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Depression during pregnancy

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Latest post on 14 June 2011 - 22:59

I was wandering if anybody has experienced this and if so how did you cope? I just find myself crying all the time and having panic attacks.. It all started with problems with my breathing i just feel as if i am going to suffocate, so far i have tried doctors and hypnosis but i still feel the same

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Latest post on 17 June 2011 - 15:48
thank you for your responses, i am 21 weeks pregnant and have been in Dubai for a couple of years now so I am use to the environment. Went to see the doctor again yesterday and she feels it maybe the sinus's that are causing me panic attacks and anxiety, and the heart palpatations are maybe self induced... she has given me some meds which i took and for the first time and slept for 8 hours, I am hoping things will get better soon and I will return to Dubai shortly.
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Latest post on 15 June 2011 - 21:28
oh and you don't really feel connected to the baby until it starts moving, and really you don't bond until after the birth and to be 100% truthful, you love them immediately but its much later, like when they are more like 4 months old that you truly are attached, as they start to become a little person, attachment is a gradual process, what I feel now, at 10 months is a million times stronger again.
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Latest post on 15 June 2011 - 21:21
Do keep in mind that it is not necessarily "in your head", being pregnant puts a big strain on your heart/blood supply, I would see a cardiologist, go for a full work up, blood tests (iron/thyroid/ECG etc. You might need to wear the 24 hour ECG device to "catch" an episode. I wasn't remotely stressed before it happened to me, I was back home having a lovely time with my family, resting a lot and eating well. One of the questions they asked at the hospital was did I have a sense of "impending doom" which was related to heart issues, not depression.
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Latest post on 15 June 2011 - 15:52
Maariyah, Hope you are feeling better. Being teary is pretty normal during pregnancy, but if you feel depressed try doing some sport (nothing to exhausting). This will release endorphins (''happy hormones''), eat good food - it is important for a chemical balance of the brain. Our hormones are all over the place during pregnancy. As for the breathing it is also common - try to calm down and regulate your breathing. It is great to have somone to tell you 'breath in, breath out'. I did not feel attached to my baby until she was born - just like Guinness it was a big belly in front of me and it is pretty much the same feeling the second time around for me ;) x
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Latest post on 15 June 2011 - 15:39
I am associating my panic attacks with being in Dubai.. It's also very normal to feel vulnerable and feel the need to be supported. Are you quite new to Dubai? You mentioned you felt very isolated and I can completely feel for you. I got pg with my second a week after arriving here and felt very, very low with all the upheaval, hormones and isolation. I ended up going back to the UK to give birth. I was told that people who tend to get depressed are often those who are used to being strong and coping with almost anything, but circumstances sometimes tip the balance and leave us free-wheeling, where we feel that "everything" is out of control. That's why life-changing experiences (happy or sad) can tip the balance. Try to work out what it is that seem key to your feelings, discuss it (ad infinitum if necessary) and try to work out a Plan with your husband - you may need him to actually make the decision and action it (sometimes a depressed person can't actually make any decisions for themselves - for the moment). The good thing with situation-based depression is that once you resolve the trigger (if you can, that is), then it goes away.
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Latest post on 15 June 2011 - 15:11
I had this also in my 3rd trimester. The company I was working for moved me into another job (with about 2 months of work left, why, I have no idea?!) One day on the way to work I started finding it hard to breath, like someone was sitting on my chest. I started hyperventilating, feeling like I couldn't get enough air. My husband took my in to see the Dr. and she said it was because I was stressed about baby coming, new job position etc and advised me to finish work early. I only had one attack like that but previously had felt difficulty in breathing several times a week. I'm pretty sure looking back on it now it was because of my work and the fact that I had too much on my plate.
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Latest post on 15 June 2011 - 15:01
to be honest they just sort of stopped on their own, right before my cardiologist appointment here making me look a bit silly, they started when i was back in NZ and I casually mentioned them to my GP who had just taken my BP and found it to be fine. He reassured me then checked my pulse and promptly freaked out and sent my straight to hospital,, by the time I got there it was fine but they tested my thyroid levels and also my blood clotting factors etc to rule a few things out. I found that when it happened the worst thing was to lie in bed keeping still, I didn't notice it so much when I was busy which is why I didn't even know it was happening when i mentioned it to my GP. The feeling on not being able to breathe I think comes from hyperventilating so ironically you need to hold your breath or bag breathe to relieve it. For me it was purely physiological, in that I felt like I was anxious, without being anxious in a psychological sense IYKWIM. How many weeks are you?
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Latest post on 15 June 2011 - 14:25
glad to know I am not the only one, I have never felt this helpless before and the docs just don't seem to care about the emotional stuff they just pack you off with meds (often ones that clearly state shouldn't be given to pregnant women). kiwispiers what helped you cope with that feeling of not being able to breathe? I am currently back in England but thinking of returning in a few weeks as I dont want DH to be alone for too long, sadly I am associating my panic attacks with being in Dubai.. <em>edited by maariyah on 15/06/2011</em>
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Latest post on 15 June 2011 - 08:33
I had heart palpitations/racing pulse when pregnant and had to get an ECG etc, they made me feel like I couldn't breathe and very anxious, usually happened when I lay down at night, they were gone by my 3rd trimester.
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Latest post on 15 June 2011 - 07:53
I felt so isolated and worried that i left dubai a few days ago. DH was so sad to see me go but i just couldnt cope with it anymore. I thought it was the heat that was causing me sinus and nasal drip problems in my throat, as soon as i lay my head on the pillow i break out in a sweat thinking my breathing is going to stop from both my mouth (due to excess mucus in the throat) and from my nose due to blocked sinus's. This has all resulted in panic attacks and depression i just cant snap out of. I am only 21 weeks and worried that my health probs are just increasing and i still have a long way to go. I also dont feel attached to the baby :-( edited by maariyah on 15/06/2011 I had that with one of my babies - I could hardly breath. It did stop closer to the third trimester, but it was rough going for a while. I had to take rest stops while climbing the stairs to my bedroom! I got terrible asthma from the mucus - it was awful. And I've never felt attached to any of my babies until they were born. Until then, for me, they were just a big, fat, uncomfortable stomach!
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Latest post on 15 June 2011 - 00:25
I felt so isolated and worried that i left dubai a few days ago. DH was so sad to see me go but i just couldnt cope with it anymore. I thought it was the heat that was causing me sinus and nasal drip problems in my throat, as soon as i lay my head on the pillow i break out in a sweat thinking my breathing is going to stop from both my mouth (due to excess mucus in the throat) and from my nose due to blocked sinus's. This has all resulted in panic attacks and depression i just cant snap out of. I am only 21 weeks and worried that my health probs are just increasing and i still have a long way to go. I also dont feel attached to the baby :-( <em>edited by maariyah on 15/06/2011</em>
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Latest post on 14 June 2011 - 23:26
Are you sure it is panic attacks? Just asking, as I suffer from asthma ONLY when pregnant with girls.....was very frightening the first time it happened because I had no idea what it was. It was also easily fixed with some ventolin. Apparently there is some legit link with asthma and girl babies. The crying can be normal, but if you feel really worried about your symptoms, you should get some medical help, or at least advice. That's interesting. I think it would be a good thing to rule out.
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Latest post on 14 June 2011 - 23:23
I had major depression during one of my pregnancies. It did not come out of the blue, there were circumstances adding to it also. At the time dr Nataliya at Cooper Clinic was my obgyn and I made an emergency appointment to see her when I felt I couldn't handle it by myself. She is not known for her bedside manner but on that day she was fantastic. In the end I went on to medication, not for every one I know, but necessary for me. So I really just want to tell you that there are several ways of dealing with this, counseling, relaxation techniques etc. and if those fail you can find a sympathetic doctor who will do what is best for you and your baby. Is there anything in particular that you can identify why this might be happening? Do you need more info on counseling or relaxation techniques?
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Latest post on 14 June 2011 - 23:18
Are you sure it is panic attacks? Just asking, as I suffer from asthma ONLY when pregnant with girls.....was very frightening the first time it happened because I had no idea what it was. It was also easily fixed with some ventolin. Apparently there is some legit link with asthma and girl babies. The crying can be normal, but if you feel really worried about your symptoms, you should get some medical help, or at least advice.
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Latest post on 14 June 2011 - 23:10
i got pretty depressed leater on in my pregnancy, but never had panic attacks. at the end of my pregnancy when i was most depressed i took hypno-birthing sessions (for labor) and that helped me get much needed sleep and just helped ease my mind in general, there are some nice meditations with that program and i still use the breathing techniques now especially when DD is really fussy, also i swam throughout my pregnancy and took walk whenever i could that also seemed to help. stay away from stressful stories, family quarrels, keep a pregnancy journal and always remember the love you are going to have for this baby is unbelievable,, believe me that is definitely something to be happy about! good luck with your emotions and hormones. ;)
 
 

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