and look for happiness instead of surviving in misery. Once you make up your mind, all else will fall in place...just a rough ride but having witnessed my close friends brave divorce and how they are happy currently makes me brave enough to share the same.
Hi, dear Natasha, i have the best advice for you ,
1. let him play around dont argue with him too much...
2. and dont go for divorce its a hard world to live by ones self and you also have kids ,please dont bring divorce even in your mind.
3. if you are with him he will have to pay all the expenses and in the end his life will be hard (keeping feets in 2 boats) he will realize it .
4. be patient and just let him know that he can do what the **** he wants to but also by doing your thing like always in daily routine make him feel you were there for him always and he also has responsibility for you and his kids , just let him loose he will get it in time .
5, you wont have more demands then his new lover just let him realize it by letting him free to do what ever he wants and in time he will realize it.
FINALLY BY TIME EVERY THING CHANGES AND IF YOU DIVORCE HIM HE WILL BE WINNER AND BY NOT DIVORCING HIM HE WILL BE BOUND TO HIS RESPONSIBILITY'S HE WONT BE FREE,