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Help! My formerly independant 15 mo wants to be held all the time.

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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 09 July 2011 - 11:21

I am going out of my mind. I love cuddling but I can't set him down for a second! He screams while I prepare his meals or need a few minutes for other activities of daily living. It's got better since I taught him to say up instead of just whining, but I need to be able to put him down sometimes. If I ignore the screaming or the ups then he bites me, which is another issue.

He used to be a happy independent kid who ran all over the place. I know there have been some big changes recently; I stopped breastfeeding 10 days ago and we are in Europe for the summer, but can anyone give me some advice for getting my sweet boy back, or at least tell me this isn't permanent?

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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 12 July 2011 - 20:45
I can relate to this! There were no major changes but all of a sudden my son seemed to need me constantly and no one else would do. Was very out of character for him and I couldn't figure out what was going on so I did a bit of googling and found that this is actually quite common around this age, developmental. Settled down after a while. The suggestion of a carrier is great as it will allow you get on with a few things while holding you baby close. All the best!
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 12 July 2011 - 18:37
Stopped BF not long ago and it's not easy We were down to the morning fed only What helped us was holding DS on my lap, as tight as I could and give as much skin contact as possible but being fully dressed - while he was drinking from a sitting position warm milk from his favourite cup Just let him take his time with a morning cuddle until he decided he wants to go play During the day while offering drinks I was giving him more cuddles with a as much skin contact as possible The more cuddles I offer the less he chases me around Hope things get better for you soon
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 10 July 2011 - 22:07
What about buying an Ergo carrier + wearing him on your back so your hands are free to get stuff done? Maybe share his naptime with him + just fall asleep cuddling, it's really soothing + comforting to little ones to have physical contact like this :) ANd a great excuse to catch up on your sleep too. Before too much longer I reckon they'll be approaching their teens + we'll be the ones wanting more cuddles! It goes by so fast..
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 10 July 2011 - 14:34
Both acts are normal after the big changes in his life "BF and Travel". He needs some time to be back. During this time stand up for your rules or at least try to. There is one thing that you can try, "it worked with us" take your baby out - one to one day out, you and him or mom, dad and him. Do things you used to do back home when you are out. Follow your heart and you will know exactly what to do. be patient, GOOD LUCK :D
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 10 July 2011 - 14:03
I don't have any advice, only sympathy, my DS who will be 15 months this week goes through a phase like this every 2nd week and it really is very tiring. They are all teething constantly at this age... plus the change of environment and weaning probably have him feeling a bit insecure and off his game for the moment. Hope he gets over it soon! My DS is very whiney and clingy at the moment and would be permanently attached to my hip if he had a choice. Haha I actually thought it was because he is bored at home in the boiling gulf heat and hoped he would get over it when we visit the grandparents in cooler climes next week. But now your post is making me wonder if things will be even worse over there!!! Good luck :)
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 10 July 2011 - 12:16
He could also be teething on top of it? My DD is 14.5m old and went through a very similar, exhausting, phase recently ... also included night waking ... not fun
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EW OLDHAND
Latest post on 09 July 2011 - 20:19
Don't worry, it's not permanent :) I think it's two big changes together, you've taken away probably both comfort zones :) bf and his permanent home. he is probably unfamiliar to new environment and can't drown :D his anxiety in milk :)
 
 

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