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My 15 month old just bit me!

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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 26 January 2012 - 06:54

still shocked!

We were out havng lunch n he was being naughty, i gave him food but he didnt want it,then he threw his banana on the ground and i said well thats it for the banana- no more.

He was very upset and took my finger and bit with all his force-his face litterally became red!
I am still shocked and sad he did that- this is not normal is it?

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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 29 January 2012 - 13:23
an "eye for an eye" is probaly not the best way to dicipline my boy i think... think i need to just wait n hope he will go back to being my lovely angel as i def think he has entered the "terribly twos"!
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 28 January 2012 - 22:26
Bite him back :D. The only downside is that were I to bite my kids in anger, I would then have to take them to A&E and explain how they came about such wounds. Here in the UK, when your child is admitted to A&E, they send a form to your health visitor, just for the record, like... I would also have to deal with the fact that I too (in that case) only have the conflict resolution skills of a 2-year-old...
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 28 January 2012 - 02:56
DS is going through an intermittent phase of biting for attention - which is slightly different than biting through anger, although they both share the same sense of frustration for the toddler. It all comes down to how you deal with it. Showing your in pain is a good way, but always tell him how best to express himself (as in "When you're angry, don't bite, say "Mummy, I'm angry!") and then get him to apologise... which is often the trickiest part! Your son's probably young for speaking, so you may want to think about signing. I taught DS the sign for sorry (and a few other things) so that even when he couldn't say the words, he could still express himself appropriately. Ho hum - they never told us about this kind of thing, did they?!
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 27 January 2012 - 10:37
thanks Kiwispiers, hoping it was a one off..will def follow ur advice should it happen again. i was so shocked that didnt know vwat to do
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 26 January 2012 - 15:50
Hopefully it was a one off, if it starts happening again then you do have to deal with. DS went through a phase of pulling my hair to get my attention and eventually I stopped it by walking away from him and giving myself "time out" in another room for 30 sec. A bit trickier to deal with in public but whatever you do it has to be immediate and short in duration at that age, and then followed by distraction/redirection.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 26 January 2012 - 14:03
I find the biggest battles (and tantrums) are always connected to food or meal times...I think it's the first thing they realise they have any control over. All the decisions in their lives are made for them and refusing food or throwing food is usually their way of showing you that you are not the boss of them :) Biting mommy is also really common...just watch him round other children (and adults) and he'll soon grow out of this too. Remember that he's little and he is learning his place in it, so behaviour like this is not always "being naughty" but just him seeing what works and what doesn't. I get through phases like this by repeating the mantra "I am a good mommy...this too shall pass" Hope this helps :)
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 26 January 2012 - 13:36
thanks but dont think he was tired or overstimulated,as just woke up from nap an 1 hour earlier..also as we had just ordered not really practical to leave.. hopefully this will phase out as schmoo said..
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EW GURU
Latest post on 26 January 2012 - 07:09
Normal! Probably your DS was just overtired or overstimulated. You can learn from that and start to see the signs - when he is acting naughty and seems to be losing control, that is a good time to take him home or for a walk in his stroller. He is just trying to tell you something he hasn't developed the words for.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 26 January 2012 - 07:02
Plenty normal , I'm afraid.Although biting isn't a good thing and should be discouraged, the temper and rage is understandable. Little people begin to have their own thoughts, likes and dislikes and want to make their own decisions at about this age...but have no real communication skills...hence the frustration and rage. My DD used to howl when she didn't get her own way...not pleasant in a nice peaceful coffee shop :) Don't despair...this too shall pass :)
 
 

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