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Scared to take my DS back to nursery :(

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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 13 January 2012 - 13:49
Thanks for the comments ladies. I did have a talk and they promised to look into it and took extra care of my DS on his second day. He was a bit clingy and uncomfortable and was crying again when I picked him up although it seemed the teachers were really more attentive that day. However I still have an uneasy gut feeling about the nursery now and am actually looking at another one tomorrow instead (Ladybird which I have heard good things about).
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 10 January 2012 - 23:51
Quite honestly, a lot of the time adults don't quite know what may or may not have happened and who did what first My family own and run nurseries in Australia. Staff may not always know the exact details of what lead to it - but in a nursery there should always be adequate supervision to have seen if a child has been hit, or has fallen, or hurt themselves etc. Its not like parents at home, where our kids might be fighting in another room, or we may have been doing something else and not have seen an incident occur. Nursery staff are paid and trained to do nothing else but supervise your children. If there were several staff there with the children and none of them was paying enough attention to the children to see it - there really is no excuse for that in a nursery setting.
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 10 January 2012 - 23:38
Quite honestly, a lot of the time adults don't quite know what may or may not have happened and who did what first, but it is simply not acceptable for them to be ignoring a crying child, regardless of why s/he may be upset. You're paying them to see to your son's well-being, end of. I'm quite relaxed when it comes to incidents, but this would set my warning bells going. Tomorrow, sit down with the principal and have a reasonable discussion about it. Trust your feelings and if you feel the staff are just paying you lip-service, find a place that actually does what it's meant to.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 10 January 2012 - 13:46
Please update us on what action is taken by the management and if you do take your son out, please don't hesitate to share the name of the nursery so we know what to steer clear of. Hope you find a better place soon!
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 10 January 2012 - 00:55
Thanks for your reply. I'm a first time mum so wasn't sure if I was overreacting or not. I am going to have a talk with the centre manager when I take him next and if my son is still not happy I will pull him out. Poor thing is a very social kid but 3 is too young to have to deal with a bully!
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 10 January 2012 - 00:47
I think you are quite justified to be worried about this! Not only is it questionable that they were not taking action to comfort your son - the fact that they did not know what happened indicates the supervision is less than adequate. Perhaps look around for a new nursery. Don't worry - they're not all like this!
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 10 January 2012 - 00:38
My DS who is 3 started nursery today. He did really well and thankfully no tears when I left him there. However when I went to pick him up he was in tears - it seems a boy had hit him on the head. My DS is quite a tough kid so it must have hurt for him to cry as hard as he was. What alarmed me was the staff were just standing around chit chatting while he was bawling his eyes out and claimed not to know why he was crying. No one was comforting him or trying to see what was wrong and avoided my questioning. My son explained what happened but I saw no real action being taken to discipline the other boy. Maybe I am being too sensitive? He is not very excited about going again and to be honest I am not feeling too confident with the nursery itself...
 
 

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