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Help - LO has become a night feeder!

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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 14 February 2013 - 15:42

Hi ladies! My 5.5mnth LO has gone from sleeping 1130-630am to waking up every 3 hrs for a feed! And as a consequence he's not feeding much during the day :( any suggestions? Not sure how we've come to this - but we are exhausted!

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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 20 February 2013 - 13:53
you are right meagle - and i agree i am not so stringent on time schedules - and try to follow the napping 2-2.5hrs post wake up too - altho recently he has been wanting to stay up that bit later/longer before his morning and afternoon nap and i have attributed it to him getting a little older but it seems thats not working either!
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EW GURU
Latest post on 20 February 2013 - 13:25
Not saying that he needs to be in bed at 5 every night. Just saying that part of your night troubles are likely due to the fact that he's getting overtired during the day because he's being kept awake too long. I'm not a fan of set schedules for babies. They aren't robots. They are very fickle when it comes to sleep. 15 minutes early or late can make a huge difference for them (early means they often refuse to sleep and late may make them overtired and sleep worse not better). That's why we've had both my kids on a routine based on wake times until they cut down to a single nap at an older age. Following those general wake time guidelines by age, my nearly 10 month old JUST started staying up until 7pm. She's been on a 6/6:30 bedtime most nights. Not ideal when you're a working mom, I know. But, wouldn't you rather wake up to a happy, well rested baby a little earlier in the morning than a cranky one? Or one that is waking less at night and allowing you to get better, longer sleep? It can be a trade off. You can also go to bed earlier to help make the night wakings a little easier to handle as you'll be getting a little more sleep earlier in the evening. <em>edited by Meagle on 20/02/2013</em>
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 20 February 2013 - 13:11
because i have family and a nanny watching him and they go in and check to see if hes fallen asleep and everything is written down :) yes hes started solids - hes on 2 x a day now....
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EW GURU
Latest post on 20 February 2013 - 13:05
If you're at work, how are you sure he's getting that much sleep? My 6 month old has started just being quiet in his bed rather than sleeping sometimes during the day! Also is he on solids yet?
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 20 February 2013 - 12:28
well uptil a few weeks ago - hes always been on 7-7 schedule and thats what im desperately trying to bring back - as i also work so i get to see him when i get home... :( plus the fact that 5-5 is just not sustainable going forward - specially the being up at 5!
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EW GURU
Latest post on 20 February 2013 - 12:10
It looks like your days aren't adding up. If he should never be awake more than 2-2.5 hours MAX based on age with the longest stretches saved for the end of the day, if he's up at 7am, down by 9 for a 1-1.5 hr nap that means he's awake again by 10/10:30. That means he should go down again around 12:15-1pm with a 1.5 hour nap you get to 2:30pm at the latest. He'd need to be down for the night at 5pm. Sounds like his days are off and that's making him wake so soon at 8/9pm to eat.
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 20 February 2013 - 11:25
at the moment - i am feeding him 6.30pm and 11pm. when he wakes up at 9pm we put him back to bed as i just feel its too soon to be hungry? we are also putting him back to bed anytime bween 3-6 without food as what was happening is that he would eat and then not be hungry at 7am (and start of a vicious circle) he has a 1,5-2hr nap in the morning and a 1-1.5hr nap at 1ish. i try to get him down for a nap at 4ish but he rarely agrees to it. even if we are out for a walk and hes in the pram or car!
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EW GURU
Latest post on 20 February 2013 - 11:04
He's only 5.5 months. He very well could need 1-2 night feeds. That 9pm feed is probably due to being overtired or habit. He should be able to make it longer than that. Double check his day schedule again. If you're sure he's eating enough during the day and he isn't overtired due to not enough daytime sleep (which you can and should correct), make him cry it out for that "feeding", but set a cut off. Any wake up after say 1am, let him eat. It'll get everyone back to bed much more quickly. My daughter is nearly 10 months and is just now working on dropping her last night feeding. It's gone from 3:30 am to 4:30 and now is happening at 5:30. If they are well rested and getting enough to eat, they will eventually sleep through the night on their own.
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 20 February 2013 - 10:28
Im exhausted!!!!! and i know he is feedng well during the day - so i feel hes waking up for a cuddle and will only sleep in my arms - i put him back in his cot and he flips out! WHats so weird tho - is he can self settle for naps and normal bedtimes - so why is he waking so much at night? hes waking at 9pm at 3 and at 5! By 6am i give up and feed him as i figure i may as well get an extra hour with him before work. But its exhausting! And im too tired to make him cry it out!
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 19 February 2013 - 09:57
I'm having exactly the same problem with my 5.5 month old. before he would sleep 8pm - 6.30 am with a dream feed at 11.30, for the past 4 days he has woken up at 4am for half a bottle and not gone back to sleep until 5.30 i have to get up at 7 for work and other child. I dont want to let him cry as it will wake my 2 year old little girl who is a light sleeper, Its killing me, back at work and having to drive to abu dhabi twice a week. my eyes and half shut writing this at my desk i could easily climb under my desk and go to sleep :-(
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 18 February 2013 - 20:59
Hi Meagle - agreed and he typically naps for around 3-4hrs a day. But recently he's wanting to stay up a bit later. We have now managed to get rid of the 1am wake up. We are still getting the 830pm ( not feeding him then) and around 4-5am and I try and hold out til 6ish (super tough) I knw he's def feeding better during the day and we have slowly been introducing solids recently.
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EW GURU
Latest post on 17 February 2013 - 10:52
Asleep at 7 and waking so soon at 8:30 is a telltale sign of overtired and it's unlikely to be hunger. At 5-6 months, baby should never be awake longer than 2-2.5 hours at a stretch and that would be the longest of the day (typically right before bed) and earlier in the day wake times should be much, much shorter. I'd suggest you reevaluate baby's daytime schedule and readjust accordingly. Sleep begets sleep. Also make sure baby is falling asleep independently. If baby's nursed/rocked/walked to sleep, baby's going to require that same method to fall back asleep if he rewakes up during the night.
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EW OLDHAND
Latest post on 16 February 2013 - 17:03
welcome to the club :) my ds started at the same age and he used to take 2-3 feeds at night. now at 10 month old he takes only 3 feeds a day as compared to 4-6 times a night!! doc says don't feed him at night..what to do then. i tried for 3 nights not to feed him and let him comfort himself but he became so angry that after full blow cries didn't went back to sleep for 3 hrs!! needless to say i lost battle after 3 days. i try to comfort him if he does not go back to sleep i give him feed.he cries with hiccups and clings to me so tightly that i do not like but i definitely need him to sleep fully at night. the only help is that i have a short sleep cycle.
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 14 February 2013 - 20:39
He went to bed at 7pm and its 830pm and he's just woken up howling!
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 14 February 2013 - 20:27
Yes that's also my concern - that it's become a habit - and he's so full from night feeds that he's inefficient during the day! Yesterday I fed him at 7pm 9pm and 12.30! Def too much! He woke up again at 4ish but I just tried to console him til 615am when I gave him a feed. (On previous nights, he's eaten so much at 4am - he refuses my boob at 7am!) I ave recently started introducing both formula and purées (once a day)
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 14 February 2013 - 18:50
my dd used to feed once during the night until 6 months. someone told that after 6 months their bodies should consume enough during the day to sleep 8 hours without needing a feed. she told me to just give a cuddle and dummy (if you use one) when she woke in the night and then put her back down without any milk. this worked for the most part, and after a few days she stopped waking in the night as she had started eating more in the day. I think the waking was more habit than hunger. it was around this time I started on purees etc too so that probably filled her up in the day too which im sure helped get her through the night.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 14 February 2013 - 18:01
If he is like both my kids , I would say: don't worry, and feed him on demand because it is just a phase that will pass in a few days - weeks top. I am unsure what the reason behind it is, maybe teething, or maybe an impending new milestone or that at this age they become more alert in general. I know you will get the advice to start him on solids. I wouldn't rush into that unless he fullfills the other classic signs of readiness for other food than milk. And starting solids doesn't guarantee you a better nights sleep anyway, because some babies sleep worse for a few nights when they start solids because of pontential digestive issues. Try to rest as much during the day as possible and get yourself and baby out in the fresh air and a bit of light during the day
 
 

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