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has anyody gone through such a face with their 1 year old?

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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 13 October 2011 - 11:01

SO many mistakes, it meant to say has anybody gone through such a phase with their 1 year old, he was just sitting on my lap trying to type my message away....

My 1 year old thinks its hilarious to hit me in the face. He does it when he is happy to see me , or when he is angry when he doesnt get things done his way. I have tried ignoring the behavior, punnishing with a severe no and putting him down. Telling him NO hitting mommy, and than hold his arms strongly, telling him NO hitting mommy, caressing my face softly with his hand telling him soooftly, soooftly but he just struggles to keep hitting. I honestly dont know how to make him stop this behavior, and am afraid he will start hitting other babies or kids. He keeps looking me in the eye while he does it, as if he is defying my authority. I dont believe in time-outs now because he wont understand that he has to stand in a corner, I think he is to young. He started doing it when he was about 6 months old but I thought it was just poor limb coordination, now he really does it on purpose. Has anybody gone through this and been able to change it? My son is very strong minded and throws a whole lot of tantrums. I also use the happiest toddler on the block techniques which help a bit but he is just sooo stubborn.
<em>edited by Yasmine on 13/10/2011</em>

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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 16 October 2011 - 10:42
Thanks ladies.. I tried the fake tears but he just looks at me as if I lost my mind, smiling...nice new game mommy, now where were we..oh yess, I was beating u in the face...NAGH
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 13 October 2011 - 21:04
yes fake tears were apparently funny when I tried them too, clearly I am a poor actress my two seem to be able to turn on the waterworks (and stop it) at will, so tears are purely crocodile ones!
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 13 October 2011 - 14:58
yes fake tears were apparently funny when I tried them too, clearly I am a poor actress
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 13 October 2011 - 14:46
Interesting. DD is 8 months old and has taken to grabbing my nose and pulling REALLY hard, she also whacks me in the face. I also thought it was a lack of co-ordination but she thinks it's totally hilarious and, I've noticed, only does it to me, not to her daddy. Shall try saying no... am already working on showing her how to stroke mummy's face, rather than smack it lol. I tried (fake) tears last week and she thought it was the funniest thing ever *sigh* little tinker.
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EW GURU
Latest post on 13 October 2011 - 14:21
We did the pretend bursting into tears and this nipped it in the bud very quickly. We did have to calm her down afterwards as she would start crying as well - making us feel super guilty but it worked.
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EW OLDHAND
Latest post on 13 October 2011 - 12:39
If all else fails, burst into tears (real or fake). My DS understood tears meant someone was hurt much earlier than he understood no. Or simply put him down on the floor. <em>edited by guinness on 13/10/2011</em>
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 13 October 2011 - 11:56
Agree with Annabelle. Constant and clear NO. Try to be also not too upset when he does it; I've learned that just neutral No is enough just to make sure they don't have another thing to manipulate you with. The easiest is to teach that "No Hands Near Head" as a 1 y/o does not have an understanding or feeling of the intensity of their hitting - they may think it's a caress whereas you're in tears from pain.
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Latest post on 13 October 2011 - 11:52
Yes my 14 month old still does it too, especially when he is tired and gets a bit hyper. I don't think it is aggression, he is not angry, he thinks its really funny, more like a cheeky thing. I am pretty much dealing with it exactly the same as you, working on teaching him different touches, so when he does it I say "soft touch" and he does switch to a stroke but TBH it doesn't last long before he gets that cheeky grin and hits again at which point I put him down and move away from him. So far its only me he slaps/hits, I'm hoping he will grow out of it and that he won't start doing the same to other kids.
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Latest post on 13 October 2011 - 11:47
SO many mistakes, it meant to say has anybody gone through such a phase with their 1 year old, he was just sitting on my lap trying to type my message away.... My 1 year old thinks its hilarious to hit me in the face. He does it when he is happy to see me , or when he is angry when he doesnt get things done his way. I have tried ignoring the behavior, punnishing with a severe no and putting him down. Telling him NO hitting mommy, and than hold his arms strongly, telling him NO hitting mommy, caressing my face softly with his hand telling him soooftly, soooftly but he just struggles to keep hitting. I honestly dont know how to make him stop this behavior, and am afraid he will start hitting other babies or kids. He keeps looking me in the eye while he does it, as if he is defying my authority. I dont believe in time-outs now because he wont understand that he has to stand in a corner, I think he is to young. He started doing it when he was about 6 months old but I thought it was just poor limb coordination, now he really does it on purpose. Has anybody gone through this and been able to change it? My son is very strong minded and throws a whole lot of tantrums. I also use the happiest toddler on the block techniques which help a bit but he is just sooo stubborn. edited by Yasmine on 13/10/2011 My DD is exactly the same, and the professional advice that I got was, is to hold his hands while/after hitting you and tell him NO. Constant repetition will make it less and less..
 
 

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