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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 28 June 2011 - 16:19

I'm an expat living in Dubai since past four and a half years. Last year, in May, I realized I were pregnant after having tried for about an year. The months that followed were the happiest in my entire life. In November, almost 7 months into my pregnancy, I flew to my native taking a work break. After unsuspecting 2 weeks, my water broke resulting in a preterm baby boy who died in NICU after eleven days. I was close to 31 weeks pregnant when I delivered.

Tomorrow will be exactly 7 months since my baby died. These have been and continue to be the saddest, most devastating and frustrating days. My baby son was uttrely beautiful, looked just the way imagined he would be when he was inside. He's just not in my arms now.

I saw Dr. Grace Jacob few weeks ago who told me we can start trying for another baby now, its 7 months since my surgery. She told me she will take care that this thing doesn't happen again. I don't know when I will get pregnant again as I have mild PCOS and my husband' sperm count is about 30 million/ml.

But if I ever get pregnant again, then I plan to stick with Dr. Grace and also get registered with Al Wasl in advance.

I need some words of support and advice from you regarding my situation. I have heard about Dr. Rosalie too. Can anyone advise whether she'd be better than Grace? My husband really liked Grace.

Anyway. Any words/suggestions by you all is appreciated.

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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 02 July 2011 - 12:23
Thanks Sant for the feedback. Did you see Dr. Grace only after you were pregnant or did you happen to see her during TTC?
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 30 June 2011 - 10:28
Hi Twin butterfly I agree with your suggestion. I too should have not stuck with my first doctor because she never gave any consideration for a first time mom, and chided me for my worries & questions. I stuck with her mainly because everything was normal with me, and I was planning to deliver in my native country. This time I decided of course not to go back to her but met a 'famous' doctor in Welcare, after waiting for over two months for an appointment. She talked to me without any empathy, asked me to undergo several tests, and said she will see me after a months with results. The day of the appointment, her nurse calls me to say there is no need for you to come over (although I did have an appointment), tests have not discovered the reason, but you have pco, so start on metformin. I really wanted to see the doctor and ask many questions to reassure myself but I wondered what kind of doctor refuses to meet patients inspite of an appointment and passes messages through nurse. The nurse is a rude one that too and carries a chip on her shoulder always. Thanks for all your suggestions.
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EW GURU
Latest post on 30 June 2011 - 01:15
cp80, I cannot say how sorry I am to hear about your loss. But think bright and think about the future! I am sure you will manage to make a beautiful and healthy baby. Whichever doctor you decide to go with, make sure you are comfortable asking all the questions you need. I also had a high risk pregnancy and was not happy with my Dr who was a good doctor but just did not seem to like me asking lots of questions which is normal of a first-time mum-to-be with the added high risk. It may be a good idea to see a couple or three and then settle with the one you are happiest with. I ended up delivering via emergency cesarean while my Dr was out of town and ended up loving the Dr that happened to be on duty and who delivered my baby, so now I have switched to her. I regret not having looked into switching at the first signs of not being happy with my gyneco. My thoughts are with you and I wish you much luck
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 29 June 2011 - 10:06
Im sorry I dont have any Doc recommendations but just wanted to say I am so sorry for your devastating loss.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 29 June 2011 - 09:14
redrec- sent you an email. You may delete your id.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 28 June 2011 - 19:54
Guiness thanks for the reply. I didn't understand your post fully. Was dr. Grace able to save both your twins?
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 28 June 2011 - 18:53
I wouldn't want to go to the doctor I saw last time. She was someone who just wouldn't let me ask questions. I wasn't comfortable with her but had stuck because I didn't have any complications and was going to my native country for my delivery anyway. Dr. Grace is someone I saw just now. I want to go to her for my next pregnancy after I confirm she can fully help me.
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EW OLDHAND
Latest post on 28 June 2011 - 18:48
Cp-80, I'm sorry for your loss. When I first came to Dubai (2009), I was pregnant with twins. Since my good friend had delivered her son with Dr Grace, I opted to deliver with her as well. A couple of months after being here, I found out that one of the twins had a big problem and wouldn't last the pregnancy - or live if it did. It put the healthy baby at a big risk. So I asked my friend, who was a doctor, to ask around and find out who was the best high-risk doctor in Dubai. She came back and said everyone agrees - Dr. Grace. (Dr. Elsa may not have been here at the time) So I stayed with Dr Grace and the baby that was healthy is now 2. She was an excellent doctor and I highly recommend her.
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 28 June 2011 - 18:47
My insurance is also QIC/NAS and we are covered for City. Perhaps query it with whoever deals with insurance at your work/your husband's work?
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 28 June 2011 - 18:38
cp 80 - I'm so sorry for your loss, another angel to pave the paths up there! I think I'd stay with the doctor you know already, sometimes it's a familiar face and that smile that you know that is most comforting at difficult times? I'm afraid I can't give you any advice on dr's since I don't know any over here but I'd personally would stick with the one I know Take care & best of luck x
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 28 June 2011 - 17:19
Thank you for the kind words. Forever 21 - am sorry about your loss. My due date was in Jan. I saw a different doctor last time in Dubai. This time, I read (on this forum) that Dr. Grace is high-risk specialist and went to see her. I have read about Elsa too. Just wanted to be sure am going to the best high-risk specialist. My insurance covers all hospitals but doen't cover City (Its QIC NAS). That's why I didn't go to Elsa. It will be very hard for me to afford that tratement. I would like to talk to someone who met Dr. Grace first hand for a high risk case like mine. Thank you.
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EW GURU
Latest post on 28 June 2011 - 16:44
I cannot imagine what you've been going through. I am deeply sorry for your loss. I've heard good things about Dr. Elsa. I had Dr. Ekatrina who was at City hospital but moved to infinity clinic. Not sure what hospital she associates herself with now. I had both mine born at 35 weeks and she was very good with my last one. Best wishes, prayers and thoughts with you.
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 28 June 2011 - 16:33
I don't know what to say, other than I am so sorry for your loss. I cannot even begin to imagine what you've been through and are still going through. I would say if you're happy with your doctor, stay with her as she knows you and she knows your history. If you do want recommendations for alternatives, I see Dr Elsa at City and while she is busy and hard to get an appointment with, she specialises in high-risk pregnancy and I am very happy with her. Good luck.x
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 28 June 2011 - 16:30
So saddened to read about the loss of you LO cp80, I too lost my LO this January so I can truly say I know what a struggle it is when days start reminding you how old your LO would have been. Sorry I cannot offer any advice in terms of Dr's but I should think since your current Dr is familiar with you and you condition-she is your best shot unless you are unhappy with her I'm sure your LO was as beautiful as you have described and I wish you all the best with your future baby plans.
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EW OLDHAND
Latest post on 28 June 2011 - 16:26
I am so very sorry for the devastation of losing your little boy, I hope you fall pregnant this time without any difficulty, you deserve it. I don't know any Dr.'s here in Dubai to recommend, but I am sure you will get lots of responses.
 
 

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