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8 month old twins still waking up 2-3 times a night HELP

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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 14 March 2012 - 10:56
I have a 9 month old ds and he wakes up quite a few times a night. We have started doing a dream feed at around 10.30/11 before we go to bed and for the last few days it has worked well, he has slept until 5.30 ish, normally wakes up and is sitting up, we lie him down again and he sleeps until 7ish. (We used to just feed him when he woke up around 12ish but this seems to work better as we are also getting a full nights sleep). Shjbelle, I have also seen Cecile and she said continue until 1 as boys need this until then. When you say your dd dropped the dream feed do you mean she refused the milk or you just stopped giving it to her and she didn't wake up? I am wondering how we go about stopping it at 1, he drinks the full 240ml at 10.30pm and eats 3 meals a day and 3 other bottles - he is a big guy :) sounds just like my guys....you need to keep at the bottles, then introduce a mid afternoon snack, and push the evening solid meal to a little later - say 6pm, giving the snack about 3.30 - 4pm sorry just realised it wasn't you who had query :\: so hope you do not think I am interfering...:) edited by loube on 13/03/2012 Thanks so much for your help, any help appreciated! We had a run of good nights and last night was a bit of a disaster! He gets into such funny positions and can't seem to get up or is sitting up and just needs to be put back down again. I will introduce an aft snack and push dinner later and hope that makes a difference. We are moving home soon so need to be prepared for some unsettled time anyway (Sorry to be hi-jacking your thread Reynee11, we just seem to be at the same stage, hope it gets better for you) <em>edited by alimart on 14/03/2012</em>
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 13 March 2012 - 18:59
Our twins, first set late teens, second set mid teens now...... Didn't sleep through until over two years old! Born perm' at Al Wasl, we were told to not let them sleep longer than two hours and to wake them to feed as needed to gain weight. So did as were told and was in a constant roller coaster of feeds and by the time I'd finished they were almost two hours up and needed to start again! When eventually we were told that they were ok to be left to sleep and just wake when hungry on their own to be fed..... They of course were so set into their waking every two hours routine that they never slept!!!! When they just about cracked the code of sleeping longer at two.......their twin brother and sister came along. As they grew, I always made sure they never napped after lunchtime, tea and bottle and were always waiting dead on 7 pm at the stair gate for bed. Took a longggg time though to get to that stage.
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EW GURU
Latest post on 13 March 2012 - 12:15
I have a 9 month old ds and he wakes up quite a few times a night. We have started doing a dream feed at around 10.30/11 before we go to bed and for the last few days it has worked well, he has slept until 5.30 ish, normally wakes up and is sitting up, we lie him down again and he sleeps until 7ish. (We used to just feed him when he woke up around 12ish but this seems to work better as we are also getting a full nights sleep). Shjbelle, I have also seen Cecile and she said continue until 1 as boys need this until then. When you say your dd dropped the dream feed do you mean she refused the milk or you just stopped giving it to her and she didn't wake up? I am wondering how we go about stopping it at 1, he drinks the full 240ml at 10.30pm and eats 3 meals a day and 3 other bottles - he is a big guy :) sounds just like my guys....you need to keep at the bottles, then introduce a mid afternoon snack, and push the evening solid meal to a little later - say 6pm, giving the snack about 3.30 - 4pm sorry just realised it wasn't you who had query :\: so hope you do not think I am interfering...:) <em>edited by loube on 13/03/2012</em>
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EW GURU
Latest post on 13 March 2012 - 12:13
if you consider that each feed (full bottle for the kids age.weight) is a meal, then when you are weaning you are only replacing 3 out of 7 meals. Whilst moving over to solids I always gave mine the morning feed, the after lunch feed and the 'dream feed' as others call it....this is the late night feed. As your child eats bigger and bigger solid meals, and the consistency gets more lumpy you may be able to drop one of the feeds, it is tough as they love their first drink of the day, and the drink before the afternoon nap and the bedtime milk - my boys are 12, 10 and 8 and they still have a 'bedtime milk' !!! not in a bottle I hasten to add, and the 12 year old does not often have milk now, he just takes a juice or water......for the breakfast meal we gave the breakfast and the milk feed after, as soon as the kid was awake but this was around 10 months old, I think! this would get them out of the habit of waking up to milk first thing...it does depend what time they rise though...I do remember my DS1 always an early riser, we were up at 5.30 am for about the first 6 years of his life....sometimes his younger brothers would still be asleep, and we would be sat in the playroom with him!!! Good Luck!
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EW GURU
Latest post on 13 March 2012 - 12:06
I have a 9 month old ds and he wakes up quite a few times a night. We have started doing a dream feed at around 10.30/11 before we go to bed and for the last few days it has worked well, he has slept until 5.30 ish, normally wakes up and is sitting up, we lie him down again and he sleeps until 7ish. (We used to just feed him when he woke up around 12ish but this seems to work better as we are also getting a full nights sleep). Shjbelle, I have also seen Cecile and she said continue until 1 as boys need this until then. When you say your dd dropped the dream feed do you mean she refused the milk or you just stopped giving it to her and she didn't wake up? I am wondering how we go about stopping it at 1, he drinks the full 240ml at 10.30pm and eats 3 meals a day and 3 other bottles - he is a big guy :) it was a trial and error thing. I just decided one day to give her a full bottle at bedtime, which is at 7.30pm and she slept right through. Mentally, I did prepare myself to wake up at wee early hours to give her a lil milk tho. :) i do think that routine bedtime preparation did help. Warm quick bath, oiled her down, bed time story and popped bottle in. :D
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Latest post on 13 March 2012 - 11:51
I have a 9 month old ds and he wakes up quite a few times a night. We have started doing a dream feed at around 10.30/11 before we go to bed and for the last few days it has worked well, he has slept until 5.30 ish, normally wakes up and is sitting up, we lie him down again and he sleeps until 7ish. (We used to just feed him when he woke up around 12ish but this seems to work better as we are also getting a full nights sleep). Shjbelle, I have also seen Cecile and she said continue until 1 as boys need this until then. When you say your dd dropped the dream feed do you mean she refused the milk or you just stopped giving it to her and she didn't wake up? I am wondering how we go about stopping it at 1, he drinks the full 240ml at 10.30pm and eats 3 meals a day and 3 other bottles - he is a big guy :)
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EW GURU
Latest post on 13 March 2012 - 10:22
I don't know! The docs keep telling me that after six months she no longer needs a night feed, and that her feed at night is more for comfort than hunger. Plus everyone else I know seems to have stopped their babies when they were weeks old as oppose to months old :( I am like you though and figure that her night feed will ultimately stop at some stage which is what happened with my eldest daughter, particularly once I give up breastfeeding. At the moment I don't have the heart to give up breastfeeding, as she seems to want it and its good for her, so I figure I will do that until she's a year old. hhmm.. i bfeed DD til she was about 1. She did get her bmilk at bedtime but I think it's just a little..that's more for comfort as I've already given her solids at that age. I met Cecile and she said to still continue night feeds til she's one. I also started on formulas as her night feed around that age, which i forgot to add, as that is more filling that b/milk.
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EW GURU
Latest post on 13 March 2012 - 10:15
I don't know! The docs keep telling me that after six months she no longer needs a night feed, and that her feed at night is more for comfort than hunger. Plus everyone else I know seems to have stopped their babies when they were weeks old as oppose to months old :( I am like you though and figure that her night feed will ultimately stop at some stage which is what happened with my eldest daughter, particularly once I give up breastfeeding. At the moment I don't have the heart to give up breastfeeding, as she seems to want it and its good for her, so I figure I will do that until she's a year old.
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EW GURU
Latest post on 13 March 2012 - 10:10
Hi Reynee, I'm kind of going through the same thing, but with one baby not twins. My LO is also 8 months old and still wakes up once or twice at night to feed. I'm still breastfeeding and I know that I should stop the night feeds as she no longer needs them, but in all honesty its the easier option than having her cry, particularly as I have to wake up to go to work. We are getting slightly better now and there are days when she will sleep straight through. She sleeps later than your children (around 9-10) which is because I work and so I want to spend maximum time time with her. I feed her before she sleeps and now she sleeps through until 4 or 5, but generally she does wake up still wanting to breastfeed. I think she does it more for comfort than hunger, so I am trying to only feed her until she falls back to sleep for a long time to fill her stomach. I'm trying to slowly wean her off nightfeeds completely and do leave her to cry sometimes when she ultimately falls back to sleep. I figure we'll get there eventually, even though it's slower than many other children. I think you should try giving them a late night bottle for now, and then ultimately you need to stop even that. The other option is why not have them sleep in separate rooms? Do this at least for a while until they get used to sleeping through the night and then put them back together if need be, but at least they're not waking each other up. Slowly I think this will help maintain a routine. why are you trying to wean her off her night feed? at 1 year, DD automatically stopped her dream feed as i give her milk before bedtime.
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EW GURU
Latest post on 13 March 2012 - 10:07
Hi Reynee, I'm kind of going through the same thing, but with one baby not twins. My LO is also 8 months old and still wakes up once or twice at night to feed. I'm still breastfeeding and I know that I should stop the night feeds as she no longer needs them, but in all honesty its the easier option than having her cry, particularly as I have to wake up to go to work. We are getting slightly better now and there are days when she will sleep straight through. She sleeps later than your children (around 9-10) which is because I work and so I want to spend maximum time time with her. I feed her before she sleeps and now she sleeps through until 4 or 5, but generally she does wake up still wanting to breastfeed. I think she does it more for comfort than hunger, so I am trying to only feed her until she falls back to sleep for a long time to fill her stomach. I'm trying to slowly wean her off nightfeeds completely and do leave her to cry sometimes when she ultimately falls back to sleep. I figure we'll get there eventually, even though it's slower than many other children. I think you should try giving them a late night bottle for now, and then ultimately you need to stop even that. The other option is why not have them sleep in separate rooms? Do this at least for a while until they get used to sleeping through the night and then put them back together if need be, but at least they're not waking each other up. Slowly I think this will help maintain a routine.
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EW GURU
Latest post on 13 March 2012 - 10:07
When DD was at that age, I give them a dream feed at 11pm before I went to bed. That way, she slept right through til 7 and I got a full night's sleep. ETA: I know that bubs get dream feed til about they are 1 yo edited by shjbelle on 13/03/2012 <em>edited by shjbelle on 13/03/2012</em>
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 13 March 2012 - 09:52
they go to bed about 7pm and wake between 10-12. i dont feed them another bottle til after 3am. so i let them cry back to sleep. its not histerical crying but its driving me bananas cos one will go back to sleep then the other will wake and it feels like its never ending crying. do u think i should give a late night bottle then skip the 3am one maybe? I want them to sleep through the night.:(
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EW GURU
Latest post on 13 March 2012 - 09:30
my 8 month old twins still wake up 2-3 times a night and its killing me LOL what to do??? I assume you are weaning them at this stage? Do they have a late night bottle still? Could be comfort seeking....
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 13 March 2012 - 09:26
my 8 month old twins still wake up 2-3 times a night and its killing me LOL what to do???
 
 

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