If your baby looks happy and strong then I wont worry so much about the numbers on the scale. Some babies just are petite by nature. Dont let the doctors here make you paranoid about that either. I have noticed that a lot of doctors here prefer to follow books instead of their experience and common sense.
I give cherifer drops for my boy. Its not available here unfortunately but Im sure you can find great brands at the pharmacy. My older boy likes those gummy vitamins that you buy at Spinneys or at pharmacies.
thanks for the replies.. i really need the encouragement.. have been getting tests done on her for failure to thrive but nothing came up..its just that she needs to eat more. i cook for her everyday and then end up eating all of that high calorie food myself. i just thought maybe if i stop then she will eventually be interested in food...maybe not.
appletiser: which vitamins do you give?
im nervous to stop because she is still bfeeding 5-6 times a day.. but she has developed several bad habits like feed to sleep, not drinking enough water, milk or eating much solids.. she is a picky eater and i try my best to get food into her.. so im thinking of just stop bfeeding to get her more interested in food.
just to add she is v underweight, 6.5 kg at 13 months. so she definitely need more calories.
My bub was also underweight. I changed his multivitamins and now he eats like a horse! For the BF I cant help....mine is 12 months old and has zero interest in stopping. Im not that bothered either.
im nervous to stop because she is still bfeeding 5-6 times a day.. but she has developed several bad habits like feed to sleep, not drinking enough water, milk or eating much solids.. she is a picky eater and i try my best to get food into her.. so im thinking of just stop bfeeding to get her more interested in food.
just to add she is v underweight, 6.5 kg at 13 months. so she definitely need more calories.
since she's very underweight and has a few habits you need to crack, I would seriously consider putting all them on a better course first. Your milk has lots of calories in it, and if she's considered underweight and isn't getting much from other food, then you need to keep it up, I'm afraid. Taking the tough love approach would be fine if she was a bigger girl, but eating is a learning process and not something you can just drop them into with a sink-or-swim attitude - mainly because you don't want to see them sink!
To give you an idea, both my two were 10-12kg when I stopped nursing them, so there was a bit of room for adjustment!
Tackle the eating and drinking first. Offer her cow's milk or water with her meals and don't offer her your milk first. Go for high calorie, healthy foods - cook in butter, do cheese sauces, yoghurts, avocado, smoked salmon etc... Lots of interesting things - even some that you may not think she'll like... you just never know. Encourage her to drink with her meal, then give her a healthy pudding (regardless of if she's eaten her main) and then let her play for a bit before giving her some of your milk if you want to... just try to disassociate your milk with meal time. Also, try to eat with her to show her the way.
You are completely in control of this process though. You need to balance what you want to achieve with what's healthiest for her in this point of time. My gut feel is to go really slowly and help her to help herself before stopping breastfeeding. I think you're probably looking at another few months of bf, in all honesty.
im nervous to stop because she is still bfeeding 5-6 times a day.. but she has developed several bad habits like feed to sleep, not drinking enough water, milk or eating much solids.. she is a picky eater and i try my best to get food into her.. so im thinking of just stop bfeeding to get her more interested in food.
just to add she is v underweight, 6.5 kg at 13 months. so she definitely need more calories.
If it's a concern as to how much milk your LO will take once you stop bf-ing - consider other forms of calcium... cheese, yoghurt etc. Some LO's are just never interested in any milk from another source, but you can still provide the calcium requirements through other alternatives.
you could gradually cut down the number of feeds so that your body and your baby get used to not having as much of your milk, until it gets to a point where you just go from a single feed to none. Or you could just stop (depending on how many feeds you give her currently and ride out the emotion. It very much depends on you, your body and your baby/toddler.
With DD, she kind of self-weaned at 11.5 months, but she'd spent the last 6 weeks cutting down her feeds, so that in the end we were just doing mornings, but my supply had dropped, so she was topping up with cow's milk afterwards. One day I just skipped it completely and she didn't blink.
With DS, he wasn't at all interested in any other milk (didn't try formula, but didn't want to), so although I had a feeling the 2 remaining feeds were just out of habit, I didn't want to stop and leave him in the lurch, so to speak, so I waited until he was 13 months old and one day, just stopped. He hardly blinked either, but still wouldn't take any cow's milk. I kept offering it though and he grew to like it. I have to say though, that by stopping suddenly, even though I didn't have any engorgement issues, I really felt sad that I had chosen to end it and felt that it would have been so much nicer to finish by mutual agreement, like I had with DD. I spent probably 2-3 weeks a step away from putting him back on!
there is tons of info on how to bf but not much on how to stop... DD is 13 months and not interested in formula or cow's milk. have tried many times but she resist both. though i have no urgency to stop but im drained out and wish to stop... any suggestions on how to do it smoothly with as less tears as possible.