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So what do you say to your 6 YO when (s)he asks where babies come from...?

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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 23 January 2012 - 18:18

...and how they are made etc..?

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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 25 January 2012 - 09:14
My daughter asked this at 5 and I told her the truth using the correct words. We started with birth and moved onto *** through a series of questions. If she had not outright asked about *** i would not have told her about it unprompted. She got the correct information, but only the information she specifically asked for. I figure if she wanted to know more, she could ask the question herself. When my 4 year old asked about babies at the dinner table, my oldest (9) spoke up and said: "Don't ask about that, its gross!" <em>edited by Gummy on 25/01/2012</em>
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 25 January 2012 - 07:54
I was furious when one of the Moms at school told her 5 yr old daughter the TRUTH....DS came home with a load of questions because this girl had blabbed it all out. I told her mother that it was not appropriate....she disagreed and told me where to shove it. Anyway, TG for C-Sect scars, that got me a good escape for a while. And I was furious when my daughter came back from school with crazy stories she had been told about it : like "my father gave birth to me" or other stupid things...Of course I used APPROPRIATE words and description to explain the whole thing. <em>edited by kikidubai on 25/01/2012</em>
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 24 January 2012 - 21:07
Hey! When my DS asked me, I just said that Daddy planted a seed in my tummy. He asked where the seed came from and I told him the truth..... Obviously, he then asked how the seed got in my tummy - 'did you eat it' he asked - erm no!!! When I eventually had my daughter, there was the whole series of questions of how she came out, which resulted in 'GROSS' but hey, no more questions! I dont believe in lying to children, but putting in not too graphic details etc....
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EW GURU
Latest post on 24 January 2012 - 19:31
Sometimes the more mysterious you make something appear, the more LO's want to know about it. IMO it's best to say it how it is (on pretty much most subjects) but to put it into context with how old they are and in line with what they are learning at that time. For example most 5/6 year olds have already learned about life cycles of different animals and plants at school. This is not stretching things much further than that. I've already been asked by my 5yo. Mummy and Daddy each have a seed and when those seeds join up, they make a baby and after a while the baby has grown enough to come out of Mummy's tummy. This lead to various questions about why only mummies can have babies in their tummies and not daddies etc. (er obviously because Daddies couldn't cope with the pain/trauma etc :D ) - and lots of other questions but I think in their minds it is the same sort of question as asking the next day where volcanoes come from etc. it's just another "Why or How" in their minds and that's how we should treat it. IMHO. . <em>edited by Muesli Bar on 24/01/2012</em>
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 24 January 2012 - 19:11
I don't think it's 'abnormal' for a 5 year old to know how babies are made. Some children want to know anything and everything and and as long as you word it in the right, age appropriate way, I don't see the harm in telling them. Before I got my (then) four year old the book a typical exchange would go something like this: DD: How did a baby get in your tummy? Me: Daddy put it there. DD: How did Daddy put it there? Me: Mummy and Daddy had a special sort of cuddle and the baby started growing. DD: Can you show me? Me: No DD: Why not? Me: Because some things, like making a baby are just for adults. Married adults. DD: Like beer? Me: Sort of. DD: But how did the baby start growing. Me: Daddy put a seed in mummy's tummy. DD: Where did the seed come from? Me: In Daddy's body. DD: But WHERE in Daddy's body. Me: Um, near his willy. DD: How did he get it out? Me: Let's get a book.
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 24 January 2012 - 16:51
I was furious when one of the Moms at school told her 5 yr old daughter the TRUTH....DS came home with a load of questions because this girl had blabbed it all out. I told her mother that it was not appropriate....she disagreed and told me where to shove it. Anyway, TG for C-Sect scars, that got me a good escape for a while. What is inappropriate about the truth? This is not religion, it is biology. The subject is only dark and dirty if parents treat it that way. I never said it was dark and dirty. I do not like to tell children things that are not age appropriate. Understanding how babies are made is not 'normal' for a 5 year old. Like like like:)
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EW GURU
Latest post on 24 January 2012 - 16:03
A five year old can also drive a car, but it would be irresponsible to give them a license.
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 24 January 2012 - 15:58
Hi ,,,, The best advise i ever got what was.......answer very simply what they ask ....and no more. Where do babies come from ?? Mummys tummy How did the baby get there ?? Daddy helped to put it there Very few children need or want to know a heap load more....and they certainly dont need graphic detail, however mature they appear. Simple short answers........works fro men, so will work for little ones....:) :) good answer, if they can ask the question, the answer is age appropriate.
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EW GURU
Latest post on 24 January 2012 - 15:47
I was furious when one of the Moms at school told her 5 yr old daughter the TRUTH....DS came home with a load of questions because this girl had blabbed it all out. I told her mother that it was not appropriate....she disagreed and told me where to shove it. Anyway, TG for C-Sect scars, that got me a good escape for a while. What is inappropriate about the truth? This is not religion, it is biology. The subject is only dark and dirty if parents treat it that way. I never said it was dark and dirty. I do not like to tell children things that are not age appropriate. Understanding how babies are made is not 'normal' for a 5 year old.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 24 January 2012 - 15:40
I was furious when one of the Moms at school told her 5 yr old daughter the TRUTH....DS came home with a load of questions because this girl had blabbed it all out. I told her mother that it was not appropriate....she disagreed and told me where to shove it. Anyway, TG for C-Sect scars, that got me a good escape for a while. What is inappropriate about the truth? This is not religion, it is biology. The subject is only dark and dirty if parents treat it that way.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 24 January 2012 - 13:24
Whenever I don't know the answer - or don't want to answer it - I refer them to their father :cool:
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 24 January 2012 - 13:21
I think it's really hard, particularly living here, trying to balance out what to tell your child (especially if they are very inquisitive) with what other people are telling children and what they might not want them to know. I explained to my daughter that it was fine to talk to mummy and daddy about how babies are made but it was best not to talk about it at school as different people believed different things. I wanted to avoid telling her that some people didn't want their children know about it because that would set off another round of 'whys?'. I've also had to tell her it's best not to talk at school about what happens when you die. I'm not religious so I told my kids that when you die you become and beautiful star in the sky. Which recently earned me a snort and a scathing reply from DD of 'No you don't, when you die you go to sleep and never wake up. You don't become a star.'
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EW GURU
Latest post on 24 January 2012 - 12:19
I was furious when one of the Moms at school told her 5 yr old daughter the TRUTH....DS came home with a load of questions because this girl had blabbed it all out. I told her mother that it was not appropriate....she disagreed and told me where to shove it. Anyway, TG for C-Sect scars, that got me a good escape for a while.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 24 January 2012 - 11:46
I explained the truth to my children (8 and 5 years old) a few weeks ago as they were questioning about this due to one of our neighbours being pregnant. Unfortunately my english vocabulary is limited re. this subject for children so I cannot really translate what I told them in french ! I used words we used for children to name the s..x of the dad and the mum...
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 24 January 2012 - 10:34
Why not just tell the truth?
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 23 January 2012 - 23:36
My 5 year old daughter asked me where babies come from and I could not help panicking. I then went into this long, nervous, diatribe about when a man and a woman love each other, they hug, and daddy helps put a baby into mommy's tummy when it is still close to invisible, it grows in there till it becomes visible. I was sweating all over by the time I finished . Then she looked at me and asked, 'Now that I want a baby too, what do I do ?''. I almost died!!!!!!
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 23 January 2012 - 21:06
Hahaha! You should hear what tell my children! Mummys and daddys get together, hug and hold each other, say a prayer and ask god for a baby and he then gives mummy the baby! And they all come from mummy's tummy! Thank god for my several hernia operations, got the scars to prove it despite 2 natural births, Not:)) <em>edited by Irooni on 23/01/2012</em>
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EW OLDHAND
Latest post on 23 January 2012 - 20:33
We did the special cuddles thing during which time daddy gave mummy a baby seed and it grew inside mummy's tummy. DD wanted to know more so I just said that she would when she was old enough to understand. One day during a visit to Edinburgh zoo, we saw chimps getting"friendly" In a loud voice DD said "Is that what daddy did to you mummy??" Gawd!!!!
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 23 January 2012 - 20:14
Hi Sugarbeach I too have a persistent and insistent daughter! When she was four she started with the tricky where do babies come from questions and she didn't give me any peace until she had the facts. I got her a brilliant booked from Kinokuniya at Dubai Mall called 'It's not the Stork. It uses straightforward language and cartoon pictures, in a way kids can easily understand. She loves it and it answered all her many many questions.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 23 January 2012 - 19:02
Hi ,,,, The best advise i ever got what was.......answer very simply what they ask ....and no more. Where do babies come from ?? Mummys tummy How did the baby get there ?? Daddy helped to put it there Very few children need or want to know a heap load more....and they certainly dont need graphic detail, however mature they appear. Simple short answers........works fro men, so will work for little ones....:) :)
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 23 January 2012 - 18:48
Thanks aroha. At 6, as in she is very insistent or persistent in asking a series of questions to get to the bottom of things and not happy with the glossing over or my "fob off" answers any more.
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 23 January 2012 - 18:31
at 6? Mum and dad make the new baby with a special cuddle (that you can only do when you are married!) The dad plants a special seed inside mum (brush over that quick to avoid awkward questions, worked for us...mechanics havent come up yet in that regard) and the baby grows inside mum. So our wee miss is au fait with how babies get out of mum, both cs and natural, and she seems ok with how baby survives inside mum, cords and belly buttons. We only have the one wee girl so we have had variations of this question since she could talk...why can't I, why havnt you, when etc. Best just to be very straight forward and as honest as you can be with what their age can cope with (without then causing embarrassing moments in the playground, I spos ;) )
 
 

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