find out who the boy is through her fb page and write a message on his profile saying you will threaten to call the police if he does not leave the little girl alone. The fact that he is 4-5 years older and is posting on her page with rude words could be construed as s3xual harrassment and he should be told that this could land him in jail.
That should stop the little sh*t.
just to add...I would also consider involving his parents in this.
Is that not cyber bullying??? Its not a very mature approach to the situation really!
Telling a 14 year old boy who is harrassing a 9 year old girl that you will call the police is bullying?????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????? Get a grip
Threatening a 14 year old on facebook yes...does that not just make you as bad as him!!!
summerdream, not meaning to be rude but are you a trained social worker who works for an actual organization or are you doing this off your own back?
Just thinking in terms of you, because you may get yourself in over your head plus get into trouble if you're getting involved with other people's children without actually informing the parents...
I know you want to help, and I think its great that you want to but please be careful, I know you're thinking of the girl, but the fact of the matter is her parents are her guardians and by going behind their back you could end up upsetting people and getting yourself into trouble.
I would keep yourself at arms length, encourage her to talk to her parents and her school councilor, and explain that if she's afraid of telling her parents of Facebook the best thing to do is to delete it... actually its best to delete Facebook in any situation as it is against the rules to have it for a reason...
Definitely won't do this behind the parent's back, in this instance thought my own DD is involved as the girl has posted party pictures and the boy has got hold of this. So I will be telling the parents for one, that they should not allow pictures posting. I did want to make sure the school does something about this too.
find out who the boy is through her fb page and write a message on his profile saying you will threaten to call the police if he does not leave the little girl alone. The fact that he is 4-5 years older and is posting on her page with rude words could be construed as s3xual harrassment and he should be told that this could land him in jail.
That should stop the little sh*t.
just to add...I would also consider involving his parents in this.
Is that not cyber bullying??? Its not a very mature approach to the situation really!
Telling a 14 year old boy who is harrassing a 9 year old girl that you will call the police is bullying?????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????? Get a grip
I have to say the girl is afraid, but you know how it is, kids sometimes drum up fear of adults when really if they found out what was happening would totally be on her side, even though she may think she'll be in trouble...
she might get into trouble in the short term for having a FB page, but in the long term it will be better for her...
find out who the boy is through her fb page and write a message on his profile saying you will threaten to call the police if he does not leave the little girl alone. The fact that he is 4-5 years older and is posting on her page with rude words could be construed as s3xual harrassment and he should be told that this could land him in jail.
That should stop the little sh*t.
just to add...I would also consider involving his parents in this.
Is that not cyber bullying??? Its not a very mature approach to the situation really!
find out who the boy is through her fb page and write a message on his profile saying you will threaten to call the police if he does not leave the little girl alone. The fact that he is 4-5 years older and is posting on her page with rude words could be construed as s3xual harrassment and he should be told that this could land him in jail.
That should stop the little sh*t.
just to add...I would also consider involving his parents in this.
summerdream, not meaning to be rude but are you a trained social worker who works for an actual organization or are you doing this off your own back?
Just thinking in terms of you, because you may get yourself in over your head plus get into trouble if you're getting involved with other people's children without actually informing the parents...
I know you want to help, and I think its great that you want to but please be careful, I know you're thinking of the girl, but the fact of the matter is her parents are her guardians and by going behind their back you could end up upsetting people and getting yourself into trouble.
I would keep yourself at arms length, encourage her to talk to her parents and her school councilor, and explain that if she's afraid of telling her parents of Facebook the best thing to do is to delete it... actually its best to delete Facebook in any situation as it is against the rules to have it for a reason...
You take this to the school with evidence of what was written, print outs of the face book comments and let them handle it. Do not get involved personally before you know it you could have a police case against you.
edited by Jumeriah Jane on 18/01/2011
This is the approach I was looking at. Passing on print-outs to the class teacher through the child being bullied and talking to the parents about this. Its being going on for 6 months at least. The girl is quite scared though to bring this up to the teacher. I do know the teacher, who is lovely and have thought of starting up the topic for the child and letting the teacher deal with it.
Every third if not second child between 8-13 out here has a fb account. With full privacy settings in place many kids I know only use it for playing games and chatting with each other. I allowed my DD to use FB with me having the password and managing it for her.
Sorry posted before saw this, yes you must take it to the class teacher, head of pastoral care and the Head of school to deal with, i'm sure they will.
Don't know the parents and I want to resolve the issue not make it worse for the girl. Parents need to know and I will meet them to hopefully explain to them better. I have an indication what the parents are like and hence wondered if there were other suggestions out there.
As this case involves my DD to some extent, could I approach the bully's parents for instance?
I'm advising you very strongly to take this up with the schools concerned as a first port of call and let them deal with it. I have known mums here go to parents with similar issues in good faith have police cases put against them by the other parents. Be careful.
<em>edited by Jumeriah Jane on 18/01/2011</em>
You take this to the school with evidence of what was written, print outs of the face book comments and let them handle it. Do not get involved personally before you know it you could have a police case against you.
edited by Jumeriah Jane on 18/01/2011
This is the approach I was looking at. Passing on print-outs to the class teacher through the child being bullied and talking to the parents about this. Its being going on for 6 months at least. The girl is quite scared though to bring this up to the teacher. I do know the teacher, who is lovely and have thought of starting up the topic for the child and letting the teacher deal with it.
<em>edited by summerdream on 18/01/2011</em>
Firstly, you are opening a whole can of worms, it is not your business to confront the bully's parents, you are not the childs parent, you should advise the parents that she has asked for help, tell the school, but by no means should you go behind the parents back, this is not another country it is the UAE and you could find yourself in deep trouble for getting involved in this.
Advise her if you wish that she should close her account and speak to her parents, but thats about as far as i would take it, you dont have any authority to do anything more,
Why does a 9 year old have FB anyway???? Beyond belief there are allsorts of odd charachters, paedophiles, groomers and such like who target FB and young boys and girls and as another poster stated, she is not capable at that age to handle such things.
Regardless of hearsay about what the parents may or may not be doing to their child, you have no evidence that this is the case, how would you feel if the shoe was on the other foot and someone else was getting involved in your daughters affairs??
find out who the boy is through her fb page and write a message on his profile saying you will threaten to call the police if he does not leave the little girl alone. The fact that he is 4-5 years older and is posting on her page with rude words could be construed as s3xual harrassment and he should be told that this could land him in jail.
That should stop the little sh*t.
I agree with advising her to close her facebook account but I do not think you should tell or threaten to tell her parents if she is that afraid of them or she will never be able to speak to someone about her problems again. If the boy continues to harass her in school advise her to speak to a teacher she trusts.
Don't know the parents and I want to resolve the issue not make it worse for the girl. Parents need to know and I will meet them to hopefully explain to them better. I have an indication what the parents are like and hence wondered if there were other suggestions out there.
As this case involves my DD to some extent, could I approach the bully's parents for instance?
hmm, 9??? Terms of Facebook explicitly state they must be 13 years and above to have an account. Tell her to close her account and wait until she is 13. She does not have the skills to deal with this type of social networking as detailed in your post. Give her the option to close her account or threaten to go to her parents. I would be livid to find out if my DS or DD had an FB account before the age of 13.
You take this to the school with evidence of what was written, print outs of the face book comments and let them handle it. Do not get involved personally before you know it you could have a police case against you.
<em>edited by Jumeriah Jane on 18/01/2011</em>