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After the devastating D&C...

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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 22 January 2013 - 14:36

My first pregnancy started with a vanishing twin and ended with a D&C at 12 weeks due to our surviving twin being dignosed with Acrania. The doctors have not been able to detect the exact cause for this since I was taking folic acid regularly and am not related to my husband genetically. The whole experience has been devastating - I am sure those who have gone through this know that no words can explain the feelings.

The only thing that makes me feel better is the hope of having a healthy baby soon inshAllah. For the ladies who have gone through a similar experience, how early did you conceive after the loss? Also, when was your first follow-up appointment after the D&C? Each doctor prescribes a different waiting gap and its really confusing me. I would like to start trying as soon as possible :(

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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 27 October 2024 - 19:19
I am so sorry for your loss, Busybee. I also had a D&C last year after a missed miscarriage and was told to wait for one cycle before trying again. I had a follow-up appointment after 3 days, then ...
Hi, what was the cause of your losses and how was it diagnosed ?
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EW GURU
Latest post on 30 January 2013 - 21:10
So sorry for your loss. I decided against a D & C and have finally miscarried naturally a month after my babies heartbeats stopped. My first scan was straight after I stopped bleeding and have been told to come back for another one 5 days into my next cycle once my next period starts. My doctor said that most doctors recommend 3 months, however there is no proven scientific reason not to try straight away. Therefore she said if my next scan is clear, we can try again next month. Wishing you lots of luck for a positive result soon. I believe all things happen for a reason, and for us, it just wasn't meant to be this time.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 30 January 2013 - 12:23
I am so sorry for your loss busybee87 I pray that you are blessed with a healthy pregnancy and baby soon inshallah
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 30 January 2013 - 10:22
it's very hard, we lost our third baby, heartbeat then no heartbeat! D&C is not pleasant. My husband took it worse than I did, we women often accept the difficulties better and have a better understanding. He then Changed his mind, he didn't want to have another baby. However, time is a great healer and now we have boys of 8, 5 and 10 months, he is a delight and we are all so happy with him. I do still think of the baby we lost and probably always will. it's such an emotional time, look after each other and like you say keep focused on your goal of being a mummy :)
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 29 January 2013 - 13:58
I am so sorry for your loss, Busybee. I also had a D&C last year after a missed miscarriage and was told to wait for one cycle before trying again. I had a follow-up appointment after 3 days, then another one about 2 weeks later. I was bleeding on and off for about 2 weeks. I had another 3 losses before the cause was diagnosed and I could actually sustain a pregnancy. In terms of being more fertile after a loss though, I got pregnant again 3 months after the DC, and again for each of my next three consequtive cycles. This is my fifth pregnancy in less than a year.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 27 January 2013 - 22:46
Thanks ladies. I am trying my best to focus on the future now. We have decided to wait for one regular cycle before trying again. Hope inshAllah Allah blesses us soon. Waiting is really difficult now. Please remember me in your prayers.
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EW OLDHAND
Latest post on 22 January 2013 - 22:44
so sorry to hear about your loss busybee. have been through 2 d&c's and i know the pain as you want to have baby as soon as possible. my first pregnancy was "missed miscarriage" and at 8 weeks d&c was done. i was so desperate that first time that i nearly went into depression. i was recently diagnosed with PCOS and my doc advised to start family as soon as possible. we didn't wanted to start the family for 2 years.i was heartbroken. but then my doc encouraged me to loose weight after d&c so that i can start again. i concieved after 3 months only and probably focused towards weight loss kept me sane. i have a beautiful and naughty ds who turned 9 months recently. 5 weeks before i had another d&c. again same as before :( keep your spirits high. Hope you are blessed with a baby soon.
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EW GURU
Latest post on 22 January 2013 - 18:37
Oh Busybee that must have been so hard. Like DB I lost my first pregnancy, to a 'missed miscarriage', and had a D&C rather than wait for my body to get round to completing the miscarriage. You are right, there are no words. Also like DB, though, I was pregnant again within weeks - not sure of the exact number of weeks, but I had one normal period between pregnancies so obviously not long. I had the D&C outside Dubai and didn't really see anyone for any follow up; the next time I was at the doctor's was to confirm pregnancy. That was me and my situation though; I wouldn't want to guess as to whether that is appropriate in any other case. Anyway, the very best of luck; I hope you have your own little bundle of joy very soon xx
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 22 January 2013 - 15:10
I'm sorry Busybee, what an awful thing to go through. I don't have any personal experience with what you have gone through but a few of my friends have conceived very quickly after having a D&C and have said that it is common to be very fertile in the few months afterwards. Good luck with your trying, I hope you get your wish soon.
 
 

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