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Desperate for help from experienced mommies!!!!!!!!!!!!

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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 30 March 2011 - 13:19

Hello ladies, i am fairly new to this site and i have an important question for you experiences moms out there! I have a 17 month old... who still, hate to admit, sleeps with me and i still breastfeed full time... I would love to wean her but its next to impossible, i need suggestions desperately! She loves breast milk she wont take a bottle or dummy or anything!!!!!! she is a really picky eater and she naps twice a day for one hour sometimes two for one nap and she sleeps really late with us and sleeps in i would like to get her more regimented its just so hard! I love her sooooooo much and find it hard to even put her in her crib but even then she wakes up many times at night to breastfeed! To top it off ive gotten advice about the ferber method, havent read book yet, but she is such a stubborn and hardheaded baby that i dont think it would work with her? Any advice is much appreciated i am just always exhausted from the hardwork and i hope to get a break sooooooon! Thanks again all!

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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 30 March 2011 - 22:57
You are not going to be able to tackle everything at once, it will have to be step by step changes. I would start with the sleeping rather than the feeding, and my suggestion would be cut out one of the daytime sleeps. Then your DD will be tired early in the evening and you can try and settle her earlier, thus leaving you with some 'me' time! If she is having a morning and afternoon nap, I would change this to one nap straight after lunch, and limit it to 1 1/2 hours, then by 7pm she should be more tired. Also, at this age, no need to give her anything in a bottle, she can go straight to cups. When you are ready to tackle the weaning, just start by cutting out one of the daytime milk feeds, and then gradually drop each feed one by one over a course of a few weeks. She will be waking up at a night for feeds purely out of habit and for comfort, rather than hunger, so although it will be hard for you, if you want to stop this habit you will have to be a little tough!!!
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EW GURU
Latest post on 30 March 2011 - 21:31
Not sure if this article will help you: http://www.breastfeeding.asn.au/bfinfo/babes.html What a fab article!
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 30 March 2011 - 15:01
Indeed - it's only a problem if it's a problem [b'>for you[/b'>... Also, being firm doesn't mean to say that you love your child any less than what you already do. It's up to you to set the rules of your house and stick to them - and this often creates a happier environment for all concerned. As for your daughter being headstrong, I've been there, done that and got the tattoo. My DD is... her wonderful, unique self, but believe me, she is at her best when her energy is channelled and she definitely knows the boundaries we've set. Not saying she always sticks to them, but she knows them! lol
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EW GURU
Latest post on 30 March 2011 - 14:24
Don't hate to admit it! Lots of families find that co-sleeping works very well for them :). Ditto full-term breastfeeding. Don't be ashamed of any of your parenting choices. Now...night weaning...Dr Jay Gordon's plan is very popular with many co-sleeping mums who wish to night-wean. http://drjaygordon.com/attachment/sleeppattern.html I also like Dr Sears' 12 alternatives for the all-night nurser: http://www.askdrsears.com/html/7/t070800.asp Good luck in finding a solution that meets the needs of both baby and you. xx
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 30 March 2011 - 13:37
Not sure if this article will help you: http://www.breastfeeding.asn.au/bfinfo/babes.html
 
 

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