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EW GURU
Latest post on 20 October 2011 - 08:16

DH and I would like to do some reading and research on the best way to reprimand and teach DD "right from wrong".

DD is just over 10 months and has entered the exploring phase - eating sand, trying to help me unload the dishwasher, helping me unpack the groceries by smashing the eggs in return - the list is endless! I find it quite endearing and it must be so exciting for her little brain, but find myself saying NO constantly!

Are there any good reads, that gives a well rounded approach to this stage, and at the same time we wont feel as if we are inhibiting her?!

TIA

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EW GURU
Latest post on 20 October 2011 - 13:19
Thank you for the recommendations ladies, will look into those x
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EW OLDHAND
Latest post on 20 October 2011 - 12:22
I was thinking of getting him one of those sand and water play station things so he can have a good old muck around with that and get nice and grubby! We got one for DD's birthday! Definitely get one for his Lordship, they can get grubby together! ;)
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 20 October 2011 - 12:02
We have one of those, from ELC. Horribly expensive but lots of fun although I do feel the need to check for scorpions every day before he uses it. He plays with it every day (while I sit on the airconditioned kitchen doorstep sipping cocktails) ok lying about the cocktail bit ;)
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 20 October 2011 - 09:45
Thank heavens it's not just me :). Good point re the poo thing. He has a fair bit of nappy off time and often wees on the floor (sounds like he's feral but I'm sure it can't be fun walking round in a nappy all day), and I make sure we never make a fuss about that, but we should probably lay off the 'dirty' thing when the nappy comes off. He also likes to take his used nappies to the bin, but mainly so he can try and play with the lid! I was thinking of getting him one of those sand and water play station things so he can have a good old muck around with that and get nice and grubby!
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 20 October 2011 - 09:29
I think the only thing you should be careful with is the nappies, because if they get the idea that poo is dirty it can make potty training more difficult, so it should be more like "ooh that nappy goes in the bin, lets put it in the bin" in an upbeat way And also make sure you counter it by letting him play with "good" dirt so he's isn't upset by getting his hands muddy etc. Honestly I have days when I feel like a cracked record "no no, yucky yucky, ouch ouch, hot hot HOT, eek, uck, stop....."
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 20 October 2011 - 09:22
That's good to know - some days I feel like I'm constantly saying 'no' and it gets me absolutely nowhere. I do literally have to go and take him away from whatever he's doing or he simply won't listen or leave it alone. He's just over 16 months... reckon he'll miraculously listen in six weeks? :D My other concern at the moment is that his main word is 'dirty'. I've told him the bin is dirty, his used nappies are dirty, the dog food bowl is dirty, the cat litter tray is dirty... so now all he says is 'dirty'. I'm a little concerned I come across as rather OCD on the cleanliness front, which is far from the truth! Am I going to make him obsessive?!
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 20 October 2011 - 09:16
I've just read "The Good Behaviour Book" by Dr Sears which is really helpful. Most of his tips are on his website too: http://www.askdrsears.com/topics/parenting/discipline-behavior heres an example; [i'>7. Create Alternatives To The N-Word Constantly saying "no" causes this word to lose its punch. Since stop sounds are used mainly to protect, try using more specific words that fit the situation. Consider this example: When a toddler is about to reach into the cat litter box your first reaction is to say "no," but follow it up with an explanation: "Dirty! Make you sick." Next time the child goes for the litter box (and he will do it again), instead of "no," say "Dirty! Make you sick." That and a disgusted expression on your face will help the child learn the why as well as the what of good behavior, and the litter box will lose its attraction. (We are assuming that the litter box is kept in a location well away from the toddler's beaten path. Litter, like sand, is irresistible to babies.) Babies start reaching for "no-nos" around six months. [/i'> At 10 months I reserved a strong "no" for only really dangerous things like the powerpoints, the rest was more of an "uh uh" then distract and move on. What I've read is that until around 18 months or more you also need to physically redirect, as in gently move your child's hand or body somewhere else rather than calling out "no" across the room. With things like groceriecies, give her something she can touch and quickly put the rest on the bench out of reach, its too much to expect her to know/remember eggs are breakable etc at this age so you're wasting your "no's" if you get what I mean, they'll be less effective the more often you use them. I also use the "stop" baby sign to emphasise a verbal 'no" <em>edited by kiwispiers on 20/10/2011</em>
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EW GURU
Latest post on 20 October 2011 - 08:21
Have a look at Toddler Taming. Some useful stuff in there.
 
 

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