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Do you tip nurses?

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Latest post on 16 August 2012 - 22:50

Ive recently spent a lot of time in and out of doctors and clinics and when my Dh first came with me, he tried to tip the nurse. I stopped him as I was quite embarrassed, but he said that in his country the staff would pretty much ignore any patient who didn't tip them regularly and this even extends to the doctors sometimes. It would never ever occur to me and yes, the nurses was pretty fantastic and friendly so I guess they deserved it.

Years ago a good friend of mine had moved to Rome and soon after got quite sick. She ended up in hospital and found the care very neglectful and couldnt work out why she wasnt getting the help she wanted. Of course she got her basic care, but if she rang the bell for water or extra pain relief she noticed it took ages to arrive. Ditto help bathing etc. It was only when an Italian friend visited her and explained that they were expecting tips for 'extra' help did she work out what was going on.

Anyone feel the need to tip nurses here in UAE? Do they accept the tips?

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Latest post on 23 September 2012 - 12:59
Well Said Genie!
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Latest post on 23 September 2012 - 12:52
I know I commented on this before but I will say it again - nurses do not expect and are not allowed to receive tips or any personal gifts. I know that many Emirati families traditionally give tips to midwives who deliver their babies but all hospitals here, as in the rest of the world, strictly forbid the staff to accept them. If pressed by the family, in order not to offend they are supposed to accept but then give the money to hospital admin. In a government hospital I worked at here this happended on the labour ward; sadly the vast majority of the midwives were from a country, previously mentioned on this thread, where this practice is rife and they kept the money. To my mind and the vast majority of nurses they just demean themselves and the whole profession by this behavior. Low salary is no excuse - everyone knows before they enter the profession that it involves long hours and relatively low pay. In the mid 80's I worked in central London in a very demanding job but had no disposable income after paying rent and bills but there is no way I would use that as an excuse for expecting or accepting a tip. tiktok 34 - you may speak for your friend but please do not presume to speak for nurses as a whole. I would tell her that if she expects and appreciates a tip she is in the wrong profession - she should go and work as a waitress or something similar. Rant over! DubaiCat - my blood pressure - and no doubt that of all professional nurses - is even higher than yours on this subject! edited by Genie on 23/09/2012 <em>edited by Genie on 23/09/2012</em>
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Latest post on 23 September 2012 - 12:39
Jeez, that's riled me so much I might need to go get my blood pressure checked. I wonder if I slip the nurse a fifty she might check my temperature for free. :)
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Latest post on 23 September 2012 - 12:30
I've been here 11 years and been in and out of various clinics and hospitals, in-patient and out-patient, and I have never once seen a nurse accept a tip. I'd be gobsmacked if I did! And as for a head midwife telling patients to tip to get better service... I'd be after having her fired. You simply cannot expect patients to cough up to be looked after. That's why they're at a clinic or a hospital, for heaven's sake, and it's not like they can bring you an extra croissant at breakfast to show they're doing a great job! Jeez, that's riled me so much I might need to go get my blood pressure checked. I wonder if I slip the nurse a fifty she might check my temperature for free.
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Latest post on 23 September 2012 - 12:16
Make sure it is not less than 50 or 100 dhs?? Sounds like there is certainly an expectation! I am still slightly floored by this. Lots of people work in thankless industries, work hard, etc. Does everyone who works hard deserve a tip if their salary is not "high?" How about firefighters in the USA. One of the most dangerous jobs, and they save lives everyday. They deal with rescuing and reviving people. Yet you will never hear someone suggesting they be tipped and they would never accept that. Must be relegated to this part of the world.
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Latest post on 23 September 2012 - 11:12
Haven't we already ben told that it is illegal for medical staff to accept tips, leaving aside the moral question.
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Latest post on 23 September 2012 - 11:10
My friend is a nurse and a tip is appreciated but not expected, since they work so hard and their salaries are not as high as they should be. It really depends on the situation
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Latest post on 23 September 2012 - 09:34
Wow! I'm shocked by this! I worked in the service industry (waitress/bar/private clubs) for ten years and only expected a tip when I deserved it. By and large this would work out, but I've found the more money someone appears to have, the less they will give you (as they aren't as wealthy as they are making out to their party). I have also been in and out of hospitals all my life, being particularly accident prone but would never tip medical staff. As it's been pointed out below, it is a vocation, I would hate to think that I would be given better care should money exchange hands! Scary really. Anyway, as has already been pointed out, if I have been especially looked after I would always write a thank you, or make a point of writing to the hospital/clinic in question to commend the people who looked after me. Also, when I was younger, my parents used to always bring in gifts on discharge day, chocolates, wine, that kind of thing. Since after hours, the nurses and doctors are the real ones that lend the emotional support to children staying in over night and you can't thank someone enough for that.
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Latest post on 22 September 2012 - 14:28
I know a lot of nurses and they would love a tip but just make sure it is not less than Dh50 or Dh100
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Latest post on 04 September 2012 - 21:27
We were 9 in Tony Roma's last night and 18% gratuity was added to our bill. This is illegal here now, isn't it?!
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Latest post on 29 August 2012 - 22:32
This is a new one for me! and you thought you had seen everything here on EW ;) yes but very little of worth recently...;) ain't that the truth.........
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Latest post on 29 August 2012 - 20:43
This is a new one for me! and you thought you had seen everything here on EW ;) yes but very little of worth recently...;)
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Latest post on 29 August 2012 - 20:23
This is a new one for me! and you thought you had seen everything here on EW ;)
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Latest post on 29 August 2012 - 20:19
This is a new one for me!
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Latest post on 29 August 2012 - 17:14
Completely unethical to tip a nurse but as others have said a token of appreciation after is nice but not cash. I'm sure in Eastern Europe it's the norm OP, bribery and corruption. Also hate the tipping system in the US. We actually had a waitress come back to us and tell us we hadn't tipped enough as we were a party of 8 or 10 I think. The Americans thought that was acceptable but the others couldn't believe the audacity. Generally though the device is efficient in the US albeit robotic style and too fast, starters and mains arriving simultaneously and clearing plates while others are still eating! We knew someone whose daughter was studying and she was raking it in as a waitress.
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Latest post on 29 August 2012 - 15:51
I was so touched by the care that the midwives and nurses gave us after my daughter was born at Welcare, including a lot of emotional support for breastfeeding; but the thought of tipping them never came to mind. We bought them a huge cake saying Thank You when we went back for DD's 2 week check up.
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Latest post on 29 August 2012 - 15:18
Bit off-topic from tipping nurses, but if you're ever happy with a young doctor, give them a card with a short appreciative note written inside - they can use it as evidence for the work they have accomplished in the year. It can help to get their next training position as well. Much better than chocolates (unless the choccies come with a card as well ;-D )
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Latest post on 29 August 2012 - 14:52
Never heard of tipping nurses, I never heard of that in American hospitals, anyway. But waitresses/waiters? In the US the hourly rate is around $2/hour. They survive on tips! Is it not the same here? I couldn't imagine not tipping in a restaurant....in any country, really. Restaurants in the US add the service charge to the bill so you have to pay whether the service you received was rubbish or excellent...we found it really annoying to be honest... That's only for big parties (i.e. a table of 6 or more). We were 9 in Tony Roma's last night and 18% gratuity was added to our bill. (sorry for digging this up but I looked at the receipt and this thread sprang to mind). http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2194797/Burlington-Vermont-restaurants-automatically-adds-tip-foreigners-bills.html I thought of this thread whilst reading this article.
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Latest post on 20 August 2012 - 19:18
Never heard of tipping nurses, I never heard of that in American hospitals, anyway. But waitresses/waiters? In the US the hourly rate is around $2/hour. They survive on tips! Is it not the same here? I couldn't imagine not tipping in a restaurant....in any country, really. Restaurants in the US add the service charge to the bill so you have to pay whether the service you received was rubbish or excellent...we found it really annoying to be honest... That's only for big parties (i.e. a table of 6 or more). We were 9 in Tony Roma's last night and 18% gratuity was added to our bill. (sorry for digging this up but I looked at the receipt and this thread sprang to mind). cheeky as its hardly fine dining where that sort of % is warranted.
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Latest post on 20 August 2012 - 19:16
Never heard of tipping nurses, I never heard of that in American hospitals, anyway. But waitresses/waiters? In the US the hourly rate is around $2/hour. They survive on tips! Is it not the same here? I couldn't imagine not tipping in a restaurant....in any country, really. Restaurants in the US add the service charge to the bill so you have to pay whether the service you received was rubbish or excellent...we found it really annoying to be honest... That's only for big parties (i.e. a table of 6 or more). We were 9 in Tony Roma's last night and 18% gratuity was added to our bill. (sorry for digging this up but I looked at the receipt and this thread sprang to mind).
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Latest post on 18 August 2012 - 12:56
zengirl, wow! I never noticed that in Carrefour. Prob because my DH pays with a card, and to be honest, I don't usually look at the exact total. Spinney's in Oud Metha made a big production out of giving change--a guy chased me out of the store once with a 25 fils piece (I think that is what the little one is? lol) Carrefour is a big culprit in not giving back change. I never pay cash there anymore. Thats because they dont have any coins smaller than 25 fils. Somone once posted on her that they recived 2 fils or 3 fils and they were a small copper coin. not many of those in circulation.
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Latest post on 18 August 2012 - 12:27
zengirl, wow! I never noticed that in Carrefour. Prob because my DH pays with a card, and to be honest, I don't usually look at the exact total. Spinney's in Oud Metha made a big production out of giving change--a guy chased me out of the store once with a 25 fils piece (I think that is what the little one is? lol) Carrefour is a big culprit in not giving back change. I never pay cash there anymore.
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Latest post on 18 August 2012 - 11:30
Never heard of tipping nurses, I never heard of that in American hospitals, anyway. But waitresses/waiters? In the US the hourly rate is around $2/hour. They survive on tips! Is it not the same here? I couldn't imagine not tipping in a restaurant....in any country, really. Restaurants in the US add the service charge to the bill so you have to pay whether the service you received was rubbish or excellent...we found it really annoying to be honest... That's only for big parties (i.e. a table of 6 or more). I wouldn't call 6 a big party and we had it on our bills when it was just the 4 of us... I think some waitresses add it on automatically if they anticipate a cheap customer. I have heard that Europeans are the worst tippers! so you're saying i look cheap........
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Latest post on 18 August 2012 - 10:04
zengirl, wow! I never noticed that in Carrefour. Prob because my DH pays with a card, and to be honest, I don't usually look at the exact total. Spinney's in Oud Metha made a big production out of giving change--a guy chased me out of the store once with a 25 fils piece (I think that is what the little one is? lol)
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Latest post on 18 August 2012 - 08:09
service staff cannot arbitrarily add a service charge to a bill. If you come across one that does, take it to the manager. If a service charge is by the company, it will be in small print at the bottom of the bill as well as on the menu (most of the time) The US is not the only place in the world that has a service charge. You will also find this in Canada, Europe, South America, Asia etc and surprise, here in Dubai there are many places that do the same thing so, check the menu and your bill to see if you have been paying a service charge. If so, you are not expected to tip on top unless the service has been exceptional. And no, you do not tip nurses any more than you tip a Doctor. You can however give them a gift (ie, chocolates/flowers/theater tickets etc) if you feel they went above and beyond their job. <em>edited by SueB on 18/08/2012</em>
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Latest post on 18 August 2012 - 07:15
Minimum wage doesn't apply to servers/bartenders. I worked at a steakhouse when I was 15 and everyone from hosts to bartenders were making 2.15 + tips. I was a hostess and made about $30-$50 a shift in tips. We shared tips and split them, some servers keep all their own tips. It just depends. I have no clue what the minimum wage is currently. When I was a teenager it was around $5, I think. kiwi, it is nice to know that somewhere, for some reason, some people love Americans lol :) Genuinely curious - is a server/waitress not service staff? If not who on earth are service staff?! haha, "server" is interchangeable with waiter/waitress. "Hi, I'm Beebers and I'll be your server today." :) At least that was our terminology when I worked in the restaurant and bar business. I didn't mean to deviate from the original discussion--sorry all. But I do find it informative; sometimes it is easy to assume that things are similar wherever you go regarding tipping. It seems that the USA may be the only country where waitstaff literally survive on tips for their income. Edited to add: for those that find this annoying, I suggest you avoid Egypt as you are expected to tip for even asking directions :) Bakshish! Personally it didn't bother me at all. I love Egypt :) <em>edited by Beebers on 18/08/2012</em>
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Latest post on 18 August 2012 - 03:50
Never heard of tipping nurses, I never heard of that in American hospitals, anyway. But waitresses/waiters? In the US the hourly rate is around $2/hour. They survive on tips! Is it not the same here? I couldn't imagine not tipping in a restaurant....in any country, really. Restaurants in the US add the service charge to the bill so you have to pay whether the service you received was rubbish or excellent...we found it really annoying to be honest... That's only for big parties (i.e. a table of 6 or more). I wouldn't call 6 a big party and we had it on our bills when it was just the 4 of us... I think some waitresses add it on automatically if they anticipate a cheap customer. I have heard that Europeans are the worst tippers!
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Latest post on 18 August 2012 - 02:24
Never heard of tipping nurses, I never heard of that in American hospitals, anyway. But waitresses/waiters? In the US the hourly rate is around $2/hour. They survive on tips! Is it not the same here? I couldn't imagine not tipping in a restaurant....in any country, really. Restaurants in the US add the service charge to the bill so you have to pay whether the service you received was rubbish or excellent...we found it really annoying to be honest... That's only for big parties (i.e. a table of 6 or more). I wouldn't call 6 a big party and we had it on our bills when it was just the 4 of us...
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Latest post on 18 August 2012 - 02:03
Never heard of tipping nurses, I never heard of that in American hospitals, anyway. But waitresses/waiters? In the US the hourly rate is around $2/hour. They survive on tips! Is it not the same here? I couldn't imagine not tipping in a restaurant....in any country, really. Restaurants in the US add the service charge to the bill so you have to pay whether the service you received was rubbish or excellent...we found it really annoying to be honest... That's only for big parties (i.e. a table of 6 or more).
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Latest post on 18 August 2012 - 01:59
yes it is unethical for the nurses to expect tips but i know ppl here in dubai who do give tips to nurses in hospitals. even one of a friend told that when her son was in the hospital coz of chest congestion, she used to tip nurses as a charity. infact when i was admitted in gyne ward on the delivery, i saw an emarati family being discharged after child birth and while gng the new mum came specially on nursing station to give tips.
 
 

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