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Are these normal emotions?

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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 29 December 2012 - 09:43

DS has been really ill in the start of his life (hes only 5 months old) and most of our strength and emotion has been used up with doing all we can to get him better. Hes now settled much more and gaining weight so thats a massive relief for me and DH.

As hes getting older hes just becoming so darn cute everyday. I find myself looking at him in awe every morning, when I open my eyes in the morning the fist thing I think is 'yay your up', when he takes a nap I start missing him, if me and DH are relaxing in the evening I find us both only talking about him (me more so). I just cant get enough of him and I cant get over him. This is not something DH minds. He also feels the same but definitely not to the extent that I do. If DH is home and DS takes a nap then DH takes advantage of that time to un wind and do his own thing. I do my own thing too but with DS constantly on my mind.

Is it normal to be this much attached to your baby? If so how do mummys go out and work when here I am twiddling my thumbs just wanting him to wake from a nap so I can play with him!

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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 29 December 2012 - 15:47
Daza I'm sorry I certainly didnt mean to start a thread about women going to work loving their kids any less. What I was trying to say was that it must be so difficult and I cant imagine being able to do it myself. Mostly because our DS has been so ill and is still ill so it would be near enough impossible for somebody apart from me or DH to take care of him. Sami I cant believe how tough your LO's start to life has been. Its so heart breaking. I spent so much time in hospital just staring at my LO with needles and things in him feeling nothing but guilt as if it was my fault. I cant imagine not being able to even touch our LO for 2 months. Your so brave. How is your baby getting along now? Much much better I hope. I agree we have been through alot which is likely what steers my trail of thought towards babies being left alone at home with other people but as Daza put it everybodys circumstances are different.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 29 December 2012 - 13:51
Dubaicitychick I have one through something similar as well my DD was born very prematurely and we were told several times that she would not live through the night. She has now been home for several month and doing so well mashallah. I had an amazing job which I truly loved but I gave it up so that I could stay home with her. My parents were not very happy about it and my mom thinks I spoil her by holding her too much but as a parent of a critically ill child we have missed physical contact with our babies for weeks and months. We had to ask permission to touch and hold our babies ( I was allowed to hold her for the first time when she was a month old !) we may hug a little tighter, we are reluctant to give our babies to others, but be gentle with us, we have been through a lot. Unless you have ever had to ask permission to hold your baby, don't judge us. My point is that it is totally normal to feel this way I love the lack of sleep, the teething and can't stop talking about her either. There is only such a short time when they are so small enjoy him now.
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Latest post on 29 December 2012 - 13:09
Totally normal! It's lovely that you are so smitten with your baby. There are chemical changes in your brain that happen when you have a baby. As babies are completely helpless it is to help ensure that you stick around to look after them. The levels of what ever chemical it is gradually decrease as your baby gets older and are completely gone by the time they are about 2. Which is not to say that you stop loving your baby so much then, the chemicals are just to help you through the labour intensive sleep deprived first couple of years! As for how mummys go out to work, I know plenty that don't have a choice and hate leaving their baby. I also know just as many that love their babies just as much as the ones who stay home but like the added stimulation that work gives them. Also a few that go mad with boredom and can't wait to get back to work. Nothing wrong with any of the above!
 
 

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