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Baby needs to be carried ALL the time - please help!

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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 10 February 2013 - 10:30

For several reasons, including bad reflux and colic, we spent the first 8 weeks carrying our LO a LOT! She needed to be kept upright a lot of the time and cried constantly so was carried a lot of the time. Now that her reflux seems to have improved (she is 10 weeks), she is still understandably wanting to be carried everywhere as that is all she is used to. She will sometimes spend maybe 10 minutes on her mat or 5 minutes in her swing but after very short period of time, cries to be picked up and carried. Also, going anywhere in the car is a nightmare as, 5 minutes after being in the car seat, she screams to be picked up.
We have so far tried everything - the swing, bouncer, baby carrier, play mats etc but nothing will entertain her for longer than 5 minutes. We have tried letting her cry a little (which absolutely breaks my heart so I can never do it for any more than a couple of minutes) but she gets herself worked up into such a state that you just cant leave her like that.
Also, she will only fall asleep in our arms - has to be asleep before we can put her down for the night and if we try to put her down for a nap during the day, even after falling asleep in our arms, she wakes up!

Can anyone help with how to get her used to being put down please please please?
TIA!
<em>edited by Mmmmmm on 10/02/2013</em>

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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 12 February 2013 - 14:49
Ladies I have just seen your replies - thanks so much. I have the Ergo and find it good but a little hot... but Its true that its sooo much easier to have her in that than having to carry her all the time. Its true, they are so little for such a short period of time - but it is quite tiring having to carry her all the time... Thanks again ladies!
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 12 February 2013 - 14:20
I second the idea with the wrap or sling. I have a moby wrap and although it took a bit of practice in the beginning I can now wrap it and put baby in and out all by myself. It is a bit more fiddly than a carrier like the ergo, but I found in the early months that baby was snuggly wrapped to my chest in a way only a wrap can do. Now I tie the wrap around myself and once I reach my destination with baby, just put her from the carseat in the wrap (facing me) . With the wrap I can also adjust if she sits high or low. I can carry her in different positions. I had a carrier like the baby bjorn,that I kept in the car in case I needed to hop into the store quickly and didn't want to bother with the pram, but would have never carried her longer in it and never when she was tiny The picture from the link posted earlier shows it really good why. For the wrap and different methods of babywearing with a wrap there are supperb online tutorials and videos on youtube available. In conclusion I say: I still love my wrap but (after seeing so many happy mothers and babies using the ergo carrier) would consider a ergo carrier for convenience.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 12 February 2013 - 13:09
[url=http://www.bobafamily.com/research/strollers-baby-carriers-and-infant-stress/'>this is the article about baby carriers etc[/url'>
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 12 February 2013 - 13:07
Mmmmmm you must be exhausted. A Friend of mine has also a "not putting away" baby, I want to give you some advice regarding baby carriers. 1. DO NOT USE Baby Bjorn( unless you have ergonomic version of this carrier) or anything looks similar to this brand: [url=http://fotoforum.gazeta.pl/zdjecie/2899661,2,8,wisiadlo-i-nosidlo.html'>look at this picture and see the diference[/url'> 2.Never carry your baby facing the world, [url=http://www.bobafamily.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/09/frontfacinghollowback.jpg'>like on this picture[/url'> [i'>Not facing the carrying adult, and facing out their center of gravity is off. Pressure is placed on the baby’s shoulders and the chest area, often retracting the shoulders and hollowing the back even more. Facing out is a nonphysiological position that places pressure on the inner thighs of the baby and the base of the spine. Upright carrying facing out is stressful on babies.[/i'> If your baby want to see the world it is mean that is strong enought to be carried on the back [url=http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_EdDV31w0iMk/TLuAyoJromI/AAAAAAAAADk/mixGNBlTFeo/s1600/ergo+back.jpg'>the way this handsome daddy ;)[/url'> In my opinion you could try baby ergo carrier with newborn insert.The other option is baby sling/ wrap, if your LO is not heavy you can buy Moby Wrap, which is elastic and quite easy to wear. Else you can get woven wrap but you will have to get help to learn how to wear properly. Things will get easier as your Little one will grow,And if you have chance give baby for your husband and take relaxing bath :) edited by evelyn2000 on 12/02/2013 <em>edited by evelyn2000 on 12/02/2013</em>
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 12 February 2013 - 07:23
Just saw this on facebook and thought of your thread Mmmmm. It made me laugh. http://www.pregnantchicken.com/pregnant-chicken-blog/2010/5/4/what-you-need-to-know-about-newborns.html
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 11 February 2013 - 12:51
I agree with the other ladies, a sling is the way to go. It won't be long before your baby is past this phase and wriggling to get down whenever you try to get a cuddle! I've used a Baby Bjorn for my children, I found it easy and once they are big enough they can face outwards and see the world. I've always figured all the carting around is good for the post baby weight loss too! When you are putting your baby down during the day are you putting her in her cot? My fist baby refused to ever sleep in a cot during the day and would wake up and scream without fail no matter how fast asleep she seems when I put her down. If I put her in her buggy or baby bjorn bouncer in the room I was in she'd stay sleeping no problems.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 11 February 2013 - 12:03
Hope it goes well. A sling is also a good idea, I know someone who is still using hers and her DD is about a year old. It is important though to make sure it is properly fitted (there are many different styles) to ensure you don't strain your back, and as Kooky says, encourage your husband to wear it too. One thing to bear in mind is that when a baby reaches about 6 to 8 months of age, they will go through a period of separation anxiety (stranger danger), not wanting to be put down etc., and you may feel you are back to square one but it is a normal developmental phase and will soon pass.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 10 February 2013 - 22:08
I agree w Kooky! Just carry LO in a sling. It's just a phase and she will outgrow it, same as for the car, she will outgrow it just as my DD did. Car rides were dreadful and I barely went anywhere, if I did I used to pullover and cuddle her till she fell asleep then put her back in the chair. I would take someone with me whenever I could and I / they would hold her hands. It's a scary world for them when they are so little and they need comfort and lots of it. Don't let it get to you, roll with it and get the sling, go in the car if you have to and slowly put her down when she is slightly more awake and it will get better. Now my DD is 11 months and so easy, and apart from the reflux we had all the same issues that you mentioned. <em>edited by sparkly on 10/02/2013</em>
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 10 February 2013 - 21:24
My personal opinion is buy yourself a comfortable sling or wrap ( the ladies at Dubai baby wearing can help with advice) and roll with it. Your baby wants you for comfort and reassurance and there's nothing wrong with that. Just make sure the carrier is big enough for your husband to share the load - literally! Lol
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 10 February 2013 - 20:25
Thanks NMT, Will def try those suggestions. Am willing to try anything now.
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Latest post on 10 February 2013 - 11:44
Hi Mmmmmm, It will take some time and patience to change your LO's behaviour but you could start by putting her in her swing or on the mat, stay with her and play, encourage her to play with her toys. Try to pick her up before she starts crying so she begins to associate being there as a positive experience. Initially only leave her a few minutes at a time, gradually extending the length of time you leave her. Try to pick times during the day when she is happy, not tired or hungry and get others to do it too. You could also try putting her in her car seat in the house in the same way, to get her used to being in it and then take her on short journeys, just up and down the road perhaps. With regards to her sleeping, you may find that gets easier once she gets used to sitting apart from you. In the meantime, you could try putting her in her cot just before she's asleep and either keep your hands on her or stroke her gently until she falls asleep. Good luck!
 
 

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