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Q for mums who use reward / sticker charts

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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 23 January 2011 - 11:01

Hi,

I'd like to know from mums who use the reward / sticker chart system, what do you give stickers or stars for?
Do you use it on a daily basis or just for a specific behaviour issue that you would like to address?
Or do you use it for your children to earn "privileges" such as tv / computer games etc?

Thanks

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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 23 January 2011 - 16:10
My 5 just 5 year old seems to have gone deaf overnight and I feel like I reprimand him all day long! can't be nice for him and it exhausts me. So I'm trying to work out which 3 or 4 things I can reward him for daily, without it being too difficult for him to achieve and link it to something he can be rewarded for daily ie. tv / ipad time etc. This shouldn't be too hard for me to work out but I feel like I don't have a clear head at the moment and am so frustrated with the constant ignoring, not listening, whinging and tantrums! He used to be such a pleasure! Oh no Gemm, i bet when you go to kiss him goodnight and he's fast asleep looking angelic, you feel guilty for being on his case all day, they are crafty little monkeys bless em! :) good luck sorting him out
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 23 January 2011 - 13:57
We recently started using a star chart for our 4yr old DD. It was mainly to tackle some behaviors that we wanted to change (coming into our bed in the middle of the night, thumb-sucking, etc). After 3 stars we reward her with a small surprise (value of 5-10 dhs) and reinforce that good behavior. I must say, it's working really well and she is so proud of herself as well. Good luck to you! <em>edited by Kaba on 23/01/2011</em>
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 23 January 2011 - 11:45
My 5 just 5 year old seems to have gone deaf overnight and I feel like I reprimand him all day long! can't be nice for him and it exhausts me. So I'm trying to work out which 3 or 4 things I can reward him for daily, without it being too difficult for him to achieve and link it to something he can be rewarded for daily ie. tv / ipad time etc. This shouldn't be too hard for me to work out but I feel like I don't have a clear head at the moment and am so frustrated with the constant ignoring, not listening, whinging and tantrums! He used to be such a pleasure!
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 23 January 2011 - 11:31
I use one for DD who's 3. We tackle an issue at a time, so for the past 9 months it's been variations on a theme of potty training, starting off on a gold star for every wee on the potty and once we cracked that, it moved on to a sticker for every dry night. She did, however get bored of the stars and so we had to tweak it a bit with a bribe at the end of every day with no accidents. Bit of a tricky one. Fortunately, she then got bored of the bribes! We're now changing it to tackle her tantrums... and have brought out the big guns - gold stars AND chocolate. It's a difficult one because it's now rewarding for something that doesn't happen, so it's a question of how to keep up the momentum and interest. The thing is, imo, only offer what you are happy for them to have or not have. I won't use television as a reward, because if she doesn't earn it, then DS loses out too.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 23 January 2011 - 11:24
My son is 8, so obviously it has to be age appropriate but we used his so he had some responsibility, for example if he makes his bed he gets a smiley face ,if he does his homework, puts clothes in laundry bin , that kind of thing, then on a Thursday he gets pocket money linked to chart. I'm not doing it at mo because we are having a break when you do the chart constantly they become immune to it I'm my experience , and as he's behaving ( for now!) there's no need but when I feel he's getting lazy/ spoilt I whip the old chart out! ELC do a lovely magnetic chart with all the smileys, stars, etc. I does work you just tailor it to suit the goals you are trying to achieve. Good luck :)
 
 

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