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My 4 year old lies a lot!!!!

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EW GURU
Latest post on 11 February 2012 - 21:56

Is this a phase? I really hope so because it's driving me insane. I do shout at her a lot to be honest and it's not something I'm proud of :( She has a brother who is almost 2 years old and a sister who's 3 months old. Most times I'm stressed out and exhausted so whenever the two do something wrong I'm constantly shouting. I'm not happy with the relationship I have with my daughter, I guess that's another thread. I just wish I could be a better parent for her. For all of them. I hardly spend quality time with them individually.

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EW OLDHAND
Latest post on 13 February 2012 - 03:29
On a lighter note. Many years ago when my DD was about 9, I caught her out on a stonker of a fib. Was telling her off "boy who cried wolf" etc and said to her, finger wagging under her nose, "Listen madam, if you tell lies, you need to have a very good memory and believe me I have a VERY good memory!!!!" Think I lost that one! :(
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EW GURU
Latest post on 12 February 2012 - 16:00
Thanks for the feedback. WIll have to loosen up a little and not shout at her everytime she lies. Sorry for the rambling about the other stuff. Just needed to get that off my chest. I just hope it'll get easier when the youngest is a little older and we could all enjoy doing things together.
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EW OLDHAND
Latest post on 12 February 2012 - 13:29
Normal behaviour for lots of children. My DD told porkies all the time but I largely ignored. I could always tell when she was spinning a yarn by the way her eyes widened. She soon got the message that mum was rather good at finding her out :)
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EW GURU
Latest post on 12 February 2012 - 10:21
She sounds like an intelligent child :). Lying needs brains! Do you think pinnochio story would act as a deterrent? Reward charts might help too. Hugs to you. Actually there are studies that show that children who lie make better entrepreneurs and executives later in life. They are more creative and yes, intelligent. Try not to look at it as a negative. I'd give her a cuddle and say, "Are you sure? Are you sure it was the dog that broke the vase?" That way the child isn't afraid to tell you the truth.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 12 February 2012 - 09:41
I think at that age they don't lie out of sinister motivation, it is kind of a wishful thinking, like "if I say something is so and so then it will be that way", that is why the lies are often very obvious...I don't like lying or cheating at all and it is one of the key things I want to teach my 4 year old not to do, but I realize at this age they are learning about right and wrong and about reality and fiction. So in my opinion it is better not to completely loose it when you catch her fibbing but to explain about the truth and lies, and how we should not lie and cheat. Stories are good, like the story about " the boy who cries wolf" . 4 is a difficult age, I read somewhere it is the terrible twos with attitude, and with two younger kids to take care of I can only imagine how tough it can be, but try not to be too strict with your 4 year old , because 4 is also really young still. I can' t give you any advice on how to manage to get quality time with each child on their own maybe the ladies with more kids can help here.
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 11 February 2012 - 23:07
She sounds like an intelligent child :). Lying needs brains! Do you think pinnochio story would act as a deterrent? Reward charts might help too. Hugs to you. Pinnochio story usually help:)
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 11 February 2012 - 22:38
She sounds like an intelligent child :). Lying needs brains! Do you think pinnochio story would act as a deterrent? Reward charts might help too. Hugs to you.
 
 

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