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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 29 December 2012 - 00:24

Hi Ladies,

Just need some advice from the mothers with more experience.

I have a beautiful 4 month old son who is now EBF despite opposition and no support from family. The main reason for the lack of support stems from the fact that my son has always stayed on the breast for 1-1/2 and feeds every 2-3 hours and from a family used to formula fed babies it has been hard to say the least. I saw a LC at birth who said there was no latching problems but at 2 weeks old i was forced to bottle feed for 2 weeks due to pressure from the family but i still breast fed at the same time and stop after 2 weeks (when family left) and went back to breast. However i have noticed that i can hear my son gulping down and that he drinks quite quickly and will some times beat me on my breast and i'm not sure why? I did ask a midwiffe while i was in the UK and was told it was because its hard work and that he does it because he is fraustrated? Is this correct or could there be another explanation?

In addition to this he is always chewing on his hands, does this mean he is not full or is it because he is teething?

Also i feed DS at 12 and he gets up at 3am and 6am for a feed, is this normal? I keep hearing from my mother and MIL that the reason for this is because i don't have enough milk for him, which is making me consider giving him formula.

Would appreciate any thoughts and advice.
<em>edited by SandstarQueen on 29/12/2012</em>

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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 29 December 2012 - 16:01
you might want to read this thread http://www.expatwoman.com/qatar/forum/messages.aspx?TopicID=196562 getting frustrated at your breast could be because your initial letdown is very fast and he struggle to keep up, if you think this is the case laying back to nurse, or initially letting down into a towel before continuing the feed could help. Your family are being in credibly rude and unsupportive, you might just need to tell them firmly and politely to butt out! I think sometimes if someone has had a bad personal experience i regards to breastfeeding (as perhaps they did) then it can colour their view on breastfeeding in general, you've done well to ignore them. Feeding 3 hourly is quite normal (even for ff babies) and definitely not a sign of low milk supply, since your mother and mil were formula feeders, with respect, they are not experts on breastfeeding and supply. well done on persevering without support, there is a facebook group, "breastfeeding Q & A, Dubai and UAE" if you'd like to join and get some moral support from other breastfeeding mums in your community.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 29 December 2012 - 14:00
Hi SQ Good job for bf your son so far and especially for not listening to your family. I hate how unsupportive families have become when it comes to breastfeeding my mil also kept telling me at DD woke up frequently in the night as I didn't have enough milk but this was not true breast milk is easily digested so the babies wake up more often during the night also at 4 months he is quite young my daughter woke up every 3 hours for a feed till 5 months she then dropped a feed in between and now at 6 months sleeps almost 6 hours straight before waking up. I usually consulted the La Leche League UAE ladies every time I had an issue concerning breastfeeding and they are very helpful and very prompt in replying back. https://www.facebook.com/groups/lll.uae/
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 29 December 2012 - 06:36
First congratulations for breastfeeding your baby :) despite all what happen. [i'> However i have noticed that i can hear my son gulping down and that he drinks quite quickly and will some times beat me on my breast and i'm not sure why?[/i'> Mine ( 2 month old) doing exactly the same, especially afternoons.Sometimes when he getting very moody on breast i put him back or give to carry to my husband.I think the same what your midwife said.I took it as normal behavior for my baby, he is a human so has right for his moods.Sometimes he also chew his hands, but your baby maybe is teething, i dont know. [i'>Also i feed DS at 12 and he gets up at 3am and 6am for a feed, is this normal?. [/i'> I beat it is normal for 4 month even books says baby feed every 2, 3 or 4 hours.every baby is different, [i'> I keep hearing from my mother and MIL that the reason for this is because i don't have enough milk for him, which is making me consider giving him formula[/i'> blah blah i wouldn't listen her at all, i hear the same from some ppl.If your baby putting weight normally i wouldn't bother. There is a link for very nice blog about bf babies and stuff. [url=http://www.analyticalarmadillo.co.uk/'>link[/url'> Good luck and take care :) <em>edited by evelyn2000 on 29/12/2012</em>
 
 

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