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Feel like such a bad mummy!

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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 04 May 2011 - 17:09

Had one of those days where my 3 year old DD has constantly pushed all the buttons. No matter what was said/asked of her she did the complete opposite. I also have a 1 year old who has been in one of those whingy moods. 4pm was the last straw. 3 year old completely threw a whobbler whilst 1 year old was sobbing not really for any reason. It all got too much for me so I put the 1 year old in her cot and I went and sat in the bathroom for (what seemed like ages) 30 seconds! Both were still crying. Composed myself then came out calm.
The fact that I had to do this makes me feel really bad as surely I should be able to cope. I don't often have days like this but still locking myself away is not good. Anyone else had days like this? How do you cope? Feel better now I have written it down, although 3 year old is currently winding 1 year old up! Off to stop the next whobbler!!

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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 05 May 2011 - 00:24
I lock myself up and have a good cry! Mother of almost 3yr old and 5 month old boys. Atleast you are better than me! *Sigh* <em>edited by hiccup on 05/05/2011</em>
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 04 May 2011 - 22:21
Shella - that is a standard issue "if I don't have a moment of peace I will regret it" moment! I had one of those a couple of weeks ago when DD (3.5) had woken up badly from a nap and was screaming, but it was dinner time, so she was screaming at the table and then for some reason DS (nearly 2) was also screaming and they were both refusing to eat a meal that I'd actually taken time to do - doing something a bit different. I'd had a long hard day with their whining and had already phoned DH to make sure he was coming home on time (to a backdrop of more crying), so yes, I went into my room, closed the door and flopped on the bed for 3 minutes, before re-emerging with a freshly applied smile and added patience. Deep breaths - it's only a day!
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EW GURU
Latest post on 04 May 2011 - 18:12
See? You survived another day and that's all that matters when they're little :D
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 04 May 2011 - 18:07
Thanks Ladies. Eldest in nursery tomorrow, so those days are normally much better! Janesul: I am always amazed at how they can change from such little horrors in a second. My 3 year old just said to me 'mummy do you know what I call you?' a little concerned at her response I said 'what do you call me?' 'mummy I call you my bestest bestest bestest friend!' Brought a smile to my face! We are on wind down now. Everything is a little calmer. Dinner (if a little burnt!!) and bath complete. Time for a book then hopefully an uneventful bedtime! Oh and then it's wine'o'clock!! Thanks again ladies.
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EW GURU
Latest post on 04 May 2011 - 17:42
That's an age old strategy that works! Removing yourself from a situation where you'd otherwise explode is a sign that you're a GREAT mummy not a bad one. There's no such thing as surely you should be able to cope. Anybody who tell you that they never reach the end of their tether has a very over active imagination. It's normal so don't beat yourself up about it. Some days are worse than others. In our house it can start at 6 in the morning and not stop until 7.30 at night some days. Winding each other (and me) up. I suggest that when they're fast asleep in their beds tonight you go and have a look at their angelic little faces and you'll be ready to start it all again tomorrow.
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EW GURU
Latest post on 04 May 2011 - 17:42
Been in the exact place as you Shella. Got a 3yr old and a 9.5 month old, both boys. I've walked away many times.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 04 May 2011 - 17:36
Thanks Guiness. It didn't help that when I had finished typing this I went to get dinner out of the oven, and it was burnt!!! Will maybe stow a magazine in the bathroom. Would be quite nice to read a whole page uninterupted! edited by Shella on 04/05/2011 <em>edited by Shella on 04/05/2011</em>
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EW OLDHAND
Latest post on 04 May 2011 - 17:31
First of all, everyone feels like that at some point, some of us more than others. I regularly go to the bathroom and lock the door for a minute or so (with a magazine handily stowed away!) when things get too much. And I also use walking away as a tool when my kids misbehave. I say, Mummy doesn't want to stay here when you behave like that, and I go into the other room. As long as your kids are safe, there is no reason not to (and about a thousand good reasons to) take a minute or so to yourself.
 
 

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