DD was afraid to be in deep water. Last summer, we paid for one to one sessions. Cried a lot the first session, better in the second one and by third session, was so happy to be in the water. She went to 10 one to one sessions and acquired a lot of confidence but still not comfortable to get her head under the water. But the experience helped her a lot and she just loves the once a week swimming lesson at the school last term. Unfortunately, no swimming now due to the weather.
Look at it from another parents point of view. 4 in a class..1 crying taking all the teachers time..other3 missing out? teacher can do a little but sometimes the child will not settle and needs a Mum to either walk away, come back end of lesson..out of sight out of mind.. or start them in a class at a lower level
Please, read properly!!! Teacher not dealing at all with the crying one!!!
What age is your child? My children are with Active Sports and because they were in the beginners class I was told that parents need to be prepared to get in the water to comfort the child if necessary. I have seen a number of upset children in the water whose parents sit by the side. It is not fair on the rest of the class that one child takes an instructor's full attention during group lessons. If you feel your child requires extra support, then perhaps a private one-on-one lesson would be more appropriate.
ETA - just saw your child is 3.5years so I assume she is in the beginners group.
edited by Piggle on 02/02/2011
Of course, one child can not get full attention, on the other hand the teacher is refusing to deal with the child because the poor little thing is crying and she is just telling the mother to repeat and do whatever she is doing, sorry but for that she doesn't need to pay!!!
Just do it, you're paying for a service, if you aren't getting the service you are paying for, sayonara! Why care about her embarrassment if she isn't embarrassed to be so rude to your DD??
You just read my mind!!!!
I second AISS. My kids would learn more over summer holidays in Oz than they did the entire year at Active Sports. I thought it was rubbish. This year I joined them up with AISS and they couldn't be happier. DS cries if we miss a lesson. Small class sizes, hands on and no floaties.
I agree if you one child who is scared that it will disrupt the class but they have to start somewhere to overcome their fears.
However, I had a very disappointing experience with Active Sports. They had sooooooo many kids in the pool it was just ridiculous, and there was no order of level, some could swim others had aids. Far too much going on to learn anything. I asked for my money back after the 3rd lesson and was asked to give it a bit longer.... I did but gave up with them after the 6th lesson and cut my losses. As another has already said, we found Lisa at Supersports and she is amazing. Max 3 in a class, more often than not only 2. They get max attention and it is not a free for all...... daughter loves her and can't wait to get in the pool... although already a fairly decent swimmer for her age, she has come one leaps and bounds with Lisa... highly recommended...
Look at it from another parents point of view. 4 in a class..1 crying taking all the teachers time..other3 missing out? teacher can do a little but sometimes the child will not settle and needs a Mum to either walk away, come back end of lesson..out of sight out of mind.. or start them in a class at a lower level
Oh I did & it seems it's normal on DD's part to be afraid but with good support and encouraging words it should ease. I'm doing this with DD but the woman there isn't and DD can feel this & doesn't like the woman since day 1 when the woman reacted to DD's crying by saying "OK, you need to stop her from crying & I can't deal with her crying like that".. so unprofessional I thought!
Sal H - I feel your pain and frustration. I was tired of getting in the water with my little one and thought he would never learn! Some days I couldn't even get him into the pool for his lesson. If she doesn't want to go under the water, she shouldn't. It is a question of time and she will do it when she is ready. Not much help I know. So hard to strike the balance of wanting her to learn to swim and not gaining a fear of water. Have you tried goggles?
Piggle, DD is in beginners class & I'm Always there in the water with her. It's just that I feel that the woman doesn't want to deal with DD if she cries or afraid to try a new move & would only relay on me to do what the rest of the class is doing.
I don't think they're doing what I've paid them to do. I just feel sorry for my DD who is not enjoying her time there at all!
Maybe you might be better just taking your child into the pool your self and just playing and having fun until she is more confident in the water.Then get lessons on how to swim.
you're right. I should ask the other lady to help.
It's just that I'm always very sensitive about people's feeling even if they don't do their part of the deal ! I should overcome this I think, so from now until next Sat I should choose my words and speak up.
Many Thanks for your help.
Oreo, I will check Super Sport out if the classes we're enroled in now don't work out.
What age is your child? My children are with Active Sports and because they were in the beginners class I was told that parents need to be prepared to get in the water to comfort the child if necessary. I have seen a number of upset children in the water whose parents sit by the side. It is not fair on the rest of the class that one child takes an instructor's full attention during group lessons. If you feel your child requires extra support, then perhaps a private one-on-one lesson would be more appropriate.
ETA - just saw your child is 3.5years so I assume she is in the beginners group.
<em>edited by Piggle on 02/02/2011</em>
Just do it, you're paying for a service, if you aren't getting the service you are paying for, sayonara! Why care about her embarrassment if she isn't embarrassed to be so rude to your DD??
Thanks for your reply Faifunghi. I heard that it's also Active Sport who hold swimming classes in Hayya club too?
There is another lady who seems to have her way with the other kids in the class. Both ladies train 4-5 children each in the beginners class & I noticed that children with the other lady stopped crying after lesson 2 and are more comfortable in water & responding to make some moves under water, the problem is that I don't know how to ask the other lady to take my DD in while the one we have now is standing there watching! Arrrg..
I took lessons with active sport and did not like it at all. My son was too young and was not interested and they were just trying to fill the pool with as many kids as they could every half hour. IT was terrible. I recommend Super Sports, they are amazing, especially Lisa.
I think you need to find a new teacher. If the one you have isn't helping your DD to get over her fear and is going to ignore her for crying as opposed to ignoring the crying, then your DD is pretty unlikely to learn much from this person.
A huge part of teaching very little ones to swim is about de-personalizing the situation. "Yes I know its scary but we are going to try together and I'll be right here so nothing is going to happen..." If your teacher is unaware of these methods or unable to get over her own issues with crying kids, get rid of her.
Swimming is supposed to be FUN!
Also, lots of kids take a VERY LONG time to learn to swim (sometimes as much as 2 years!) its normal. BUT she can grasp the basics of water safety now and should be able to learn some confidence.
Mine did some swim classes at the Hayaa! clubs a while ago, don't know if they still offer them, but at the time the instructors were lovely, gentle people who helped the LO get going and the older ones improve their techniques without any stress. They loved going to swim lessons. Might be worth calling them? Good luck!