We tried with various teats and bottles for months (starting from 11 weeks old). Me, my husband, auntie, my best friend and the neighbor all tried to feed my DD without much luck. I must say I was persistent and we tried everyday at any hour with both breastmilk and formula. Then finally one day just after turning 6 months she accepted the bottle. We finally managed with NUK bottle for the last evening feed with formula.
We discussed the matter with our midwife and she said she had exactly the same problem with her 2nd daughter, no matter what time, who and when the baby did not take the bottle. So it does not necessarily mean that you are not doing something wrong. Keep on trying and do not give up, all babies are different!
Best of luck!!!
No luck and it breaks me heart the amount of milk that is going to waste :(
We had one almost there moment when i fed DS, released the latch and gave him the bottle. DH was leaning over him making noises, so he was focusing on that, sucked and finished approx 20mls. Today ... Scream scream scream.
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No matter which teat you use, it will feel different than breastfeeding. Rather than switching teats to - it might be easier for him to get used to it by having the same teat each time no matter which one it is?
Good point. Im buying the breast-flow ones today and will then stick to one.
Thanks ladies!
No matter which teat you use, it will feel different than breastfeeding. Rather than switching teats to - it might be easier for him to get used to it by having the same teat each time no matter which one it is?
This was something that we really struggled with, so I feel your frustration! There are many ways that you can do this, some harder and some easier!
What eventually worked for us, was 2 weeks in the UK! I got my BFF to do the 4:30pm feed with the bottle. From 4:30pm DD cluster feed (so every hr until bedtime), so it was a feed that was more for comfort and if she did not take it was not a train smash! I would leave the house for 1hr so that there was no smell of me in the house, nor could she sense my presence! We also put the TV on for distraction and she was feed in a completely different room from where I would do her breastfeeds! She went from taking 30ml to 60ml by the time we left.
By 10 months she was completely weaned, but this was also partly due to the fact that I was pregnant and the composition of my milk had changed, so DD self-weaned herself off the breast! So all-in-all it took us 2 months! The hardest feed for her and me to drop was the bedtime feed! I totally loved cuddling up to DD, all warm and smelling yummy from her bath and just enjoying those last few moments of peace and bonding before bedtime!
Weaning from breast to bottle is a very emotional thing for a breastfeeding Mamma to go through, so dot beat yourself up if it does not work on the first few tries! You also have the option of going cold turkey?! Leave for most of the day...and **eventually** he will will be starving and **will** take the bottle!? I could not do this for emotional reasons, but maybe there is someone on here who has done it and it has worked?!
Good luck and whatsapp me if you want to chat further x
Day 3 and still nothing. We have now tried at different times of the day, inbetween meals, just after, just before, you name it. We've tried different types of bottles and teats too. Thanks again to all of you for your advice.
I was a bit worried about trying before a feed because DS gets so upset on top of being hungry and then i'm not supposed to offer the breast afterwards ...? So we tried to soothe him as best as possible and take his mind off being hungry (if thats at all possible) before i would then offer him the breast. Hopefully i didnt mess that one up.
I'll pop in at babyshop today for the breastflow ones, as they're the only ones we havent tried yet. Dubaicat, i dont have a shop and ship account so may just take you up on your offer, thank you.. I have your old email address, i think it may have changed as you no longer work, right?
Thanks again ladies x
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We had difficulty getting DD to take a bottle and it was at a similar age. We tried Tommee Tippee, Nuk and Avent and she wouldn't have any of those, but she finally accepted the Breastflow ones AP mentioned and now takes her bottle with no problems. The bottle teat has two pieces - an inner, harder one and a softer outer shell - and is meant to allow baby to use the same tongue and sucking motions he or she would with breastfeeding.
They're available in BabyShop and you can order the faster-flowing teats online and Shop & Ship (shout if you don't have an account and want to use mine).
Give the bottlefeed instead of a breastfeed. A baby is unlikely to take a bottle unless he is actually hungry. If you are offering the bottle between feeds, you are basically offering him a snack and he will just mess around. Also, make sure you warm the milk. Good luck.
Thanks for your replies ladies.
Day 2 and still nothing. Yesterday DH wrapped the bottle in the nursing bra that i wore and this morning he held yesterday's t-shirt. We dont offer the breast afterwards so thats a good thing. We usually try the bottle inbetween feeds. And, yes, we also decided not to try at night. Im lucky because DH is on leave at the moment, so we have this and next week to try during the day. Thereafter im going home for 3 weeks so i suppose grannys can try then, right? Or will that throw him off further?
Good idea about different positions, thanks. DH sits in my breastfeeding chair whilst trying, I'll tell him to do it somewhere else.
I use frozen expressed milk. Defrost it overnight in the fridge, then use a little bit at a time. We discard what is not used. (we learnt the hard way, and being new parents we didnt know, because the first try we thought DS is going take the bottle so defrosted 150ml and had to throw it all away!)
We'll perservere. Thanks for taking the time to respond x
All babies respond differently. Often the longer it is left to introduce bottle feeds, the more they tend to resist - but that doesnt mean its impossible.
As someone said below - don't offer the bottle and then the breast if the bottle is refused. That is about the only thing that is an absolute must. The rest is experimentation to see what works best for your baby. Often you would find the baby will be more likely to respond to the bottle when hungry - ie at the beginning of a feed rather than the end. If the aim is for hubby to do the bottle feeds - it might be worth trying just designating one feed per day as daddy/bottle feed (might help if you're out of the room). Baby will catch on pretty quick that this is the routine and this is all he will be offered - if he is hungry he will accept it and catch on quickly and the rest will flow from there. I would probably not suggest introducing the bottle to the dream feeds until he's used to it - as often these nightitme feeds are as much about comfort as they are about hunger, so he will likely be more resistant to it at that time until it becomes part of his regular routine and he begins to associate comfort with the bottle also.
With regards to re-using your breastmilk - you can put it in the fridge and use later only if you had it in the bottle directly from the breast. If you expressed it earlier and re-heated it - you should disgard it. You should only re-heat breastmilk once.
Good luck
hey there,
i used madela bottles n then later used pigeon..i dont think the type/company makes nay difference ..
with my daughter i used to Bf her n at the end of the feed when she would still be a lil hungry..ill give the bottle.she never had problems witht he bottle.
secondly for breast milk u can put in fridge for aprox six hours and outside i think u can have it for 3 hours.best would be to call ur nurse at the hospital and ask her.i think mine told me the above.
and this outside the fridge would be on controled temprature..not in hot weather.
Hi ilovewine,
I had the exact same problem with my daughter when she was about the same age, she's now 9 months and happily alternates between breast and bottle (just to reassure you that there is a light at the end of the tunnel!).
Just a few tips, which you may or may not find useful. Firstly, I would try and give him the bottle at the time of his regular feeds, so that he knows this is instead of a normal breastfeed and not in addition to it (i.e. it's not optional!). Secondly, I used to put my daughet in a completely different position, she had a bouncy/rocking chair which I would sit her in and face her and then give her the bottle, so that she wasn't in the normal feeding position, thus not confusing her. Finally, make sure that you don't try the bottle and when that fails offer him your breast, this will just mean that he learns that if he fights it enough then he will ultimately get what he really wants. You do just need to persevere with this - don't distress him and let him get angry and frustrated, each day try for a few minutes and then stop. He will get there!
With regards to storage of breast milk, I think CB is correct. I used to throw away milk that had been in the fridge and heated (as hard as that is to do as breast milk is so precious!), however if I was feeding her milk I had pumped fresh then I was happy to store it.
We found the Medela 150ml bottles best & also their website is really great for BF & expressing advice.
We never put it back in the fridge after being heated & then discarded any leftovers after 2 hours. But if you're using it straight from the pump without heating it, then it should be okay to go in the fridge. Wev also stored a lot in the freezer, which was convenient.
Again, I used the Medela storage bags as I preferred them...
I would definitely recommend trying when bubba is hungry, but not ravenous or cranky or tired.
Also play around with temperature of the milk, feeding position etc, every baby has their own ideas!!!
Good luck & persevere!!!
Hi ilovewine
Perhaps get your husband to put a t-shirt you have worn that day between him and you so your DS still smells you. I'm trying breastflow first yr bottles for ds2 as he won't take the others. These seem good... He takes it at least.
Re the t-shirt thing, u won't have to always keep supplying your smell, just use it initially to get him use to bottle.
As for restoring, I have if DS hasn't finished it, but then I am not sure we are meant to? Someone else may need to answer that :)
Other option is to maybe try when he is hungry, may take it?
My ds is almost 3 months old and we want to give him expressed milk with a bottle. Just a little freedom for me and getting dh to do the dreamfeed. Also in preparation for when he goes to nursery in july.
Did we wait too long?
We tried avent, mams teats and tommy tippy but he wants nothing to do with it LOL my dh gives him the bottle because we read i shouldnt. Any tips on what to do and how to do it?
Any advice highly appreciated.
TIA
Eta: we dont try giving the bottle when ds is hungry, we try it before naps etc. i also need advice re: the milk. When we try and ds doesnt take it, can i keep that bottle in the fridge for the next try or not?
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