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How do you not tell people you are pregnant for 12 weeks?

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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 29 August 2011 - 15:24

I found out I was pregnant last week and am finding it impossible not to tell people; not because I want too but rather when getting invited out for dinner, drinks, parties etc? Telling people you are on antibiotics is a dead give away I really am struggling to come up with valid excuses and its only been a week. I don't want to miss out on a social life but still would prefer people not to know yet. What did anyone else do?

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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 31 August 2011 - 05:07
Due to finding out late and some complications I didn't tell anyone I was pregnant until I was 20 weeks. I did the old order a drink and pretend I couldn't drink it as too rough from the night before, drinking something and pretending it is something else, sitting next to hubby and getting him to drink mine and often took the car pretending I had already made plans for early the following day. My comlpications continued until 24 weeks but I had to tell people at 20 weeks because I had exhausted all excuses and people had started to notice the weight gain
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 30 August 2011 - 19:35
I'm 8 weeks and having similar issue... I've been drinking lots of tonic water (pretending it's Gin and Tonic) and always trying to sit opposite DH at dinner with friends (he drinks from my glass, then his glass, it works a treat but gets him quite tipsy!) I think I'll have to tell a few friends early though - there are a few that just wouldn't fall for that.
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 30 August 2011 - 18:05
Why should antibiotics be a dead give-away? You go tell them you have intestinal parasites... people will change the conversation pretty quickly after that! Same with "showing"... many people (especially male colleagues) just simply aren't looking to spot the early signs of pregnancy. Wear some different clothes, tell them you'd enjoyed yourself at a buffet the previous night... burst into tears and flounce away shouting "I'm not fat!"... It is hard, I know... and there's no real reason why you should hold back, but I'm one of those who told a whole load of people and then had to tell them that I wasn't pregnant any more a few weeks later. My first pregnancy too. If you think it's difficult to make excuses not to tell people, it's harder still to tell them bad news.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 29 August 2011 - 17:40
I unfortunately had to fess up at 6 and 7 weeks. I was getting stares for a week or so before that. Unfortunately with both pregnancies I ended up having to wear maternity clothes early since I was definitely showing by then. I am also showing sooooo early! I don't want to tell at work before 12 weeks but I might have to as my belly is so obvious!
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EW OLDHAND
Latest post on 29 August 2011 - 17:21
Forgot to add, all my close friends knew, it was just others I had to tell white lies too :D
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EW GURU
Latest post on 29 August 2011 - 17:15
I unfortunately had to fess up at 6 and 7 weeks. I was getting stares for a week or so before that. Unfortunately with both pregnancies I ended up having to wear maternity clothes early since I was definitely showing by then.
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EW OLDHAND
Latest post on 29 August 2011 - 17:13
In my first 12 weeks I would buy 1 glass of wine, pretend to sip from it and then say it just wasn't going down well as I was feeling seedy from the night before. Worked a treat.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 29 August 2011 - 17:07
I am 9 weeks and I haven't told many people yet. I am so tired that I only go for dinners (I cannot really handle the pub or nightclub) and I say either I am driving or I am trying to drink less (I used to be a heavy drinker) so people believes me. We were for dinner to my husband's boss flat with some of my husband's workmates and he just told his boss (who was the host) confidentially "My wife is pregnant" so he only offered me non-alcoholic drinks. That was very easy and kind. I know it is a difficult topic and when I was trying to conceive I was on holidays in the UK and once I refused a beer and all my friends automatically started to joke about it. People just don't realize! Non-alcoholic beer is another option unless somebody sees the can!
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 29 August 2011 - 15:47
Depends how much of a drinker you normally are. I flew back to NZ at 9 weeks, went to a middle of the day BBQ after over 20 hours of flying and when I turned down an offered beer the whole room immediately said "PREGNANT!!!" Tell people you are trying to conceive and have heard its better not to drink... tell a few people who can help keep your secret..... say you are driving so can't drink, order the soup when out for dinner, say you are on a diet and certain foods are "banned"...
 
 

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