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my dd is refusing food

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Latest post on 17 October 2011 - 13:18

My 14mo DD has all of a sudden decided she doesnt want her lunch and dinner. She always used to be a good eater but last week she got a tummy bug and ever since she has been off her food. When she was ill i was trying different things and she liked rusk mixed with milk. Ever since she now refuses her food and i give in and give her rusk and milk. Is she playing me?? She cant live off this all the time!
I feel as though i need Supernanny to come round and show me how its done!! I just feel like crying. She is whinging when i give her a sandwich (which is what she usually has and eats) and batting my hand away when i try her with potatoes etc! Arrrgggghhhhhh!!!
Im refusing to do dinner time.......daddy can do it!!!
Any ideas to get her to eat properly again or shall i just do the 'if you dont eat this, you wont get anything else'. But is she too young to understand this??

tia

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Latest post on 18 October 2011 - 19:19
My 14mo DD has all of a sudden decided she doesnt want her lunch and dinner. She always used to be a good eater but last week she got a tummy bug and ever since she has been off her food. When she was ill i was trying different things and she liked rusk mixed with milk. Ever since she now refuses her food and i give in and give her rusk and milk. Is she playing me?? She cant live off this all the time! I feel as though i need Supernanny to come round and show me how its done!! I just feel like crying. She is whinging when i give her a sandwich (which is what she usually has and eats) and batting my hand away when i try her with potatoes etc! Arrrgggghhhhhh!!! Im refusing to do dinner time.......daddy can do it!!! Any ideas to get her to eat properly again or shall i just do the 'if you dont eat this, you wont get anything else'. But is she too young to understand this?? tia Don't have much to add to HAK or Kiwispiers, except that it takes a while for little ones to get their appetites back after a gastro bug, even if it appears that their symptoms have subsided. Sometimes, it may take up to two weeks. I personally wouldn't push and would just give it time. HTH
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Latest post on 17 October 2011 - 22:48
well just to prove that HAK and I don't ALWAYS agree, I have a 14 month old and I am ok with him having some level of autonomy over what he eats, so if he really doesn't want something, I'll offer him something else. What I won't do is give him rusk and milk ;) Basically what I'm saying is she might truly not feel like whats on offer, given that she has just had a tummy bug, she might now has formed an association between old favourites and feeling really yucky. AS HAK said, she might like the extra attention of being spoonfed, you might need to puree her food a little more that normal etc. My wee guy is an excellent eater, I never make him finish his plate or leave him hungry but I only ever offer him the food I want him to eat, so he has no idea what pasta is, or chicken nuggets, rusk etc. Seems to have worked so far hehe - but I'm going to agree with you now! lol! Unlike my own parents, who did get us to finish what was on our plates, I'm not quite such a stickler as I made out... partly because I can't be bothered to think what tyo cook, I do give my children 2 choices of dinner (before I cook it) - but it's my choice, so it'll be "rice or pasta?" or something like that. There are certain things that I don't bother even suggesting - eggs in any form seem to be out at the moment - DS refuses to touch it and DD only likes the yolks of fried eggs, so with that kind of waste going on, I may as well not bother, so I don't. What I never do is rush around cooking a second meal if the first is refused or rummaging through the cupboards for alternatives. Pudding is a handy bribe to eat a bit more, but if they haven't eaten much veg, they'll get a fruity pudding to compensate and I'd be shooting myself in the foot if I denied them it. BUT, yes... I've done this right from the word go and those are my rules. Obviously, I can't rewind and see if my kids would have been any different had I not had those rules, but they will generally try most things and have healthy appetites, albeit with their quirks (Ds won't touch cheese or cheese sauce... or cheese on pizza... or cheese spread not potatoes, or eggs in any form). I also accept that, as human beings, they don't actually have to like everything, so as long as they try it, I'm happy (and I can tell if they're fussing or genuinely make the effort but decide they don't like it, in which case I offer them more of what I've cooked that they do like... always a balance). They're 2 and 4, by the way. <em>edited by Hello.Again.Kitty on 17/10/2011</em>
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Latest post on 17 October 2011 - 18:01
well just to prove that HAK and I don't ALWAYS agree, I have a 14 month old and I am ok with him having some level of autonomy over what he eats, so if he really doesn't want something, I'll offer him something else. What I won't do is give him rusk and milk ;) Basically what I'm saying is she might truly not feel like whats on offer, given that she has just had a tummy bug, she might now has formed an association between old favourites and feeling really yucky. AS HAK said, she might like the extra attention of being spoonfed, you might need to puree her food a little more that normal etc. My wee guy is an excellent eater, I never make him finish his plate or leave him hungry but I only ever offer him the food I want him to eat, so he has no idea what pasta is, or chicken nuggets, rusk etc. Seems to have worked so far
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Latest post on 17 October 2011 - 17:02
Thanks ladies.....starving it is then!!! HAK how old are your two? Did you implement this from an early age?
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Latest post on 17 October 2011 - 15:19
Is she playing me?? Any ideas to get her to eat properly again or shall i just do the 'if you dont eat this, you wont get anything else'. In short... yes. To both. Fair enough when she was poorly she would be off her food (tummy bugs aren't nice), but if she's back up to full health, then she should be resuming her normal diet. Could it also be possibly linked to how she ate her baby-food (because rusk and milk is baby food)... were you, for example, paying her more attention at mealtimes than you normally do, or maybe spoon-feeding her when you usually wouldn't? I'm a big one for eating what's put in front of you if there are no extenuating circumstances. I sometimes let the kids have a tospy-turvy meal (pudding first), and on occasion, DS has refused to eat while his sister is having a yogurt, so he has one too and then returns to his main course... or if he doesn't he will get down from the table and I'll keep the plate there for about 30 minutes. If he decides he's hungry again, he'll get to finish off the plate, but no other snacks, treats or milk. My two know the score now and only rarely play up at meal-times.
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Latest post on 17 October 2011 - 15:03
Let her go hungry for a bit. If she dosent want to eat then leave her. Try her again nxt mealtime. She will soon be moaning for food!
 
 

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