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Maid asking for wifi password- input?

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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 10 October 2013 - 10:51

Hello ladies:

Since many of you have maids, I thought I would put this question out there, as I'm really conflicted.

This is the first time I've got a full-time maid so I'm learning the ropes. I understand everyone has their own policies/experiences with maids so I was hoping to get a smattering of opinions.
We hired a maid straight from the Philippines 3 months ago; she has never worked as a maid before. She was referred to me by my friend's maid who is her cousin.

Initially she had a mobile phone which she was using to text and call her cousins after working hours. This past weekend, she bought a smartphone on a monthly installment plan. She asked me for my wifi password. I asked her what she planned to do with the internet, and she said she would like to use Facebook. I told her I would discuss it with my husband and get back to her.

I know she misses her family back home; I've offered her the use of skype from my computer to speak to them but she hasn't taken me up on it. She uses Skype when she goes to her relative's house on her day off.

I want to keep her happy but I also don't want to start a chapter that I may regret. I've heard of maids se#ting, becoming addicted to social media, and as a result neglecting their work.

To make it a little bit more tricky, my friend has given her maid (ie my maid's cousin) wifi access so she will be comparing herself to her. However I have specified that although we are friends, we will obviously have different policies and rules.

Anyone declined use of wifi? Should I compensate her in another way? TIA :)
<em>edited by buzzybeez on 10/10/2013</em>

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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 09 January 2014 - 14:22
Our last maid was a horror - she even got the passwords for the neighbours wifi from their maids. My new one doesn't seem to use it much - in the afternoon when she's ironing she skypes . Could be because it isn't available all over the house so this is a good thing!!
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 06 November 2013 - 15:11
Thank you sarahlou123, that was my initial thought but just wanted to find out other opinion, I don't want her to think that I am being too strict, she is great, but it's inacceptable to be constantly on the phone even when my LO asks her to play with her. What would you do if she continues with this behavior after your warning not to use her phone? (just in case she does, once I told her). Thank you I am allowed to use my phone at work but in moderation only and certainly not If I was in charge of a child. I do not know how you could stop her as if I were told by my Manager to stop using my phone I would as I wouldn't want to face the sack Tell her you will remove her WIFI if she doesn't do as told. I am not a huge fan of mobile phones, to some people it is a pure addiction. I remember the nice times pre mobiles etc ha I don't have a maid but If I did I would want her to be concentrating on my child not gabbing for hours on end. . Totally agree with you here! I was a nanny when I was at Uni, and I would never ever use my mobile phone, I wouldn't even pick up calls! my boss had a landline if she ever needed to find out how the kids were doing, she would call me on the landline. I will talk to her and see how she will react and follow up afterwards.
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 06 November 2013 - 11:37
Thank you sarahlou123, that was my initial thought but just wanted to find out other opinion, I don't want her to think that I am being too strict, she is great, but it's inacceptable to be constantly on the phone even when my LO asks her to play with her. What would you do if she continues with this behavior after your warning not to use her phone? (just in case she does, once I told her). Thank you I am allowed to use my phone at work but in moderation only and certainly not If I was in charge of a child. I do not know how you could stop her as if I were told by my Manager to stop using my phone I would as I wouldn't want to face the sack Tell her you will remove her WIFI if she doesn't do as told. I am not a huge fan of mobile phones, to some people it is a pure addiction. I remember the nice times pre mobiles etc ha I don't have a maid but If I did I would want her to be concentrating on my child not gabbing for hours on end. .
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 06 November 2013 - 11:10
Thank you sarahlou123, that was my initial thought but just wanted to find out other opinion, I don't want her to think that I am being too strict, she is great, but it's inacceptable to be constantly on the phone even when my LO asks her to play with her. What would you do if she continues with this behavior after your warning not to use her phone? (just in case she does, once I told her). Thank you
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 06 November 2013 - 10:43
Hi ladies, Could anyone please help on how to deal with the nanny's mobile phone, do you have any policies in place? How would you deal with a Maid/Nanny when your 3years old child tells you that she is constatntly on her phone and does not play with them, when she is supposed to be babysitting them? She does have the wifi password by the way. And got herself a new phone recently. Thank you! Ask her to not use her phone during work hours unless in emergencies.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 06 November 2013 - 10:23
Hi ladies, Could anyone please help on how to deal with the nanny's mobile phone, do you have any policies in place? How would you deal with a Maid/Nanny when your 3years old child tells you that she is constatntly on her phone and does not play with them, when she is supposed to be babysitting them? She does have the wifi password by the way. And got herself a new phone recently. Thank you!
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 21 October 2013 - 18:51
Interesting to see so many differing opinions! I don't have a maid I have a lifesaver that keeps my house in order allowing me to got to work and spend time with my kids afterwards. She has been given access to all the things we take for granted including TV with a cable package relevant to her dialog, Internet access and recently a tablet allowing her to Skype from the privacy of her room in the evenings or at weekends. I've even helped her download some music to play whilst she works hard in the house all day. I've never had to speak to her about not completing work, in fact she does much more than the tasks I originally gave her the responsibility of! It's not always a case of give someone an inch and they'll take a mile....... Sometimes you have to give in order to gain! I totally agree with your post. if it wasnt for our maid, I dont know where we would be. I buy her gifts, I take her with me for a massage sometimes for a treat etc. It is thanks to her that our lives are better so the least I can do is show her some kindness and be grateful, not begrudge wifi in the house which I already pay for anyway Like, Like, Like!!! As long as she doesn't abuse it then why not. People here are so lucky they can afford help at such a cheap cost. I also believe its a give and take relationship! !!!! a maid lives with u...she is a part of ur family!!!! if we don't treat her like one how do we expect her to treat my kids with love and like her own! !! it's not costing u a dime! give it to her! !! mine uses my landline phone also to call her family in Dubai in her break hours! !!! it's free and saves her money so y not! <em>edited by Afd2000 on 21/10/2013</em>
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 21 October 2013 - 14:44
Interesting to see so many differing opinions! I don't have a maid I have a lifesaver that keeps my house in order allowing me to got to work and spend time with my kids afterwards. She has been given access to all the things we take for granted including TV with a cable package relevant to her dialog, Internet access and recently a tablet allowing her to Skype from the privacy of her room in the evenings or at weekends. I've even helped her download some music to play whilst she works hard in the house all day. I've never had to speak to her about not completing work, in fact she does much more than the tasks I originally gave her the responsibility of! It's not always a case of give someone an inch and they'll take a mile....... Sometimes you have to give in order to gain! I totally agree with your post. if it wasnt for our maid, I dont know where we would be. I buy her gifts, I take her with me for a massage sometimes for a treat etc. It is thanks to her that our lives are better so the least I can do is show her some kindness and be grateful, not begrudge wifi in the house which I already pay for anyway Like, Like, Like!!! As long as she doesn't abuse it then why not. People here are so lucky they can afford help at such a cheap cost.
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 21 October 2013 - 14:36
Interesting to see so many differing opinions! I don't have a maid I have a lifesaver that keeps my house in order allowing me to got to work and spend time with my kids afterwards. She has been given access to all the things we take for granted including TV with a cable package relevant to her dialog, Internet access and recently a tablet allowing her to Skype from the privacy of her room in the evenings or at weekends. I've even helped her download some music to play whilst she works hard in the house all day. I've never had to speak to her about not completing work, in fact she does much more than the tasks I originally gave her the responsibility of! It's not always a case of give someone an inch and they'll take a mile....... Sometimes you have to give in order to gain! I totally agree with your post. if it wasnt for our maid, I dont know where we would be. I buy her gifts, I take her with me for a massage sometimes for a treat etc. It is thanks to her that our lives are better so the least I can do is show her some kindness and be grateful, not begrudge wifi in the house which I already pay for anyway
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 18 October 2013 - 16:51
Having wifi these days is something we all use no matter who we are or indeed where we are from . I would imagine the only people without it would be prisoners in jail ! It costs you nothing to give her access to your wifi and I am sure when you travel you too would be the first asking for the wifi code where ever you may be !
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 17 October 2013 - 01:14
Interesting to see so many differing opinions! I don't have a maid I have a lifesaver that keeps my house in order allowing me to got to work and spend time with my kids afterwards. She has been given access to all the things we take for granted including TV with a cable package relevant to her dialog, Internet access and recently a tablet allowing her to Skype from the privacy of her room in the evenings or at weekends. I've even helped her download some music to play whilst she works hard in the house all day. I've never had to speak to her about not completing work, in fact she does much more than the tasks I originally gave her the responsibility of! It's not always a case of give someone an inch and they'll take a mile....... Sometimes you have to give in order to gain!
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 14 October 2013 - 12:34
Simply tell her No, now it's easy to get internet on smart phones, she can obtain her own. just give her the NOC and she can get it herself, she will do it if she is really need, otherwise she just want the Free WiFi provided by you. We all know you pay a fixed instalment for your internet usage, unless you exceeded your limit for the month, an oh yeah, maids won't care about it. I agree. I would never give my maid access to the home Internet. I do give my maid phone cards each month as I expect her to available to me via the phone and a she is responsible for our children, she must have credit on her phone to call in an emergency. So, if she needs it, she can take a monthly internet package - around 49/- monthly is what I pay for my phone package. It is not too much. Generally, the maids are not alone here, they have a strong extended family network with all the support that family offers - often, they have more family support than we do.
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EW OLDHAND
Latest post on 13 October 2013 - 15:03
Simply tell her No, now it's easy to get internet on smart phones, she can obtain her own. just give her the NOC and she can get it herself, she will do it if she is really need, otherwise she just want the Free WiFi provided by you. We all know you pay a fixed instalment for your internet usage, unless you exceeded your limit for the month, an oh yeah, maids won't care about it.
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 13 October 2013 - 14:23
I can see both sides of this ......... my DH is local and was against me giving the password, but we did, we sat with her and said just as I can use the internet at my place of work, it was not to be abused and that should her work suffer from over use then the password would be changed. In the 9 months that she has had the password I have never had any issues at all, it depends really on the maid and what her personality is.
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 13 October 2013 - 13:39
Our maid has Wifi and a laptop. We gave her a blackberry and she can keep in touch with her family whenever she pleases. As long as the work is done then I dont have any issues with how long she spends on her phone. She also take pictures of the babies and sends them to me when I am in the office which is lovely!
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 13 October 2013 - 12:14
@Doubting Thomas She is not miles away from family and friends- in fact she is a short metro ride away from at least 4 of her cousins who she sees every single weekend. A13 Cousins are not immediate family.... She stays at her workplace, that makes it different from your example of doctors and nurses' access to internet Most maids refer to their cousins as sisters and I've had to ask "sister or real sister" to determine the exact relationship!
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 13 October 2013 - 12:13
@Doubting Thomas She is not miles away from family and friends- in fact she is a short metro ride away from at least 4 of her cousins who she sees every single weekend. A13 Cousins are not immediate family.... She stays at her workplace, that makes it different from your example of doctors and nurses' access to internet Thank you Arch for understanding my point...
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EW GURU
Latest post on 13 October 2013 - 12:08
@Doubting Thomas She is not miles away from family and friends- in fact she is a short metro ride away from at least 4 of her cousins who she sees every single weekend. A13 Cousins are not immediate family.... She stays at her workplace, that makes it different from your example of doctors and nurses' access to internet
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 13 October 2013 - 12:03
Just give her the password, if she mis-uses it - change it and tell her why you did! Simples
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 13 October 2013 - 11:45
Buzzybeez, I obviously regret buying our maid the computer, which she sold without telling us! I also regret giving her wifi access. Before the computer she was happy with her blackberry and the 49dh per month social package which gave her unlimited access to fb, twitter, bm etc so she could contact her family at any time. I bought the computer because I though the bigger screen, ease of typing etc was more comfortable for her but she was happy to sell it. She carried the bb with her all the time and was always dropping it and it broke. She then upgraded to an android and now uses our wifi. As for maids being overworked, she told the kids she was up to level 200 on Candy Crush- we played it a bit over the summer and never got past level 100! A BB with the 49dh social package might be a good solution for you. Eta, if she doesn't have a black berry, it might be worth buying her a cheap model; carrefour often has them on special or with money back vouchers. People value things that they have to financially contribute to so the maid having to pay 49dh a month will make her appreciate it. We seem to supply so much to maids as standard now......but in reality it's only a tiny percentage of maids in Dubai with these conditions. <em>edited by A Rancher on 13/10/2013</em>
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 13 October 2013 - 10:09
@Doubting Thomas She is not miles away from family and friends- in fact she is a short metro ride away from at least 4 of her cousins who she sees every single weekend. Again, to reiterate-- just because an employer is uncomfortable with providing 24/7 internet access to his/her employee's smartphone doesn't mean they are isolating their employee and depriving them from contact with their family. She has access to the internet from our computer, and uses the internet on the weekend when she's off with her cousins. She can also text msg and call her family from her phone after hours (which she does every evening). Seriously some people are equating no wifi with solitary confinement! edited by buzzybeez on 13/10/2013 <em>edited by buzzybeez on 13/10/2013</em>
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 12 October 2013 - 11:28
Thank you for all your input ladies; very helpful. We will definitely go ahead and get our maid connected :) @mich72-- this is fantastic; I had no idea such a system existed. I will have hubby look into it. @ARancher- if you had to do it over again, what would you have done differently? The time different is 4 hours and all members of her family work, so it can get tricky to find a convenient time. @SueB- thanks for helping me with the ground rules. We'll go over them with her. So far she has conscientious and responsible so I'm hoping all will go smoothly. FYI- I have worked in hospitals and clinics here and in North America. No employee was given access to work wifi in these settings, including the doctors. Everyone had access to the internet from desktop computers only. Employees could get their own data plans if they wanted to access the internet from their smartphones. I don't see why it's considered a "right"; it is a privilege unless you need it for work purposes. Did all the employees live in their workplace and were they all miles away from their family and friends ?
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 12 October 2013 - 11:05
Thank you for all your input ladies; very helpful. We will definitely go ahead and get our maid connected :) @mich72-- this is fantastic; I had no idea such a system existed. I will have hubby look into it. @ARancher- if you had to do it over again, what would you have done differently? The time different is 4 hours and all members of her family work, so it can get tricky to find a convenient time. @SueB- thanks for helping me with the ground rules. We'll go over them with her. So far she has conscientious and responsible so I'm hoping all will go smoothly. FYI- I have worked in hospitals and clinics here and in North America. No employee was given access to work wifi in these settings, including the doctors. Everyone had access to the internet from desktop computers only. Employees could get their own data plans if they wanted to access the internet from their smartphones. I don't see why it's considered a "right"; it is a privilege unless you need it for work purposes.
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 12 October 2013 - 08:52
You could always ask for her to leave her phone in her room when she is working, and turned off so she cannot hear it. if she constantly goes to her room to check it have her leave it with you then. At her afternoon break she can call her family and at night. simple.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 10 October 2013 - 18:05
If you have concerns about her using the Internet at certain times, or to visit dubious websites etc then you could buy a WiFi router that has a guest network in addition to the main one (most Netgear ones have this feature). The advantage of this is that you separate the devices you are using on your WiFi network from hers - no accidental sharing of stuff. You can also have the guest network automatically switch off at certain times. You can also block any websites you want as well.You can give the guest network a different password to your own. All without affecting your own use of the WiFi network and gives you lots of control. The Netgear WNDR3400 and 4300 definitely have this feature.
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EW OLDHAND
Latest post on 10 October 2013 - 16:52
haha, Arancher, exactly. I can tell her that, a late night babysitting will be to her advantage LOL
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 10 October 2013 - 16:29
Ours also has access to it and doesn't seem to be abusing it ! Perfect, so she can be on her smartphone/laptop while babysitting; the time will fly for her!
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EW OLDHAND
Latest post on 10 October 2013 - 16:22
Ours also has access to it and doesn't seem to be abusing it !
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 10 October 2013 - 16:11
The labor law does not mention the need for her to have access to wifi... It doesn't for me either but I can use it at work That is what I was going to say too.
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 10 October 2013 - 16:02
The labor law does not mention the need for her to have access to wifi... It doesn't for me either but I can use it at work
 
 

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